alot of people are saying it doesn't matter because nothing ever happened but I understnd you100%. from personal experience I'm still struggling it took me an entire school year to get over him and I'm telling you that you will notice one day how much effort you wasted trying to be his friend but he put no effort into it so he's totally not worth your time. I was very close friendswith this kid but he liked me before we even knew each other and would ask his friinds if he knew me and when I found out I told my friend who was also his friend I didn't like him like that. overall though he was a really nice kid. astime passed hispersonality was so sweet and I totally fell for him he told me he loved me and I was the best thing that ever happened to him. I knew he meant it and he really showed it. He never had the guts to askmeout thoughhe attempted several times but it never worked. We just kept getting closer as friends andwe figured we both had strongfeelings for eachother. we never officialy went out but people considered us as dating. We weren't though we were both very shy and to scared to ruin our friendship so we kept it as something like friends with strong feelings. he made me feel amazing and we were so happy in eachothers presence. Over time the feelings somewhat faded and things got weird. we stopped talking. we never said hi or bye and everyone said how he still liked me but something got messed up. one day he imd me and told me everything how he was sooo sad and missed talking to me and how he even cried for me. I thought we could be friends because thaTS how much he meant to me. for a week we were friends and then he started dating my bestfriend afyer everything he ever told me and he knew how much I liked him. I wondered how so easily he could forget me she started making him stop talking to me and he became a total ass only talking to me when she wasnt around then making out in my face. I texted him one last time telling him how happy he made me but I knew I didn't mean the same to him. he gave me a simple 7 word answer to my 5 page text. it hurt so bad. I didn't only lose my first love but also a bestfriend. he told people he still liked me and when he saw me with other guys he would get jelous and would come and try and be nice. but I'm pretty sure he totally forgot me now. we never talk mabey once a month. I miss being his friend. it wasnt until last friday I officialy got over him. I still love him somewhere in me but he's a waste of time and became a majore asshole. I wish the old him would come back but it won't .one day he will notice someone really loved him. Let him go girl. your wayyy to good :]
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This does sound confusing!
A few questions, though...If you don't care then why do you keep trying to talk to him? Why do you keep asking him if he's with other girls? Why are you taking precious time out of your day to type this out and ask us?
It's obvious that you do care, and I think it's scaring him because it shows and he seems quite confused about his feelings too. If you do not have a crush on him, you REALLY need to stop acting like it. Because reading this, that's what it sounds like. The truth? You sound jealous, love. It doesn't matter how a guy acts. If he doesn't call you his girlfriend, you are not his girlfriend. Just like any relationship; friends, family, lovers etc - if one person is upset, you back off, let them cool down and come to you. If they do not, then that's the way it is, and you're better off without them. It sounds bad, and I know it hurts A LOT, but that's what you've gotta do for yourself. When guys get confused about their feelings, some of them get angry. The anger comes from not really knowing how else to express themselves. He's conflicted, but he obviously cares for you. Even I'm not too sure if the feelings are platonic or romantic. All I know is that you guys need some space from one another. If he asks for it, please...just give it to him. Stay away and let him come back when he's ready. Being pestered into talking can annoy anyone. The next time he approaches you, very calmly say something like; "I've been leaving you alone like you've asked. But I've been really hurt and confused by your actions as of late, and I would really not like for it to happen again. Maybe we should talk." And then you should sit down and discuss things in a non-yelling manner. Try to find out where you stand on the whole " I love you" situation, because I think you are BOTH confused as to what it means for your relationship. Don't sweat it about the other girl. Making a big deal of her will just create more drama. You can dislike someone without being rude or mean about it. Everyone adds everyone on Facebook! C'mon. Add her back and don't talk to her. Whatever. Don't act like kids. What if she wants to make amends? Who knows! Be the bigger person, here. Whether he is your best friend or your boyfriend, you should be able to talk to him about how you feel. But if he is not your boyfriend, he does not need to answer to you, honey. Who he hooks up with or dates is his own business. Just try to respect that space.
You deserve SOO much better than that if he is willing to say that to you and blow you off he is not even worth your time! He is just a jerk and deserves someone just like him so he can understand just how it feels but do not let him get you down or keep you down if he does get you down. Live your life and let him see that he hurt you at all make him wonder is she over me does she think about me still it is the easiest way for him to wonder and for you to move on and just have a great life Good luck and I wish you the best
I can understand why he is acting that way towards you. This was posted three months ago so I don't know what the situation is now. For what it's worth I think he really did like you at one point or another. Men think of women as investments. It seems like he has invested into you and didn't get a pay off when he tried to express his feelings for you. I think he might not want to be friends with you anymore because it would remind him of what could have been. What happened after all that I can't really account for.
i'm kinda wit some answers already here, in the sense that if nothing ever happened between you two, why do you care? Uck 'im...lol find some friends who'd actually care about you. If you take this from a friend, imagine a b/f...focus on more important ish in life.
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tell his girlfriend what he did to you and maybe if she has any common sense to dump the ass, she will.
don't be confused.
it doesn't really matter, he's moved on now. so you should just find someone who will appreciate you.
he sounds manipulative and inexperienced at relationships or he never planned to make it official but he's denying it so he looks better.
don't let guys have what they want until they commit and they say they've made it official. the guy sounds like an asshole, no offenseUm, he sounds like a confused jerk.
She's trying to add you on Facebook to keep tabs on you, because you keep contacting her boyfriend, that should be obvious to you.
He's not accepting or denying you because he doesn't want to p*ss both of you off.
Is it that hard to see that he's attempting to bat for both teams here? He wants to keep you around, but if he doesn't push against you it looks bad to the girlfriend.
Or maybe I'm wrong and he's just a Drama King..
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