Direct or indirect approaches?

[Anonymous]

Direct is like: A guy comes up to you when you are alone walking in the mall and tells you straight up that he thought you were cute and continues with the conversation.

Indirect is basically a guy asks you for an opinion, direction, and then eventually starts a conversation.

(If I were to approach a teenage girl)

[JanJan]

9 times out of 10, the indirect approach would work better for me. If a guy walks up to me and tells me I'm cute and asks for my number... it's clear that he likes me strictlly because of my looks, which isn't very optimistic, because obviously he doesn't care about my personality. But if a guy and I had a good conversation about something, and then he asked me for my number, it would be clear that his interest was paritally because he enjoyed my company, not just because he thinks I'm cute. A direct approach suggests sexual interest, but an indirect approach also suggests social interest, which we need.

[udolipixie]

Direct or indirect approaches? Direct.

It stops a lot of time from being wasted for me because I can just reject if he's not attractive. With indirect approaches there's the societal expectation that I have to be nice as it'd be rude to ignore/leave someone asking for help or an opinion.

Both approaches convey solely sexual interest as you don't know me however direct is more honest and clear cut while indirect is deceptive and using societal expectations of niceness/politeness to force me to continue conversing with you until you convey the sexual interest otherwise I'm a b*tch.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

it doesn't matter, it depends on if I'm attracted to the guy or not. being direct can make you look like you're a player, but if that's what you are id rather know up front. indirect is fine but most of the time it's pretty obvious you're trying to approach anyway

[Anonymous]

You want to be sort of direct, but not direct the way you said. You don't need to tell her she's cute, its obvious you came up to her for that reason.

As janjan said, most girls want to imagine there's something beyond looks, so you have to pretend you care about her personality, or that you actually want to get to know her, and let her 'win you over' with her mind.

[May31]

I'd prefer indirect. It'd give me a good opportunity to get to know him a little bit. This might be harsh but if a guy just came up to me & told me that I'm cute & tried to get my number, I'd be more inclined to reject him &/or shut him down. - Nicely of course ;)

[rusiesq]

I generally prefer indirect at first, because it makes me feel more like the guy is legitimately interested in me-but that's normally if it's a guy in a class of mine. But if it were someone at the mall, I would prefer they said something flattering and then continuing with an interesting conversation, because then I would be able to still get to know them, but at the same time realize that there is the possibility of something more.

[glamphotog]

It's not the approach, it's how you deliver.