Are single moms really difficult to flirt with?

[martyfellow]

That's certainly been my experience; their responsibilities make them usually serious and not interested in bantering or playful flirting.

[ashez]

I am a single mom, and I can tell you that yes some of them are, but not all and so here is the low down on single moms and flirting.

1) Single moms when they have a chance to go out and have a night for themselves want to feel like they did before babies, so they enjoy the flirting but are cautious because they are wanting to find a potential father for their child(ren).

2) If the mom is with her kids then it is most likely she will not flirt back because bottom line is that her children will always be first, and she feels that the guy should respect that and the guy needs to put her kids first also, like a real father would.

3) A single mom has rules and standards and the main one is is that she will not allow a guy to meet her kids until at least a year of knowing a guy (this is so that her children are protected physically and emotionally) but usually the kids meet the guy sooner than the year mark.

4) A single moms standards change for a guy after she has kids. Why? Because they have to, so when a woman is single with no kids she can look at a guy and say he is cute, and fun, etc. but when a woman is a single mom she has to ask herself these questions

is he good with kids?

is he established enough to be able to take care of the family? (even if she is well taken care of and takes care of herself but she doesn't want to bring a man in that she has to take care of on top of her children)

is he responsible and mature?

how well does he get along with my kds?

bottom line though is when it comes to dating, usually the kids make the decision in the end, why? because kids know who they can trust and who they can't and if the kids don't like the boyfriend the moms life is even going to be more hellatious. the mom doesn't want her kids miserable and she doesn't want to be either. She mostly thinks of her kids when it comes to even the simplest things like flirting, because she doesn't want to see her kids hurt again,as well as herself, and her kids are her priority

[Prof_Don]

This is best-answer material right here. Thumb-up #1 for you (and many more to come once people read it)

[want2helpout84]

Interesting. I would say they are just as different as everyone else you cannot blanket them. I mean, what's wrong with ones that have made the decision NOT to have sex before marriage and also not to have kids with people that were not going to be around for the long term? I'm thinking this is sadly normal now. to have children with multiple guys...

Actually I don't mind it I mean it's their lives but... I'm getting two different views on this...

and I hope that she's good.

Appharently guys like you are the good guys so thank you! you don't mind if they have kids with someone els!

[martyfellow]

I've found that they are easier to get along with overall.

[Jbgurl20]

I think so. My two best friends are single moms, they don't just go out and flirt with guys like the way they used to when they still have no responsibilities with their kids. They are interested in serious relationships, not just for themselves but also for their kids.

[martyfellow]

Yes, my experience as well.

[HandsomeRaj]

Single moms buddy generally are one of the most hurt and / or resentful people. Reasons may be justified or not but clearly they are single cause they got pregnant with the guy cause they trusted him on various grounds and then for whatever reason and whoseover fault they are left to fend for themselves - that is reason 1

Reason 2 is they have a responsibility - that of the child who again must be going through various situations in life owng to the absence of a father and resulting temperaments of the mother. This makes most of them a very serious and cautious type before letting anyone into their lives who will inadvertently affect the child.

Reason 3 is they have already 'burnt' their fingers earlier and are not just super cautious with another man but also unwilling to trust easily. Flirting back or smiling or giving positive vibes to a flirtatious move is invitation :) Don't blame them or any woman for that matter cause most men tend to think in a sexual way for single women / moms while this woman will generally be looking out for not just a serious relationship but also a father for her child

There are exceptions to every rule and so are there here.

[madmisskelly]

I'm sure many single moms would be okay with it, but I can imagine that if she's got custody of her kids she is quite careful who she flirts with/dates because she needs to make sure she is not bringing home a ton of guys.

[martyfellow]

Yes, they always have to think about the effect on kids..

[madmisskelly]

Which I get, you don't always have the luxury of bringing someone home, and you have to be super careful who you introduce etc.

[ixi10]

I would think so

They have kids to worry about as well

[Z-Man]

& than there is the other side you have to take into effect... The ex husband!

[martyfellow]

Yes, they have baggage to deal with.

[boomshakalaka]

Create a family don't join one