Why do guys get mad when you reject them?

[Anonymous]

I rejected a guy friend who saw me nothing more as an object. I told him I didn’t want to “hangout” with him he got mad and sent a paragraph talking about his frustration. I don’t understand why he would get mad if he saw me as nothing but an object? How should I go about this?

[DaveJord]

The better question is, why do people get upset when you reject them?

You must understand that women and men are not the same, we never were, and we never will be.

Guys, get emotional and come across as mad or angry. They get pissy, load and frustrated. The do not like to be made to feel sad, and the get frustrated and then anger... and that anger just fuels a deeper sense of frustration.

Women, get emotional and they come across as heartless, uncaring and insensitive... , and then cry out of frustration for feeling the way they feel, and not even know exactly what it is they are crying about. Which amplifies their level of frustration.

For both the man and woman, the source of their anger or frustration... is the other person.

Why do "People" get frustrated and/or anger about rejection?

Because you hurt their feelings, Duh! Seriously, who is good with rejection? People that have never truly experienced it, or those that have experienced it so much that they don't even care anymore.

I am in the camp of those that doesn't even care anymore. I mean it never feels good, but you can get over it rather quickly.

How should you go about it this... block him. You told him no thank, he got upset, sent you a long-ass message. Now you should leave it alone and let him get on with his healing process. The more you keep trying to smooth it over, the more toxic it will be. I mean you said no. The end.

[Anonymous]

Sooo let me explain stuff through a guys pov. If you’re not that clear with your intentions and you say a guy is your friend well what do we do in life during our off time — meet friends, meet family. He’s thinking you and him talk, what’s the big deal let’s meet up. Sometimes girls don’t know what they want, sometimes girls don’t realize what they do might seem innocent but it might mean something else to a guy. I don’t think he views you as an object unless you were getting vibes he wants to have sex and by hang out he means alone that’s different then. But if I told a girl wanna meet up I would mean grab some dinner or go to a cafe. I get it, guys don’t take rejection well but I don’t think women and girls understand it’s not easy being a guy and as hard and tough as we want to act we want to be loved and appreciated even a little bit. Guys want to have girlfriends. Unfortunately, the cocky, bad boy type dudes will screw with a girl physically and mentally. The good dude who really really wants something to work will usually get the cold treatment. This is what I’ve learned and it’s the fact of life. Now sure, if you don’t see him more then a friend you gotta mention that. I’m not condoning his behaviour, it’s wrong and yes guys should handle rejection better. However, in fairness, there are girls who flirt and go on dates with a guy but gives mixed messages, dating world is messed up. If you want to clear the air with him in a civil sense then do so maybe the two of you will understand each other better then, good luck!

[Asker]

No he’s definitely an fboy. We would only hangout to smoke weed and he’s tried to make moves on me before and I would tell him no. So I didn’t really want to hang out with him because of that. So he got mad when I said no

[Opinion Owner]

ok thats different then, if he had those intentions then he's in the wrong, that ain't right, i try to give people the benefit of the doubt in situations but you clearly pointed out what his intentions were so you gotta move on and chalk it up as a bad experience.

[Biancam13]

Most people get mad or embarrassed when they are rejected. Us women do as well. Everyone does, even if they try not to show it. Rejection produces feelings of shame and can make someone act out in a number of ways depending on their level of maturity and their self esteem.

[Inge96]

Much worse to me is when I tell No, I am married and have kids and their reaction is: I am ok with it, so lets just have a sex, je doesn't need to know. It is soo much disrespectful. It makes me angry so much when guys don't respect my decisions.

[Flatmanlewis]

First, how does your ‘friend’ see you ask an object? Second, if you actually are friends this may be a case of you being a bad friend more than “guy angry at women because men objectify women, blah, blah, blah…”. What did his paragraph say? Are you one of those friends that maybe takes more than they give?

[Asker]

He’s a friend that’s tried to make moves on me. And, I didn’t want to hangout with him anymore because of this.

[Flatmanlewis]

So then it seems he doesn’t objectify you, rather he has feeling for you. I’m either way some people have a hard time processing rejection well. To me, rejection is just part of the game of meeting women if you’re a single man. Nothing to get angry about.

[blueonblack22]

He’s immature. Not all guys are like this. But unfortunately there are a lot of guys around your age group who are.

Please do not let this bad experience get to you. Some women will use previous bad experiences as an excuse to ghost or play games to unfairly mistreat other men who are not like that. Please don’t think he represents all guys because he doesn’t.

[Joshydavid25]

I never got mad with rejection.. More like sad.. But, I mean you never know what went through his head.. Maybe he actually liked you and didn't see you as an object, but didn't know how to go about it.. Or maybe he really wanted to get inside you cause he thought you were more challenging than the rest... Maybe..

[Paul09]

I've been disappointed. Not mad. And I do not right angry letters. Like people say, rejection isn't fun. Like how would you act to a bunch of rejections? That is if you even ask guys out. Oh and 1 experience like this, doesn't mean all men do it lol.

[Asker]

I would cry and move on

[Sour-rose]

Because you were "his" object? Also when someone is daring to spend time with you, they probably think that they gonna go farther with you. And when they don't... what da fu-

[Nikki1989]

That is just the guys with no other options.

[Sharkstealth]

I don't get mad. I get embarrassed because it takes a lot for me to even introduce myself. I did so recently and she wouldn't even tell me her name.

[boggboss]

Because nobody likes to be rejected they are just guys that have less self control

[Billlewis]

I don't get mad -- I just get really, really sweet ❤️

[LiamJHayden]

1. Lack of experience.
2. Wasting weeks or months building up to asking instead of being straight.
3. Having a thin skin that cannot handle being denied what he wants.

[sheikalana]

He's too emotional and doesn't know how to deal with rejection.

[jahaims]

It's how insecurity shows or they are emotionally immature and don't know how to process the emotions involved with disappointment

[elaphe]

No one likes to be rejected. However, if he just saw you as "an object," you made the right choice.

[KrakenAttackin]

How is he a "friend" if he saw you as nothing "but an object"? Have you been cock teasing him?

[Anonymous]

Same reason women go ape-shit when women get rejected. Seriously they react worse to be honest.

[Anonymous]

It's human nature. I have seen women behave the same. It's just you see it more with guys as guys approach more.

[Anonymous]

Probably because he feels entitled. But he needs to provide value he can’t just treat you like a sex object. That’s for later ;)

[Anonymous]

You attract guys that don't have options 😂🤣

[Asker]

What’s funny about that? If guys don’t want options then that’s their choice. Y’all weird.

[Opinion Owner]

They don't have options. They want options but don't have any options because they're not desirable. 🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

So what? Y’all make everything a joke. That’s why boys these days are insecure. He has tons of lady friends. So he has options and even if he didn’t that’s not a problem

[Opinion Owner]

"Lady friends" are women he wants to sleep with but they don't want to sleep with him. He has zero options.

[Asker]

I’m sure he’s slept with a few lol

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sure that's what he said to you. 🤣

[Asker]

It’s an assumption

[Unit1]

You rejected them duh.

[HouseMoat]

Same reason women do.

Noone likes rejection

[Anonymous]

Couldn’t handle rejections