Constant rescheduling dates!

[Anonymous]

I've been seeing a girl for a few months, but she continues to reschedule our dates. It doesn't matter when we agree to set it up for, or when we decide to do it. A week ahead, a few days, or even earlier that same day she will cancel and ask if we can do it later. She does provide a later time to meet which we do end up doing, but the initial plans are frequently being cancelled!

The biggest issue is that I get a heads up on this change at the last minute. Sometimes right as I'm about to meet her. It results in my night being shot, other plans falling through, and ultimately me having to waste a later night making up for the first date. She doesn't go to school and her work schedule is light and constant; there's really no room for surprises as frequently as they have been occurring.

Is she actually interested in this relationship? Is she playing a game to keep me strung along, or testing my interest? We do have excellent chemistry when we meet, and she always wants to stay out later, but that meeting is getting more and more difficult to keep together! I feel like my time is being disrespected and am beginning to lose patience.

[Anonymous]

She is toying with you. She wants to see how desperate you are for a date.

She has zero interest in the relationship or you as a person.

The only way to win this, with some dignity, is when you make the next date, don't go. When she cancels, tell her no problem, you'd forgotten you were supposed to be meeting, or that you already had made plans because you knew she was a flake. Then dump her.

[sfauo]

Even though she does end up meeting with you, it's terribly annoying and not something a person who wants everything to go smoothly with you would do. Have you talked to her about it? Let her know that you're feeling this way and that it's threatening the relationship.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she really isn't interested in dating.

[Anonymous]

she could be playing games