I feel a bit bad I always worry about what to make my boyfriend when he comes and today he told me that I can’t cook?

[Anonymous]

Today I made Mac and cheese knowing that he likes Mac and cheese and I also made chicken and broccoli for my family and for my boyfriend. And everytime he comes every week i usually try to make him something I've made him tofu nuggets with ramen, pasta, broccoli omelette, sandwiches, fried chicken with pasta and stuff and there have been times that he’s liked the stuff but sometimes he complains about the salt or there not being enough salt he’s a picky guy and he cooks well himself. About what I cooked today he told me that the Mac and cheese was too bland and then i asked him “so then I can’t cook?” And he said “no! no!” That made me feel very bad and embarrassed. I’ve been making an effort for him and I really don’t think that I’m a bad cook my little brother always likes it and my boyfriend also said that the pasta i made that day was very good. I’m a bit surprised by his answer and I feel a little bad because it took hours to prepare everything :(

Updates

1 y

After answering no that I can’t cooky parents shortly came after and he went to the bathroom and just left me in the living room. He said that my Mac and cheese didn’t taste like Mac and cheese so being the overthinker that i am i kept on asking him questions

Updates

1 y

We spoke about it he said that he meant to say that I wasn’t a bad cook and he also said thank you for the food. I felt a bit embarrassed though

[NamerOfStars]

Have you made it for him before? If so, was something different this time? Different brands of ingredient, or you left it in the oven too long, or something? If so, that may be the issue; if not, it may be that he's not used to it being made the way you made it. Saying it that way was kinda rude of him, but one the best lessons life will teach you is to not get too worked up in offense at what people say. Romantic or otherwise, ALL of your interpersonal relationships will be happier if you stop and think what a person means when the say something that upsets you. Think of Mister Rogers. ... Who died almost before you were born. "Hmm, a massive worldwide rise in fear, distrust, and hatred? Nah, they don't need his guidance anymore."

Stupid God.

Anyway- it's very nice of you to be cooking for him at all; all the more so in a way that takes real time and effort. You mention that he cooks himself- perhaps you could do it together then- have a cooking date. Learn one another's favorite foods and how to make them. Maybe go to the library, flip through cookbooks, find some things that sound tasty, and try to make them. That way you can build yourselves up together without making it into a fight.

[Wiredone]

Don't let it get to you. He is just so used to his cooking. He has to either adjust to other people's ( yours included) cooking or always cook for himself. It was a little rude of him to respond that way. You should tell him how you feel about his response. You need to communicate with him and tell him your feelings.

[Wiredone]

What questions did you ask him and how did he respond?

[Asker]

I asked him “ can I not cook?” And he said no twice

[Wiredone]

I got that part. I'm referring to your update. You said you kept asking him questions.

[Asker]

I just kept on asking him if I was a bad cook and he told me that I was still learning stuff like that

[Wiredone]

Thank you for the mho

[SnakeBoop]

Then plan meals together.
Watch some cooking channels and read some recipe books.
There's so many ways you can better your knowledge.

[Asker]

I feel like that was just rude. I accidentally left my Mac and cheese in the oven for too long because I was trying to clean up it wasn’t burnt or anything just crunchy and the oven was turned off but it still dried up all my sauce

[Asker]

I had watched a YouTube video since I didn’t grow up making Mac and cheese and I left it in the oven with the intention of keeping it warm (the oven was off by the way) but it kept cooking which I didn’t know would happen

[SnakeBoop]

What was rude? You're the one having a meltdown over mac and cheese..

[Asker]

He told me that I can’t cook

[SnakeBoop]

You said yourself you're hit and miss with cooking skills.

[Asker]

I don’t think I’m bad

[loves2learn]

If he’s gonna complain about your food he can cook from now on. Problem solved. I am glad he apologized.

[Asker]

To be honest it was kind of my fault for asking lol. Yesterday was a bit tragic since I got the sauce perfect and it dried up rip to the Mac

[loves2learn]

Awww. That is unfortunate.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think if I had a girlfriend who cooked, I wouldn't be mentioning how it tasted
when you love someone, you don't say things also remind him that you tend
to overthink things, but then just let things blow over, see I eat anything that
doesn't eat me first LOL

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@pink_and_inlove I can show you what to do with that Mac n Cheese, now this is
for people who eat meat.. Take and brown ground beef and make sure it's done
and add to the Mac n Cheese... Just save it for me and I will eat the whole thing
🥰🥰🥰 😋😋😋 🤣🤣🤣 🤗🤗🤗

[Surely]

Everyone’s pallets are different.
He should be happy that you are willing to try to cook. If he doesn’t like something that you make, He needs to tell you what you need to do differently the next time. Not just copping an attitude.
Maybe using a different or sharper cheese the next time.

[Pink2000]

well how do you make your Mac and cheese if I may ask?

[Asker]

I kinda learned how to make it from black you tubers

[Asker]

I just was careless today not knowing that it would stay cooking itself even if the oven was off

[Asker]

So like from his video but I made a careless mistake https://youtu.be/-xBqJ0bsN3o

[Pink2000]

Was it too dry or burnt or something?

[Asker]

It came out dry I made all the sauce perfectly for the first time and it all dried out since I left it in there for too long I was cleaning and also cooking other stuff as well so I got a bit distracted I’ll make it better next time

[Asker]

I wish we Dominicans had Mac and cheese in our culture lol

[Pink2000]

Well that’s tuff. It’s so easy to dry out.

[Still-alive]

he could've been wayy wayy more tactful about it yeah.

[Asker]

He said that no I meant that i can cook but I think he’s lying do you think so?

[Still-alive]

ok that makes more sense and what i thought he originally meant tbh but he didn't explain. i think he likes and encourages your cooking but i guess this one time the mac n cheese didn't taste so great to him.

did you ask him what he thought or did he just tell you without you asking?

[Asker]

I asked him

[Still-alive]

ok yeah when you ask you gotta be prepared to hear things you might not like. but you can't be too upset about it. if you think you will get upset or won't like what he --might-- say then don't ask is my advice.

[Asker]

It’s fine he explained he said that he didn’t mean that I couldn’t cook and he appreciated it

[Still-alive]

yes i see. but just in the future just remember this if you need to ask his opinion on something.

[Andres77]

He sounds spoiled to me. When you go hungry for a while you tend to appreciate every bite of food, even if you did get it off someone else's tray or off the floor.

Good luck with that whiner.

[Gwenhwyfar]

He loves your cooking overall he just thought that one dish wasn’t perfect. He still shouldn’t have said that though.

[Tunasub]

Well maybe ask him to cook with you so he can show you how he likes things prepared.

I think he could have had Abit more tact when saying that.

[Tunasub]

Aww did you give him a big hug and tell him to have his way with you? Kidding. Glad things worked out.

[PaynefulPleasures]

This boy has no respect for you plain & simple ✌️

[Asker]

He said that his no meant that I wasn’t a bad cook

[PaynefulPleasures]

Well hopefully he'll be nicer

[red_knight]

Don't let it make you feel down

[Asker]

Wasn’t if rude though? I don’t think I should make him anything again

[Asker]

I don’t think I want to cook for someone that always almost always finds something wrong with my food

[Asker]

I took my time to make that stuff

[red_knight]

Yes he was rude. I'd also not cook for someone that did that