Interesting question
Never thought about it
Was reading one commenter says she don't like to hug every guy. I have a trick for this to avoid awkwardness
I face a girl holding my right arm straight out at a 45° angle from my body
If she wants a hug, I hug her. If she wants a handshake, I do it
The hello wave is still, admittedly, weird from this position but, I brush it off well
I've always been a bear hugger. I think a limp hug is cold and weird
A tight hug with its warm embrace, to me, is more intimate. And I think even totally platonic friends do still have a certain type/level of intimacy between them. Just not the same intimacy that automatically comes to mind for most people reading this. There's boy-girl intimacy, and there's boy-girl romantic intimacy
I think a hug is a hug. For the most part. Just because you hold your elbows at your sides and your hands to your chest doesn't mean the hug can't still have romantic intimacy. What if you're just freezin your tits off at the time?
I suppose the difference in intimacy is where he puts his arms on her and how long the hug is
Strictly friends
Hug is over in 0.5 seconds
Probably minimal grip, I still squeeze
Platonic friends
Maybe 1-2 seconds
Maybe a quick squeeze in the middle
Best friends/ain't seen you in a grip!
Better pack a lunch. It's gonna be a while
Hard squeeze for sure. This is love right here. No, not romantic love. I'll probably bruise or dislocate a rib or two
Acquaintance/friends and seeking romance
At least 2 seconds, could drag out to nearly awkward
Solid squeeze and the hands are usually lower. You won't be able to inhale.
Already in a relationship
There'd better be a serious tongue battle going on at the same time, dammit. So, the hug will last a while
Definitely going to be some cracked ribs and a few more dislocated
Even with a bro hug, I still give a quick squeeze but, that's that brotherly love thing.
The bro hug is more of a handshake with an added smash on the back of the shoulders though
I love how tiny chicks feel in my arms. I can feel the spine and ribs, the waist, I can feel her breathing. Hell, I can even feel her very life within her. It's kinda cool.
Plus, if I drop my elbows to where her waist is and give a quick, sharp squeeze, most chicks let out an involuntary squeak. It's cute as hell!
The only hugs I don't like, are from my friends' kids. I'm scared I'll hurt em. They're too tiny
And the little bastards always leave snot on my fuckin shirt, too. 🤦♂
I'm thinking.. ur cute.. most young girls are.. and although most guy's don't wanna admit it.. hugging cute stuff is the stuff they are made of... so... yeah.. you get us hiny huggled to death...
And about the big boob huggers.. yes they like to feel that... but that doesn't mean ur boobs are too small..
A real guy doesn't go for a set of boobs.. only the ones that are after something else..
A real guy just enjoys the closenss of a hug, and the comfort that comes with it...
And the longer they know you, and have that 'aww.. she's so cute.." running in their minds... yes the more huggy they get..
Maybe you can call it love, I don't know, but it's the love you get without having a relationship... just a nice moment..
And yes.. it's hard to tell the perv thoughtsies from the ones who just like to see you..
But that's with everything... for now I'd say be glad that they hugg you so tightly...
and who knows.. maybe the one you lookin for is among them.. that is.. if you dun have a steady hugger for that purpose yet..
BEARHUGS ARE GREAT !!! SPECIALLY WITH RAGDOLL CUTIES !!
Guys are just trying to send a message that they'd like to get to know you better. It's not usually about the boobs or anything like that.
It's true about the "cheap feel" thing that you mentioned because I have experienced that many times before ( I have large breasts) so, I don't hug men unless it's my man or relatives that I haven't seen in a long time. But, you don't have to have a big bust for men to hug you to feel you up, some guys want to hug women to feel her body tightly pressed against him that is something that can happen too if a guy likes you a lot and the hug can last a long time. sometimes tight hugs happen if your friends miss you and haven't talked to you in a long time, But if you see your male friends on a regular basis and the hugs are too tight and last a little too long and it's uncomfortable for you , you can always ask you friends not to hug you every time they see you. But, only do it if the excessive hugging is awkward or uncomfortable for you but, if you are a generally warm and affectionate person and like to hug everybody then just go with it. You are blessed with friends who love you!
I think it depends on there relationship with you because my guy friends do this with me and I have a deep emotional connection with them and I think they like how it feels to be close it may be just a sense of security and they like holding you especially one time I was crying my guy best friend hugged me tight for like 20 min and I think it was a very safe secure gesture on his part and I mean I feel a lot of girls and guys like getting hugs from the opposite sex anyway I think it's just comforting
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I need to be squeezed to death by hugs. Feels better that way.
I know! My (then) boyfriend did the same thing. Also, when I would open the front door to let him in, he would grab me around my neck and pull me into the apartment. I told him to quit doing that, my head isn't a football. He was too rough with me. He picked me up once straight up with his arms around my bottom and I went way up high. It hurt and I screamed for him to let me down. 5:00 the next morning I was lying in bed, and all of a sudden my entire body broke out in hives! He got his cellphone and made a video of me to show my doctor. My doctor said I have Mast Cell Activation Disorder. I would break out on my insude wrists too.
Be gentle with us!
If I hug someone tightly I usually have a strong relationship with her. It's not because I want her breast against me. I am showing how much I care for them. After my late wife died I had a good friend that she would hug me tight and I would hold on to her just as tight. We are friends that love each other. Not in a sexual or relationship sense. My best friend I call my brother we will shake hands and hug each other as tight as we can. I love that guy. But again not in the sexual or relationship sense. And some guys don't realize exactly how hard they are hugging someone unless we get told. Or you could have friends that like you more than just a friend and it's a way to get close to you.
When I sleep i hug a pillow, pretty tightly and pillows dont have "boobs", well not in my bed anyway. It probably means for me i love my mother and she gave me tight hugs so when I get hugged i want that same thing. A hug is supposed to be a squeeze. When my niece hugs me she practically cracks my spine. She is also pretty strong. I think you might be reading into the hug too much. Best way to find out, after a tight hug ask why he did it. I am open with all the women i know. So if one asked me why did i give her a tight hug, my reply would be, its the kind of hug i prefer. But if it makes you uncomfortable I won't hug you anymore. All you need to do is ask.
I just want to get closer. Whether it's a platonic, cathartic hug, or something more intimate, my attempt to reduce proximity is a sign that I want to be close to you.
If he's pressing in at the hips, he's probably into you. If he's holding them back, he's probably aware of the message it'd send otherwise. If he feels pretty relaxed down there, and is focusing on the hug, it's likely platonic.
Sometimes we I don't realize it and I have been told that I give tight hugs. Some liked it and others were indifferent. No on said they didn't like it. Actually some of the tightest hugs I've every gotten were from girls.it's like they didn't want to let go. Soft hugs and handshakes are so disrespectful in my opinion
Well, I am single now, but when I was with my ex girlfriend, she usually compained that I hugged too hard. I didn't do it for boobs or anything - I liked to feel her close to me. I don't know why. It's weird. But I definitely have a bone cruching hug.
I don't hug people at all if I don't love them. By love I mean, can tell them by deepest secrets, can know they are there when I need them, can call them anytime (in middle of night if there is an emergency like my friends know they can do to me if they are in trouble) and can make me laugh and comfort me when I am sad. It takes me about a year to love someone, so by that point, yes I am super comfortable with the person and will give them tight hugs to show them I care. :)
Guys are just rough when they give hugs. The closer a guy hugs you, the more he feels for you, either as a person or romantically. That being said, feeling a girl's t*ts is not a undesirable side effect of close hugs, so that is a significant secondary factor in the equation.
Personally it has nothing to do with boobs. I think it’s more just a guy thing. Guys also have firm handshakes with one another and we are trying to feel the other man’s knuckles or palms it’s just a masculine thing I guess. Same with hugs, I think maybe soft hugs are for hugging elderly but tighter hugs are for the rest maybe? I just never put much thought into it
Hugs are tools to get to second-base with you via our chest. Also, if you hug a guy from behind, he will try to find a way to get your boobs to press harder into his back. Yes, sometimes we do things a little rough without meaning to, but generally we know exactly what we are doing.
I rarely hug other women and when I do I keep some distance because it is respectful but with my wife I wrap her up I try not to squeeze too hard but sometimes I do because I love her so much and that emotion translates into physicality so I squish!
We're just trying to feel you up with our chest.
But, seriously, we don't all squeeze hard. One of my best friends loves my hugs BECAUSE I squeeze so hard and she complains about her last boyfriend's "hugs" which were not much more than him touching her back for a second or two!
Because we are like the Hulk and we don't know how strong we are :3 and plus we want to smash you ;)
I've never noticed a guy do that, but if you're a petite girl then I can get why they would want to squeeze you, because petite girls are just so squeezable. But otherwise, I agree with the breast thing... Maybe they do that just to feel your boobs...
I don't even like hugging.
Being hugged by someone with big boobs is pretty comfy though.
Wait, what the fuck? I just realized the people who like to hug the most (from my anecdotal experience) are girls with big boobs. Coincidence? I think not.
Idk😂 there was this guy i knew and thisbwas a longtime ago but he liked me b4 and then later on since i didn't like him he claimed to have not liked me anymore. And one day outta no where he just picked me up and hugged me sooooooooo hard. And i was like what was that for😂😂😂
In my opinion, it could two options.
#1) It's a sign that the guy essentially doesn't want to let go of the relationship.
#2) It's so that he can get closer to you [physically]. Not in a pervy way, just a "I like holding you in my arms" type of way.
Inside every woman, is a little girl who just wants to feel loved and protected. Squeezing is more a patriarchal leftover from childhood where we received that and understood its reassuring. It's our role in society to be the protector so we squeeze.
It's not about the boobs...
It's because
1. We don't realize how fragile you are, and how strong we are...
2. We don't get many hugs and it's a nice feeling to hug a cute girl... It's emotional comfort
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