Why do guys feel the need to insult you when you reject them?

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Like I honestly don't understand..I could be walking and I'll see these guys and they'll be checking me out up and down, and try to approach me with "whats up baby girl" and expect me to respond and then in the same breath, call me a bitch or tell me I have f***ed up hair. It's stupid. I would think if you thought someone was unattractive, you'd think that person would make the conscious effort not to approach you. I don't know why guys feel like women are obligated to talk to them. If we're not interested, we're not interested. Simple. So why do (some) guys do that? Defense mechanism or what.?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They're losers who try to act tough but really their ego is so fragile they need to find a way to regain their self esteem by putting you down. He's trying to show dominance by demeaning you because his ego is dependant on having all the women he approaches be receptive to him. Any woman that is not receptive to him is a threat to his self esteem and therefore must be verbally abused. Especially if his friends are around. Guys rarely act like this when they are alone or even just 2 of them, punks like this get tough in a crowd. I hate it girl, I specifically avoid groups of guys for this reason because there is a good chance they will act that way. (btw are they black? I always wondered if other races of guys do this or just ours)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What's the age-old wisdom about people who insult you? "They're just trying to feel superior to you/better about themselves."

Some people are insulted by rejection, take it personally, and then insult you to feel better about themselves and feel like they have power. But I agree that it does happen so much more often from guys than from girls, and I'm not sure why. I think you kind of nailed it with the obligation thing, some guys have a weird entitlement complex about women, like we owe them something. Might be from cultural influences.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It could be an ego thing. Like they took the rejection super personally, so to get back at that person, they use insults to deflect being rejected.

shyguyforever · Accepted Answer

They insult you because they feel like you're being rude and dismissive for no good reason, which maybe you are, in which case you may actually deserve to be insulted. If some girl makes a nasty face at me for approaching or says something vaguely rude I will be just as rude to her right back.

anon1111 · Accepted Answer

Very few guys actually do this, but for those that do it's a defense mechanism to shield their ego. Rejecting him effectively puts him "beneath" you. Pointing out your supposed flaws is his attempt to counter this and place himself "above" you.

Anonymous · Answer

What difference does it make?

If you understood why some men insult you when you reject them what would happen? Would you suddenly be overwhelmed with empathy so much so that you are no longer bothered by the the rude insults they toss your way?

sikoo31 · Answer

its not a guy thing yo, its a human thing.  generally and insecure a**hole/bitch thing.

antonlikesmlb · Answer

Cause they're mad.

Why do guys feel the need to insult you when you reject them?

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