Classy, innocent girls are intimidating?

[Anonymous]

Last night my boyfriend and I were laughing and joking around about stupid things we did before we were official. I was giving him a hard time and asked why it took so long for him to ask me out (we "talked" for about two months before he asked me on a date). He told me because "I scared the s*** out of him." Needless to say this answer confused me so I asked what he meant. He said, "Babe, you're classy, you almost never cuss, don't dress like a wh***, have manners. You're the most innocent girl I've met. Yet, you surprise me all the time by giggling at thats-what-she-said jokes and the looks you give. You're the girl who deserves a prince, and I'm no f***ing prince. So yes, you might tiny but you're intimidating as h***." But I still don't get how that's intimidating! Help? Do you agree or disagree?

[Anonymous]

I was that girl growing up.. I didn't think that most guys liked me and had no idea how many guys liked me until after high school.. Guys slowly came out of the woodwork, admitting they do or did..they still do (they now know I've been in a few serious relationships and I'm not as pure but still I'm still good).. A good guy doesn't want to change that about you.. but what he wants to do with you.. Is going to change you... Do things unpure, Lose your virginity eventually.. It does change you and people don't see you as as pure after and if you get your heart broken... It kills when you find out that someone you were falling for was in it for the wrong reasons (I dated a guy for 6 months when I was 16.. I was crazy about him and from the whole worlds perspective it seemed like he felt the same about me.. Lots of girls liked him and would make out with him etc.. I had only ever kissed 2 guys and they were ex boyfriends..I went to a teen club with friends for the first time and he was there.. We danced for a while.. Than he leaned in to kiss me.. I wouldn't make out but I kissed him we talked for 6 weeks before he asked me out (I was his first serious girl friend) .. He and I were considering losing our V-car to each other after 6 months.. I got concert tickets for us for our 6 month and the next day I thought he was coming over and tell me he loves me and we were going to lose our virginity to each other. He broke up with me.. Told me that he was only with me because he thought I was hot and he really wanted to sleep with me that he never liked me that much he pretended to, but he was starting to feel bad and all of his friends yelled at him and told him that you don't do that to a girl like me and that he was an idiot for breaking up with me.. (they all actually went up to say this to me separately actually) That was the worst feeling I've ever had.. But being seen as the girl saved me from feeling even worse..

[Anonymous]

I don't have much input to give her, but I'd just had to say that I always have to same thing with guys! I don't understand how they see it as intimidating, surely its nicer that someone who swears and can beat them down but...anyway. Perhaps they're just intimidate by something unusual.

[Roshell2009]

He paid you a compliment. He was saying he did not know how to approach you because you are not the normal type of girl he dates. I am glad he conquered his fear and approached you. I agree he stated the truth.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say that I agree, I don't find many people intimidating at all, but I can understand where he's coming from.

I think he just means that you seemed so well put together and morally strong that he didn't think he'd be good enough to meet your needs or for you to be interested in him, and so he was more afraid that you'd reject him and break his heart than anything else.

[Prof_Don]

SImply, he felt that you and him weren't going to be a match. That you would, based on your behavior, prefer a more wholesome, innocent, and clean-cut guy,

instead of a horndog with a plethora of vices like him. :)

[Jnr91]

What he means is you are the one he never thought he would get because you give off such a vibe, and that's what made him drawn to you. Love the compliment..

[Anonymous]

it may seem like you have a wall up and don't care about other people/are stuck up.