GREEN LIGHT: How do I let a dense guy know I'm interested?

[Anonymous]

I try to talk and hang out with my crush whenever I can, but my friends tell me he'll never construe it as me flirting with him since I'm generally friendly with most people, and he's also quite dense. It's true, I am quite extroverted with other people- guys and girls alike. But I'm not much of an outright flirt either. What's a big enough clue I can drop without having to rip his shirt off him?

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

In theory you should know the basics, if not, I'll run down the list real quick. Forgive me if I miss any. But yeah here we go. The usual things are just smiling, laughing, winking, playing with your hair, laughing at his dumb jokes, hitting him with endless compliments, and telling him he's cute or handsome or funny or sexy. Blowing kisses his way, if you wanna be a little cheesy. When you're near him, finding any excuse to touch him could help. His shoulders, arm, back, neck, leg, chest. Something like that.

Beyond that, the next step in things is posturing. Stand in ways that show off your body. Stick your ass out, or in ways that arch your back in to stick your tits out or at least accentuate your tits somehow. Sitting in provocative ways helps. Especially if you have a skirt. Things that draw his eyes to your legs but tease him in a way so that he ALMOST sees something. Which brings me to clothes. Skirts are fun, flirty and sexy. As are cleavagy tops. Stuff that begs him to look can help you. Also, if you want you could try getting dirty with the way you talk. Double entendres, and suggestive language, without getting outright filthy, but you could be filthy too if you wish.

If all this fails, then I would suggest just asking him out, or making your own moves, since he's clearly too stupid to make them himself. So yeah, if you get sick of waiting, just go for it, and do whatever. Ask him out, or kiss him, or get right to it. Something. Just don't wait to long, and don't beat around. No matter what, the worst thing that could happen is he could say no. If that happens, you can move on and get over him, and if you don't let it get weird, it won't.

Good luck with this guy.

[kholland65]

Ah another girl feels the ramifications of the perpetual female flirting. Today's man is transforming, because so many girls are hardcore flirting with everyone because its more acceptable. Now men have no idea if a girl likes them or is just being friendly/looking for attention. I hate to say it but if you're afraid he won't make a move, you have to choice but to ask him out on a date yourself.

[kheserthorpe]

If you're friendly with everyone but don't actually flirt outright, how would he know even if he weren't dense?

You either need to flirt in a BIG way or ask him directly.

[Anonymous]

Just tell him. If you can't do that, maybe you should find another guy to be interested in. How many hints will you throw out there? You know, if you were into black guys, this probably wouldn't be a problem. ;)

[Anonymous]

Grab is c*ck.

haha but seriously, just go up and ask him out! It doesn't always have to be the guy that makes the first move...

[Plinth40]

Is he intrested in you? Do what you would like a guy to do for you ask him on a one on one date where he isn't competing for you attention with other people, or having you being extrovert to get attention from others.