Are You Attracted To An "Inexperienced" guy?

Question

I'm not just referring to sexual experience. I mean dating in general. I'm naturally a pretty shy/introverted person and whenever I do get the courage to approach a girl it always results in a friend zone... if not her already being taken or something. Anyway... I've never had a girlfriend, a kiss, sex, etc etc before and I'm wondering if any girls actually find that appealing. I've heard "Aww that's so cute" but I've never met a girl who genuinely found that attractive. Do any girls like that exist or are they all after the super guy who's "been there done that?"

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

well there's a difference between shy and awkward

but I really do think a guy who isn't so cocky and acts shy around you at first is so sweet. feels more genuine then a guy who acts like he already has you, like he's done this a million times.

everyone gets shy so seeing that is refreshing and feels like they actually care. says a lot about the guy and I can respect it.

i like when they aren't inexperienced, but don't exactly have a sh*t load of experience :p

i'd say I'm less intimidated by guys with no experience, just because I think they wouldn't expect as much and there's no one to compare me to ahha. it's good to know they're going to experience things with me they've never done with anyone else yet.

but yano everyone's different, all good. it doesn't change who I'd approach/be attracted to. it's more about how you carry yourself rather then how much experience you have

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend and I lost out virginities to each other, and quite frankly I'm glad I never lost it in all the other chances I've been given to do so. I'm happier with someone inexperienced, because then you both go through the awkwardness together, and they are unforgettable moments where  you laugh at the stupidest things in the world with the person you care most about. This guy isn't shy around people, actually he's quite the opposite, but around girls, especially me, he tends to get shy unless we're alone. Those moments which most would consider awkward (teaching how to unclasp a bra, learning what turns your partner on) are unbelievably special with a person you truly love. Hope this helps.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm gonna be honest, not really. Inexperienced guys tend to be really shy and on the passive side and that doesn't really turn me on like a guy who is more experienced would.

ImSoSozzled · Accepted Answer

Most girls want a guy who is experienced, but even if she did want you to be inexperienced, pretty much all girls want you to be the one to take control (especially if she is inexperienced herself). Obviously having more experience makes you more confident to do that, but even if you have no idea what you're doing, you've got to make the first moves or you'll be stuck like this for a while. The first girl I had sex with was pretty experienced and I just told her she wasn't my first and pretended like I had done it before.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I am also a very inexperienced guy and I have found that inexperience has been more of a turnoff for girls. They don't want to teach you the ins and outs of relationships, they want a guy to come with experience, to know what he's doing. She doesn't want to be the teacher to you. Or at least this is what I have experienced so far in my few brief months of dating (with different girls, not confined to the opinion of one girl).

confugirl · Answer

Well, if the first thing he mentions is his inexperience with girls, then it's a turn-off. You should never introduce yourself with your bad qualities. No one would hire you that way either. But if I ask about it, then it's kind of a relief really, because then he doesn't expect amazing sex the first time, nor does he expect me to be very experienced. So that's a good thing.

LilyTaylor · Answer

I myself am a virgin and I believe that I would prefer a more experienced man, sexually. There's some sort of appeal in a guy that will know what he want, and sometimes more importantly to the females, what she want's.

That being said it would be a different sort of experience, figuring it out together.

Now relationship wise?

It depends on the individual. Obviously as long as she loves him, it really shouldn't matter what his experience level is. To determine if a guy was relationship material based on his past would be childish, and unfair.

You sound sweet. And yea, 'aww that is so cute' but at the same time get out of your shell my friend! While your innocence may be sweet, a man who can take charge even if he is nervous is sweeter, in a different way.

1995girl · Answer

im inexperienced, so I'm generally into someone who also seems inexperienced, though I wouldn't want to seem like I'm interviewing him or anything. I would want him to at least talk to me how I talk to him

Anonymous · Answer

Girls prefer experience, I figured that out a long time ago which I used to hate but that was because I always assumed if I wanted to end up marrying a virgin girl that I wold need to save myself. But it works out for the better :), the more experience you get the better so win win and can still have what I want anyway

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, my boyfriend hadn't dated or anything until I came along. Of course I was in the exact same position with him. It was pretty awesome getting to experience so many firsts together, and to be honest I never imagined he was inexperienced until it came up on our first date.

Prof_Don · Answer

Some girl are, but I feel about 60% of the girls want to have a guy that has at least equal experience to her or higher.

You got 40% of the girls available to you; that's a sizeable amount to start from!

Francia · Answer

I am inexperience myself, but yes, I wouldn't mind dating a guy who is inexperience ... In fact, I find that kinda off cute.. If he is younger than me then no, no! But if he is my age yes, yes!

Anonymous · Answer

I know this is not the answer you want to hear but I would prefer an "experienced" guy because I'm already "inexperienced".

Tycho · Answer

I love that. I'm pretty "inexperienced" so to speak in all those regions, so it's pretty nice to meet a guy who's on the same "level" as you.

Anonymous · Answer

I actually prefer it. I think it's cute and it's refreshing to meet a guy that hasn't banged at least 7 different people :-)

abundantlyrich · Answer

you're probably in friend zones because you don't know how to seduce them properly

Anonymous · Answer

Dude I asked the same quistion and I got some way different answers

Anonymous · Answer

sadly most girls are not, they have a pre-selection mentality

Anonymous · Answer

No. Virgin guys irritate me. They are really clingy and are virgins for a reason. Not to mention they judge a woman's past way more than any other dude because they are bitter.

Vandal · Answer

Why would they be? Haha.

AlexNAVY · Answer

Salute, buddy!

Anonymous · Answer

Not really

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