How do you get a girl to give you a hug?

[Anonymous]

I am a very shy guy and I am lonely sometimes I feel like I just need a hug it really helps my confidence out a lot when I get a hug because I don't get hugs that often.

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What should I do If I am too shy to ask a girl for the hug.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Find an excuse to hug them, don't wait for girls to hug you! Last week I was visiting my sister's college. I was just talking with her roommate and teasing her a bit. Right before we were about to leave, the girl asked me for my facebook email, as she wanted to keep in touch. I refused unless she gave me a "quality" hug, of which she thought was hilarious. I told her she "failed" on the first attempt and insisted she try again. Next time I told her it was "acceptable" with a big grin. Then and only then did I give her my email.

Girls like guys who are capable of being physically affectionate outside of expecting sex. If you feel good vibes for a girl, find an excuse to get her to hug you. Make sure they "earn" whatever it is you are doing for them with a hug. My free hug count over that weekend was about six or seven. Demand a hug with a huge smile and you can't go wrong. Silly girls, they fall for it every time! :D

[Asker]

What if I am kid of shy about asking for the hug or going about it. I really feel like I need a hug because when a girl gives a good hug it can make the worst day ever feel a little bit better.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Stop thinking about it and just do it. I am not kidding. It isn't like you are studying for an exam where you need to think it out before trying it. Most girls love hugs. You are doing HER a favor as well. Think about it, she may have had a bad day also and could use a hug. All the girls you know except for those who have suffered physical abuse or on the rare occasion don't let to be touched, girls LOVE guys who hug. Girls want hugs too! It isn't like you stole something from her. :)

[Asker]

I would not know what to say to her and I would not want to seem creepy to her if I don't know her very well.

[TheDigitalSaint]

Do it with the girls you know at least decently well at first. You know at least one girl in your life as a friend or someone you trust? Stop insisting there is going to be a problem. Girls like hugs!

[Asker]

I don't really know too many girls though. also what do you mean by methodical person?

[TheDigitalSaint]

Someone who seriously thinks things out before he does them. That is to say, you don't do a lot of things on random impulses that come to your mind. Do you know at least one girl? Start with your sister, your mom, your cousin, the girl at church. I'm sure you have at least one girl that feels you are trustworthy enough to share a hug. You don't get hugs, you share a hug.

[Asker]

I don't know any girls well It is really really hard for me to meet new girls that is another reason I need a hug it will make me realize she is a friendly person.

[TheDigitalSaint]

I hugged my sister's roommate of whom I didn't even know but for one hour. Unless she is acting very shy or grumpy, most girls will not refuse a hug. Tell me, in your own words, how did I manage to hug the roommate? I honestly met her only that once and hugged her the same day.

[coolman]

I'm a shy kind of guy too, problem is we don't talk much, that's the big difference. talking to a girl gives you a vibe about how friendly she is, if she seems to be enjoying the conversation/your presence etc... that's why shy guys find it difficult to get a simple hug, best thing I can think of is read help books on how to come out of your shell, comunication seems to open doors like so.

[Asker]

I don't know it sounds like it just happened to you. I just have serious social issues. I just can't talk to girls. I am so afraid to ask a girl for a hug but I really need one I really think a simple hug will make me feel a little better.

[TheDigitalSaint]

You need to address any social issues you may have by reading articles and books on how to be more outgoing. Once you find some solid advice, plus make a point of putting yourself in uncomfortable situations (seriously, to break out of your shell, you need to feel a little pain first!). It will hurt at first, but is worth it in the long run. Believe it or not, when I was a little boy I was so shy that I never talked to strangers. Period. People can change and that includes you.

[Asker]

Your answer seems great but what If I can't work myself up to ask her.

[TheDigitalSaint]

I have given you more tools than you need to work with. If you do not wish to invest the energy into taking action to reducing and eventually eliminating your social fears, I can not help you. The decision is ultimately yours. As the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. Until you want a hug more than you want to protect yourself from irrational fears, you will remain hugless. You're not happy now, so you have nothing to lose.

[Asker]

It is just such an emotional blow when I get rejected. I am seriously afraid of girls in a way.

[xxangel1990xx]

Ask for one! Lots of guys I know say "can I have a hug?" or "where's my hug?" it's casual and will get you a hug lol. But it also depends on the girl-some girls just don't do hugging whilst others like it, I just hug everyone all the time but I'm a huggy person but not every girl just gives out hugs to guys.

[Asker]

I wish I knew you then I really need a hug right now.

[aceofdiamond]

well, then make it casual. it all depends on how long you two have been friends. if you have friends for more then 6 months, then it is safe to ask. all you have to do is when you guys seperate, hug her. she will probably smile and hug you back.

[aceofdiamond]

just go for it! -hugz you- I know it is only a computer hug but still... I don't mind handing out hugs. just hug the girl. when you say "see you later" hug her. you might learn thatshe likes you!

[TheDigitalSaint]

"Where's my hug?"

That's a great line and works well. Three simple words. Say it with a smile and don't talk yourself out of a great hug. :)

[7elene7]

Hug her and she'll automaticaly hug you back, unless you're a stranger to her :)

[Asker]

What if I don't really talk to that many girls.

[7elene7]

Then start talking to them or hug the girls you do talk to :)

I think you need more confidence, try to build that up

[Asker]

Talking to girls and meeting them scares me though.

[SmileForPink]

If it scares you to talk to a girl, then it seems like you would be terrified to hug one. :/

You can't just hug a girl that you don't know very well.

Suck it up, grow a pair, and do what God made you to do... talk to girls!

You can't just come to us online and whine about being lonely when you're unwilling to do anything about it.

BUT YOU CAN DO IT!

We aren't animals, we WON'T BITE!

We really like it when guys talk to us, so grab a glass of confidence and drink up! (:

[Anonymous]

You should just slowly get closer to her and give her hints that you really need a hug right now😊I hope I was help

[ShyGuy2033]

Hi I just want to know what hints I can give her to make her want to hug me. I don't want to seem pushy, I just want a hug sometimes.

[hihellohola]

spontaniously!

[Asker]

Can you elaborate on that?

[TheDigitalSaint]

She means do it without a particular reason in mind.

Another trick I use is called the "hug attack". As with hugging girls in general, don't do this unless you know the girl as a friend, not just some random girl on the street.

If you're having a good time talking to a girl, just shooting the breeze, pause after awhile and just look her in the eyes for about two seconds. Then just get up, move your arms around her and yell "hug attack". Do it with a big smile.

[hihellohola]

Yes I'd go with the "hug-attack" haha

[TheDigitalSaint]

I can tell you are a methodical person. There's nothing wrong with that. Still, there are somethings in life that don't need to be hyper-analyzed. Hugs are one of them. You are talking yourself out of it at every step of the turn. I've given you two tips now on how to hug, apply them and don't worry about being "shy". How hard is it to hold your hands up and say "hug attack"? You can't seriously tell me that's going to kill you. It is in your mind. No more thinking. That's an order.

[TheDigitalSaint]

I have nothing more to say. Re-read my advice and take action. Remember, everything worth winning in life requires some risk. I hope and pray that you come to the realization that most women love an affectionate guy and that the few rude ones that deal with you harshly are not reflective of the whole. Take that to heart, I wish you the best.