Unreliable girlfriend or other?

[Anonymous]

So I thought I had a pretty good relationship with this girl I have been with nearly a year, at least for the most part. Whenever depression or such looms over me, she instantly avoids me which worsens my state and I have to deal with it alone. Yet whenever she has problems I make an effort and drive to her house, go to a nearby park and we talk it out.

So this is about the third time and she flat out told me that it made sense for her to avoid me while I seemed to be in a bad mood. Not that I'm aggressive or anything, I'm actually pretty melancholy and pensive. I understand that I'm not fun to be around during those times but for to text me she'll be there for me if I needed her and next day avoiding me deliberately, I'm just about wondering this relationship is worth hanging onto...

[PiscesEyes]

Ask her what about your depression makes her want to avoid you (in a nonconfrontational way) and decide before hand what you would like her to do during those times. Don't just say you want her to stop avoiding you. Be specific. You want her to call you, you want her to say something comforting, you want her to listen to your problems, you do or do not want her to offer you advice, you want her to watch a movie with you, etc..Then tell her what it is you'd like to see from her and if she is willing to go along with it or compromise. Also let her know how important it is to you, and that you're considering ending things if you can't make it work.

Give it some time and see if if she's making an effort. If she is, at least you know she cares. Then decide if its working for you or if you're not right for each other.

Hope that helped.