Telling my girlfriend another girl/women is crushing on me?

[Anonymous]

I need some opinion as to whether my girlfriend is right about being mad at me. This week I went to buy a Car for a friend of mine, we bought the car. The seller was a lady, who is married according to what she told me. I did all the talking so she has my number, it's been couple of days that she has been texting me , finding different reasons to text me. Yesterday she was flirting as well. So when I was talking to my girlfriend yesterday I told her about that lady that's trying to hit on me lol. And she got mad and stopped talking to me. She said there I am always trying to get with other girls and that she thinks I'm playing her. (She caught me couple of times flirting with other girls before. )but I really like her, she is super pretty and fun to be around. So do you think I should have never told her about that married lady?

[TwinkleTwilight]

No I think you did the right thing...if you were trying to get with this girl you wouldn't have told her about it and it was only to cover your ass in case she seen a text from her. I'm sorry she is mad at you and just keep explaining it to her...girls are crazy we really are- but at least you were honest and she has to see that part. As for flirting before I could see that's why she got mad right away but didn't see the other side of it. We tend in situations like these to only see what we think and we never see the actual problem that can be easily fixed. You should never flirt with another girl while being with one though even though its fun lol- but at least it was only that. Keep texting her or w.e and tell her that you were only telling her this cause she was annoying you and you couldn't believe that a married woman was doing this and that you really like her (your girlfriend) and you wanted to be honest that this was going on so she didn't think anything. You can even throw in there that before you stopped talking to me you wanted to ask her how to make it stop, or help me tell this girl to back off. Even better if your really bothered by it cause your girl is mad- even though its fun your being hit on it makes you feel good block her number! and tell your girlfriend that. Make her understand that you really only want her and no one else and you'll do anything to prove that- if that's what you want and to me it sounds like you want your girl back. Good Luck!

[KryHeart]

No, I think the married lady should have never gotten your number or that you should tell her that it isn't appropriate for her to be texting you. If I was your girlfriend, I'd be quite uncomfortable with the situation, and depending on what degree I'd seen you flirting with other girls before, I might get pissed at you too.

Would you like it if your girlfriend was giving her number to married men and laughing about how they kept trying to hit on her?

When you're in a relationship, depending on how serious you want it to be, you are giving yourself to that other person. Your girlfriend has a "territorial claim" on you, so to speak, (and you have one on her) and as very competitive, petty creatures, we need you to respect that.

As to your question ("So do you think I should have never told her about that married lady?") the answer is definitely, "Yes, you should always tell her." If you have to question whether or not you should tell your girlfriend something, that in and of itself is being dishonest because you are trying to hide something. Honesty is probably the number one thing a girl will be grateful for and respect you for, even if what you tell her pisses her off. Finding out about it later from someone else will not just piss us off. It infuriates us because we end up feeling both embarrassed and betrayed.

[Anonymous]

If you really like her then why do you flirt with other girls? I guess "being a guy" would be the answer to that.

From my personal experience, my Boyfriend use to be the same way and it use to make me very insecure but I always kept it bottled inside because I was afraid of looking insecure to him. Then one drunken night, I dramatically said "How the f*ck do I know who you're f*ckin when you're out of town?" It's not that I thought he was cheating on me, it's that he never reassured me that he really liked me and I was the only one he wanted to be with.

I was expecting he would want to break up after that outburst but to my surprise he just talked it out with me and reassured that I have nothing to worry about and he would never cheat on me and he cares about me so much.

That's all us girls really want to hear, even if you show it through actions, its ALWAYS a must to say it too

So I think you did the right thing by being honest with her, it shows that you are comfortable enough with her , but I think you should reassure her that you really like her and wouldn't do anything to jepordize your relationship with her

[Ccrowde22]

No man, you did the right thing by telling her. Imagine if you didn't and she somehow found out? It would have been a lot worse. I've been in that situation before, and it does suck. Flirting is harmless, but chicks get really edgy about it when they catch you. My advice would be to keep flirting with other girls to an absolute minimum, and always tell her when a girl tries to hit on you so she doesn't think you are going along with it. If she gets mad when you tell her, say it wasn't your fault and you wanted her to know that you weren't going to do anything. If some married woman is on your ass, it isn't your fault, and your girl should understand that.

If explaining that doesn't help, try putting it into her perspective. Tell her that if some dude was hitting on her, you would probably want to know about it, right?

[TheUglyOne]

If you've flirted with other women in the past, she probably took it as bragging. Did you flirt back with this married lady? I can't really guess your GF's motives without more info.

Many women don't like when their guy brings up that other women hit on them. It brings up their own insecurities and does reek of insecurity in the man too.

Ordinarily solid couples can bring out the topic of other people flirting without feeling any of them feeling uneasy.

[LexiNinja]

Well I don't think you should have given or even taken the woman's number in the first place. Both you and her are in the wrong, especially with her being married. Maybe your sole intention wasn't to flirt with her or you probably thought it was on a mutual level, which is fine. But, I don't think your girlfriend has a reasonable reason for being upset with you, you even initiating the fact that another woman was flirting with you, shows you're open about it. Then again, you having prior history with flirting with other women raises a red flag. No wonder your girlfriends thinks you're playing her.

[vmw2008]

No, you were right in telling her, but if you have a history with this sort of thing it's not surprising she would assume you were flirting back. Lets be honest, you probably were, instead of politely ending the convo like you should have. The only way to keep her will be to apologize, and to stop flirting with other women. It's very easy to shut those sort of conversations down if you want to, but I imagine you don't or haven't been. Your girlfriend's reaction is telling me she's reached the end of her rope with this one. If you can get her to forgive you this time, it will probably be the last time.

[Anonymous]

it's not that you shouldn't have told her, it's that you shouldn't have let the situation get to where there was something to tell. you should have stopped replying to the messages right after the car deal was done and ended it with "it was nice doing business with you." or something along those lines and stopped replying after that. and you're saying you flirt with other girls and still ask whether she has the right to be mad? lol you're creating insecurities...

guaranteed if she acted the same way as you and went around flirting with other guys you would get mad and super possessive.

yes, she has the right to be upset if you're going around flirting with other girls and haven't stopped replying to some lad who's trying to get in your pants. karma's gonna bite you in the ass one day and then you'll know how she's feeling lol

[Grace00007]

Precisely. High five on that one!

[natalia19]

Well stop flirting with other girls, I know it's innocent for you but some girls don't see it that way,it takes 2 to tango.

Put your act together your girlfriend doesn't deserve it if I saw my boyfriend flirting I would break up with him in a heart beat

P.s You're kind of hot

[Asker]

Thanks (:. You're hot yourself too

[koolit6]

Yeah. You brought on this insecurity by flirting with other previously. Its not your fault this chick is flirting with you but your girlfriend has a good point. And its good you told her. It really doesn't matter that you did but just the fact she's no sure about this flirty aspect of you. Now if you stop flirting it might go away or it might not. Either way its mostly on her now. You should stop flirting with other chicks but hey if you wanna keep doing it well just do what you want to do.

[Cuddle_Muffin]

I think you did the right thing.

It is better than sneaking behind her back and getting caught. Just let your girl know she is the one an only...those other girls are lames.

"Beautiful girls all over the world, I could be chasing but my time would be wasted...they got nothing on you baby..nothing on you baby...They might say hi and I might say hey...but you shouldn't worry about what they say because they've got nothing on you baby." Nothing on you BOB ft Bruno Mars.

[bassman]

Tell her she shouldn't get mad at anyone. She should condsider another woman hitting on you as a compliment. At least a confident girl with a good attitude would think so.

[bassman]

Since she has caught you talking to other girls in the past...this wasn't a good idea on your part

[dominiquerjones2]

Yeah You should of told your girlfriend about the married lady. Because and a relationship You should keep no secrets. She also has a reason to be mad at you because you have a history of flirting with other women and she has a suspicion that you would cheat on her. You need to tell that married lady to stop contacting you unless it's business. Or get your girlfriend to do it. Just avoid the married women unless you want the situation to get worse.

[Anonymous]

Yup. You are a dumb ass dummy for tellin her