Questions: Flirting

I was talking to a female acquaintance , and she was telling me about a past crush .. she described him as , tall, broad shoulders, has a nice car, handsome and '' smokes cigarettes''.

This last one caught my attention.. so I wanted to know.. is a guy lighting a smoke in front of you .. or just holding a cigarette in his hand .. make him look more attractive in some way .. or may be appear more mature?

Would a girl would be happier to share an alpha male than to have a beta male all to herself? Other species do this. In a less obvious way, humans already do this too. Some guys get so many girls. Most guys get no girls or very few girls, no matter how many girls they approach. Also, I’ve noticed that even not-very-attractive girls often seem angry/offended if a beta male approaches them. Do you think we give beta males false hope by presenting the idea that every guy will get a girl eventually if he just tries hard enough? I’ve approached so many girls of so many different ‘types’, and I’ve had no success.

I think in a few decades outright polygyny will become the norm. Most guys won’t be able to get a girl (they’ll stay celibate, or resort to prostitution, which will probably be legalized in many areas of the West where it isn’t already legal). And most girls will share an alpha male. I think the sexual revolution, the decline of religion (and its taboos), and other factors since the 1960s have made this inevitable.

Personally though, I don’t think this change is bad. I think most girls feel bitter about settling for a beta male. The fact that most girls are willing to go through so much pain to be with an alpha male, if the opportunity arises, shows that it’s really only taboo that prevents widespread outright polygyny. And most guys feel overwhelmed and embittered by the demands of the dating game, to which they’re just not suited. The only thing stopping outright polygyny at the moment is negativity. Few people make a positive case for monoamory. It’s always a negative case against polyamory. And negativity always loses out in the end.