My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months and he really is so sweet and lovely, but I really hate it how he compliments me. I'm really pretty fat and my face is excruciatingly ugly and yet he insists on calling me beautiful, which I just find makes me feel incredibly awkward because I'm very aware that we both know it's untrue.
Don't get me wrong, it's nice to be complimented, it's just that I'd like it if it was something sincere. I know he doesn't really think I'm beautiful, but if he said I looked nice or complimented me on my hair or eyes or something I could maybe let myself believe it.
Please don't feel that this is attention seeking or say something about how all girls are beautiful, because even though most are but just don't realize it, there are some of us who aren't. The thing is I accept this and considering genetics (although admittedly not the weight) are out of my control I try not to get caught up about it, but his calling me beautiful just makes me feel worse about myself because it reminds me that no one will ever think that I am. Sometimes it makes me want to cry because it is such a delicate issue with me.
I don't want to tell him I hate him calling me beautiful because then he will feel the need to tell me I am and it will lead to one of those arguments where I deny it and he will have to insist I am, which is just awkward when it is blindingly obvious you're ugly. So how can I get him to alter the way he compliments me?
Please just tell me how I can nicely get him to stop without telling him directly or seeming rude because I know he's just trying to be sweet and also please don't say anything like "you're beautiful to him" because I'm not.
Don't get me wrong, it's nice to be complimented, it's just that I'd like it if it was something sincere. I know he doesn't really think I'm beautiful, but if he said I looked nice or complimented me on my hair or eyes or something I could maybe let myself believe it.
Please don't feel that this is attention seeking or say something about how all girls are beautiful, because even though most are but just don't realize it, there are some of us who aren't. The thing is I accept this and considering genetics (although admittedly not the weight) are out of my control I try not to get caught up about it, but his calling me beautiful just makes me feel worse about myself because it reminds me that no one will ever think that I am. Sometimes it makes me want to cry because it is such a delicate issue with me.
I don't want to tell him I hate him calling me beautiful because then he will feel the need to tell me I am and it will lead to one of those arguments where I deny it and he will have to insist I am, which is just awkward when it is blindingly obvious you're ugly. So how can I get him to alter the way he compliments me?
Please just tell me how I can nicely get him to stop without telling him directly or seeming rude because I know he's just trying to be sweet and also please don't say anything like "you're beautiful to him" because I'm not.
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He's real obviously, I don't think you can date someone just over the internet?
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is this like some internet bf? or a real one?