I don't have any problems attracting women initially. I've been told that I'm very very attractive. I think this is true because the hottest girls, wherever I'm at, often linger around me - at the library, bars, parties and girls stare at me every day, throughout the day (so I think this is true). So I meet a lot of attractive women regularly.
But I SUCK at interacting with women (and people in general). I have a high IQ and am intellectually "gifted" so have always had troubles relating to people. I'm a pretty awful conversationalist and just can't find myself genuinely getting into the details about someone's day. I can't tell awesome or emotional stories, I don't find goofy things funny, I can't get beyond boring polite chitchat because I just look at the world differently. I feel like I know what someone is going to say and why they are saying it before they are even done the sentence. To further make the point, when I get tipsy I naturally want to talk about deep-ish topics and debate a bit, but I have yet to meet a women who would put up with this, so I tone it down a lot. This leaves us with boring polite chitchat that neither of us can really get into.
And I'm not nervous or shy, which makes women think I not very interested when I actually am. It doesn't help that women expect so much from me and I have no room to screw up (because of my looks). I'm expected to be some smooth extraverted schmoozer - the life of the party.
And now I don't even know how to move forward with a girl. I feel like I'm boring and can't give them quite enough for them to say yes to a relationship with me. Even when a girl is really encouraging and obvious, I don't even know where to take them on a date or want to do because I'm afraid of being boring. Any ideas? Because if I can't get the conversation going well, girls tend to get to insecure.
I haven't had a good relationship in a long time. It's a tough life.
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