Why do I fail with every girl I like? My optimism has disappeared...

[Anonymous]

I don't know what's wrong with me but I keep failing with girls.

When I first meet girls they look so happy and excited that they just met me. However, after the first few days or dates talking to me I just blow. 5 cute girls... 5 dates in the last 2 month. Game over.

Turning 22 this month and never had a girlfriend. I blew so many chances in my life. Not ugly, just don't know why...

I feel so down and depressed right now that rejected all invites for the weekend and just going to stay home

[art84]

Cheer up dude, not every girl you date is gonna end up being your girlfriend. You just need to relax and think how can I improve my game with the next girl I meet. Girls love confidence so try working on that until your able to talk to girls and it will be like a walk in the park. Also your shy so yeah most girls wouldn't date a shy guy cause he might come across as boring and no fun to be around. Or you can try finding a shy girl since you are both shy since it would put both of you at an even playing feel. Your young so you have of years ahead before finding the right girl. Just meet people and stay positive even if you feel down. Lifes about taking risk, if you don't date then your never gonna find no one. You could try talkimg to a girl who is a friend and asking her advice since girls have a better understanding at how these things work.

[TooOldForThis5545]

Five dates in two months (with hotties no less!) sounds quite impressive to me. I haven't had five dates in the past SIX months myself, so I wouldn't say you're failing at all. It's possible that these girls just aren't feeling it for you (which you can't do anything about), or you could be doing something on the date to turn them off (which you CAN do something about). How do you act when you're on dates with these girls?

[sweet_18]

Seek help from someone you know who is close to you. Maybe they've noticed things about your personality and they can point them out and help you get on the right track.

If you have a friend who's a girl, even better. You are doing something wrong obviously, but the situation is not hopeless. You did say that you're not ugly. So it's definitely something you can fix.

Don't feel bad. I'm 20 going on 21 and have never had a boyfriend. So you're not alone.

Anyways., hope this helps.

And this is probably the nicest answer I've given in a good while. Don't know why. I should be totally pissed off because I just failed with a guy I've been talking to and felt like I was so close and we'd be so good for each other...yep. There goes that one..

So anyway, hope that makes you feel better.

[Andijoy]

you poor guy, you should keep your optimism and not worry about those other girls. What sorts of things do you do when you go out on a date with the girls?

[Asker]

I guess I am too lame, boring, shy etc. Classic dates... ice cream+walk, dinner, mini golf+dinner etc.

[haniya]

yup that is way too lame

[Asker]

Haniya what in your opinion is not lame?

[harveykinkle]

It's not too lame! Ignore her!

[Andijoy]

i agree! ignore her

[Anonymous]

your too conceited and unromantic that's y

[Asker]

very likely... very likely...