Yep. I never trust women who talk bad about someone else. I've known plenty of women that the moment I met them, they were talking about someone else negatively, even if it's something really subtle. If she talks trash about someone else, she will talk trash about you
It's funny how on my way back home, I randomly was thinking how cruel us girls can be, and then I came across this take as soon as I got home. Great take! :D Sorry you had to deal with all those fake female friends. As a girl I have done something unethical to my best friend back in the 5th grade. I secretly stole her brand new pens 😂 Guess what, karma got me back! A few years later, a girl would borrow my gel pens and she wouldn't give them back to me. I love gel pens by the way, so it really sucked for me. I'm cool with female friends, but I wouldn't trust them so much. I want female friends but not best female best friends.
Women are just nasty towards men , sometimes even nastier , there are lots of rabid man hating women too. Personally I've found that girls / women tend to form much closer friendships with each other than guys do , men don't tend to form close friendships , yet we can beat the shit out of each other , then still be mates afterwards. We are very differently wired to you ladies , I also disagree with some comments by guys , it IS possible for a hetero man to be just friends with a woman , it does depend on the situation.
that's why i think guys are much closer. i literally call my best friend a cock sucker, slut, faggot, bitch made pussy, dick head, etc every chance i get and he doesn't give a shit. 2 of my other really good friends are girls and they do call each other bitch and stuff, but not nearly as mean to each other. and when they do, the one being called names actually cares.
I'm getting the whole "I'm better than everyone else" kind of vibe from this. I'm not exactly surprised that keeping female friends is an issue for you. People just don't enjoy being around that.
I would suggest becoming more self aware. Try seeing yourself from another person's point of view because I'm sure it'll open up your eyes a little. Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought you look amazing and then took a picture of yourself and didn't look nearly as good? It's sort of like that. I'm just saying that the person you think you are and the person you actually are can be two totally different things.
Depends on what you mean. The hotter ones are usually more narcissistic, pretentious, and arrogant. But you do have girls that are generally considered unattractive that think unduly highly of themselves. And as far as girls who like male friends for all of the above, be honest. You don't see a low drama thing, you see a pushover, an ass kissing pet who'll do anything for a chance to either date you or get in your pants. Girls who do that ought to be ashamed of themselves, not so much for guys trying to f*** you, but the former.
Just because you had a bad experience with the girls from your school does not mean that the entire female race is like that. Yes some girls are rude, but some guys are assholes too. The fact that you look at girls with such a judgmental view is why you don't have any girlfriends. Instead of analyzing there entire personalities get to actually know them on a deeper level and you'll be surprised. I love having girlfriends because my girlfriends have always had my back, they stuck with me through everything, and they've always been loyal to me. They're some of the only people I can go to without feeling judged. I honestly think you are just being closed minded and stereotypical and need to start looking for girlfriends that you can trust.
Tbh, Men gossip and instigate more than women. Women just probably act on the gossip more often. Men are also more full of themselves. Men also talk shit just as much. They just know how to brush things off more rather than retaliating verbally in a sense that creates a huge scene. All of these things have been proven in studies.
Either way, all humans starts shit and perpetuate it.
Maybe it's because I work in a tech field but most men I know don't gossip much. They give each other shit a lot but they don't take it very seriously. I worked a temp job one time where me and a couple other guys would joke around and razz each other, and this girl we worked with was around a lot and kind of thinking of her a buddy a made some teasing comment about something she said and she just freaked and got so upset the manager called everyone up front to see what the problem was.
Guys are competitive and bitchy but they will say it in your face and girls will spread hell behind your back. I am not true friends with any gender as the girls wanted something and the guys were careless. However having said that both genders can be kind people, just got to be at the right place. 😊
I'm often more comfortable around guys because they are more laid back and accepting, however I have not had terrible experiences with girls like you are explaining. I have a few girlfriends who I think are angels on Earth and I admire and trust them greatly.
You do get the fact that you're being sexist about your own sex, don't you? After all you are a woman and if your take is right then you are just like what you mentioned. There are bad and good people regardless of their gender. What you're saying is not only unfair to every woman out there but to yourself too
Ikr! Yeah women are more competitive against each other because of patriarchy and all those men saying patriarchy doesn't exist shut up with your BS. You don't have to worry about who is the most sexiest, prettiest, the most cool or chaste, likeable or 'wife material' and the list is so on, among men that is why women bash each other up!. And no guy friends aren't always so good, because first of all men and women can rarely be platonic friends. For eg if I start discussing sex with a guy like in detail, will he really be able to see me just as a friend? and will he really give the true relationship advice I need? Most guys are like " forget it, move on" because guys bottle up their feelings and deal with it on their own on the other hand I need to talk about it and they can't understand why I am behaving the way I am. Moreover who will I talk to about clothes, girl problems, etc. You need a GIRL friend for all that.
And most of the time in my experience guys have only been friends just to get in my pants. Being friends in a group is something else but a one on one friendship with a guy is HARD. Guys never forget you have a XX chromosome, like I will be in a group of guys and I might forget I am a girl and be like ' one of the guys' but they never forget I am a girl, they don't discuss their personal problems in front of me. In my view, they have a close knit group in which they don't let girls enter really and they do judge you but they aren't as open as girls. So should I also create a MyTake on how all men are pigs who just think about sex? Stop with the generalisation and pick girls wisely and don't trust anyone blindly.
That's so true. She is offending her own sex. No she's not special and if she really believes what she wrote then she is exactly that drama queen. I'm tired with the whole BS that guys are cool and girls are drama. No. Stupid and bad people do exist regardless of gender
Not all those things are true I mean I do care if people lie to me that pisses me off but everything else seems spot on and guys compete too we just compete in different ways like in sports and if we both like the same girl we can compete against each other too. In every middle and high school there is always at least one Vergina George lol and the dumb girl in the group, the one who will do anything to fit in and the girl who joins in the group not knowing what atrocities face her with those groups she hangs out with.
That's one category of girls you are explaining. Unfortunately they are many, yes.
If all you say about yourself is true, then you are indeed unique. That's what our world needs or at least desires or wants. More supportive people are always appreciated.
But you should also keep in mind: Guys can also be cruel in some ways. It's not gender specific and also not origin specific or something. It's the common mass in which an individual becomes one.
Great! Another self woman hater. Females will never have equal rights because women hate women smh and if we hate ourselves we don't support each other (to get equal right). This is why I hate being one, I still support women though. Shame
@ShayanMortazavi How tf am I a moron for stating facts? You're the idiot. Yes we have most of those right but people that does those jobs (where a women is going the same thing men do sont get paid the same amount) dont follow the non sexist rule. The entire world is sexist. Women are seen as hoes for sleeping around as men are seen as better. If a woman wants something better, she's seen as a man hater. Feminist that are fighting against unfairness is seen as man haters. Women are excepted to change their last name (they grew up in home and taught to do it so they do). Women dont have control over our bodies when it comes to abortion, they're judged harshly. We're blamed for getting raped. The list goes on. And person with eyes and common sense will know that
Women do get paid equally to men, it's just that women tend to go for lower paying jobs. And abortion is murder. That's another persons body, not yours.
@ShayanMortazavi @ShayanMortazavi It's told that women are supposed to get paid equally but the bosses that give the paychecks aren't doing it right
In case you're simple minded---->A fertilized egg is NOT an individual. It is a blastocyst and it has a high probability of being expelled from a woman's body (40% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, most before a woman even knows she is pregnant). People who insist on "personhood" for a fertilized egg are the ones who are fools. These, by the way, are the same ones who support cuts for food stamps, WIC, housing and energy assistance, maternal care, and Head Start. You know, the things that help living, breathing people.
@ShayanMortazavi Lmao being Black has nothing to do with be being from Africa. I never been to Africa therefore these's nothing to go back to LMAO. You're idiotic lol. And you started it with me. Should've kept your crap to yourself :). Racist like you amuse me. You all look stupid LMAO
@CapricornSwagL Ah, the gender wage gap myth again? The reason why men on average make more than women is because, ON AVERAGE, men have higher paying fields. Men are more likely to go into fields of mathematics, science, etc. Where as women are more likely to go into English, Arts, etc. So therefore, men make more than women.
A man and the woman with the same job AND experience should make roughly the same. I know teachers are hired on on an equal paying scale for sure.
@EnglishArtsteacher I wasn't talking about that. I am talking about where men and women are doing the SAME job and somehow the men gets paid more for it. doesn't seem very fair to
EXACTLY, they SHOULD be getting paid the SAME but somehow the men are getting paid more. Hmm, wonder why
Recently a woman on here was complaining about how she was getting paid less for doing the same job as the men in her job was doing. People gave her terrible advice. Saying forget about it, quite, dont say anything, be OK with it, it doesn't matter. and more. It's disgusting
Maybe you're looking for friends in the wrong place. I am attractive and my best friend is awesome. I also have friends in uni and they are great girls as well. I've had bad girl friends and bad boy friends and the opposite
There are different types of attractive though. Where I am from while getting from point a to point. literally almost every guy is looking at me in a sexual way or trying to get my number. It's plain annoying half the time. Not every woman gets attention like this.
I'm sure there are decent women out there I haven't found them yet. I wish I did because often times I get lonely or want another woman to relate to me. It's way easier for me to make male friends , I don't even have to try. I'm kind of over it though, I've accepted that you don't always get what you want and perhaps I'll never have a loyal female friend.
I know attractive girls can have friends it just has not been my luck
The only thing I disagree with in this article is that she concludes every girl is that way. Although my experience Is similar to hers I haven't met the whole female population so I cannot say that.
Guys are just as bad to one another. You rarely see girls friendless, they always manage to find a clique. Guys are cast out and can never find friends and be alone. Guys beat one another up. Guys gossip about girls and who's bad in bed or ugly. Guy friends can turn into guys who want to date or be friends with benefits.
It's easy to get advice from the opposite sex that I agree on and not hitting on people you like.
I always had the same problem but then I found better friends as I got older... You will see things differently as you age, I am now friends with a great girl who I knew when I was 14 but I was the fickle one. We are now best mates and I trust her with my life and vice versa...
It will change and your perspective in 10 years will be totally different. Trust me as I have been where you are :) x
Guys are nice and chill with you because they want you to like them and eventually sleep with them. Very few guys ever wanna be just friends with girls they like. In fact that's there worst nightmare and hence the most infamous and loathed term "friend zone".
That's not true since guys don't like every single woman they meet. And u can't say that my guy friends are sweet to me just cuz they want me to sleep with them
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Yep. I never trust women who talk bad about someone else. I've known plenty of women that the moment I met them, they were talking about someone else negatively, even if it's something really subtle. If she talks trash about someone else, she will talk trash about you
Exactly.
It's funny how on my way back home, I randomly was thinking how cruel us girls can be, and then I came across this take as soon as I got home.
Great take! :D
Sorry you had to deal with all those fake female friends. As a girl I have done something unethical to my best friend back in the 5th grade. I secretly stole her brand new pens 😂
Guess what, karma got me back! A few years later, a girl would borrow my gel pens and she wouldn't give them back to me. I love gel pens by the way, so it really sucked for me.
I'm cool with female friends, but I wouldn't trust them so much.
I want female friends but not best female best friends.
Women are just nasty towards men , sometimes even nastier , there are lots of rabid man hating women too. Personally I've found that girls / women tend to form much closer friendships with each other than guys do , men don't tend to form close friendships , yet we can beat the shit out of each other , then still be mates afterwards. We are very differently wired to you ladies , I also disagree with some comments by guys , it IS possible for a hetero man to be just friends with a woman , it does depend on the situation.
that's why i think guys are much closer. i literally call my best friend a cock sucker, slut, faggot, bitch made pussy, dick head, etc every chance i get and he doesn't give a shit. 2 of my other really good friends are girls and they do call each other bitch and stuff, but not nearly as mean to each other. and when they do, the one being called names actually cares.
I'm getting the whole "I'm better than everyone else" kind of vibe from this. I'm not exactly surprised that keeping female friends is an issue for you. People just don't enjoy being around that.
I would suggest becoming more self aware. Try seeing yourself from another person's point of view because I'm sure it'll open up your eyes a little. Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought you look amazing and then took a picture of yourself and didn't look nearly as good? It's sort of like that. I'm just saying that the person you think you are and the person you actually are can be two totally different things.
Depends on what you mean. The hotter ones are usually more narcissistic, pretentious, and arrogant. But you do have girls that are generally considered unattractive that think unduly highly of themselves. And as far as girls who like male friends for all of the above, be honest. You don't see a low drama thing, you see a pushover, an ass kissing pet who'll do anything for a chance to either date you or get in your pants. Girls who do that ought to be ashamed of themselves, not so much for guys trying to f*** you, but the former.
Just because you had a bad experience with the girls from your school does not mean that the entire female race is like that. Yes some girls are rude, but some guys are assholes too. The fact that you look at girls with such a judgmental view is why you don't have any girlfriends. Instead of analyzing there entire personalities get to actually know them on a deeper level and you'll be surprised. I love having girlfriends because my girlfriends have always had my back, they stuck with me through everything, and they've always been loyal to me. They're some of the only people I can go to without feeling judged. I honestly think you are just being closed minded and stereotypical and need to start looking for girlfriends that you can trust.
Tbh, Men gossip and instigate more than women. Women just probably act on the gossip more often. Men are also more full of themselves. Men also talk shit just as much. They just know how to brush things off more rather than retaliating verbally in a sense that creates a huge scene. All of these things have been proven in studies.
Either way, all humans starts shit and perpetuate it.
Suuure... xD
Shall I site my sources? (^_-)
@AleDeEurope
Yes please :)
Maybe it's because I work in a tech field but most men I know don't gossip much. They give each other shit a lot but they don't take it very seriously. I worked a temp job one time where me and a couple other guys would joke around and razz each other, and this girl we worked with was around a lot and kind of thinking of her a buddy a made some teasing comment about something she said and she just freaked and got so upset the manager called everyone up front to see what the problem was.
@kxera I'm interested in seeing these sources also, if you don't mind.
Sorry for my late response. School has me tied up. @AleDeEurope @chuppachup @zagor Everyone's different, but statistically, men do gossip more. The place of and style of gossip is what typically is different. Men probably don't recognize some of their conversations as "gossip" when it fact, it still is gossip. I originally got my information from teachers and actual social scientists first hand, but here are some articles about the studies done: www.dailymail.co.uk/.../...ssip-women--survey.html www.telegraph.co.uk/.../...n-women-poll-finds.html timesofindia.indiatimes.com/.../7633849.cms jezebel.com/.../study-finds-more-men-gossip-than-women ns.umich.edu/.../792-boys-gossip-just-as-much-as-girls-study-shows www.globalenglishgroup.com/.../men-gossip-more-than-women You can credit or discredit the information if you want. I really don't care. As far as I'm concerned, people in general gossip.
Guys are competitive and bitchy but they will say it in your face and girls will spread hell behind your back. I am not true friends with any gender as the girls wanted something and the guys were careless. However having said that both genders can be kind people, just got to be at the right place. 😊
“On one issue, at least, men and women agree: they both distrust women”
H. L. Mencken
True
I'm often more comfortable around guys because they are more laid back and accepting, however I have not had terrible experiences with girls like you are explaining. I have a few girlfriends who I think are angels on Earth and I admire and trust them greatly.
You do get the fact that you're being sexist about your own sex, don't you? After all you are a woman and if your take is right then you are just like what you mentioned. There are bad and good people regardless of their gender. What you're saying is not only unfair to every woman out there but to yourself too
Thank you! She's very sexist. It's weird because she's a woman herself smh
Ikr! Yeah women are more competitive against each other because of patriarchy and all those men saying patriarchy doesn't exist shut up with your BS. You don't have to worry about who is the most sexiest, prettiest, the most cool or chaste, likeable or 'wife material' and the list is so on, among men that is why women bash each other up!. And no guy friends aren't always so good, because first of all men and women can rarely be platonic friends. For eg if I start discussing sex with a guy like in detail, will he really be able to see me just as a friend? and will he really give the true relationship advice I need? Most guys are like " forget it, move on" because guys bottle up their feelings and deal with it on their own on the other hand I need to talk about it and they can't understand why I am behaving the way I am. Moreover who will I talk to about clothes, girl problems, etc. You need a GIRL friend for all that.
And most of the time in my experience guys have only been friends just to get in my pants. Being friends in a group is something else but a one on one friendship with a guy is HARD. Guys never forget you have a XX chromosome, like I will be in a group of guys and I might forget I am a girl and be like ' one of the guys' but they never forget I am a girl, they don't discuss their personal problems in front of me. In my view, they have a close knit group in which they don't let girls enter really and they do judge you but they aren't as open as girls. So should I also create a MyTake on how all men are pigs who just think about sex? Stop with the generalisation and pick girls wisely and don't trust anyone blindly.
That's so true. She is offending her own sex. No she's not special and if she really believes what she wrote then she is exactly that drama queen. I'm tired with the whole BS that guys are cool and girls are drama. No. Stupid and bad people do exist regardless of gender
This is what she was talking about
@Usaname what exactly?
Not all those things are true I mean I do care if people lie to me that pisses me off but everything else seems spot on and guys compete too we just compete in different ways like in sports and if we both like the same girl we can compete against each other too. In every middle and high school there is always at least one Vergina George lol and the dumb girl in the group, the one who will do anything to fit in and the girl who joins in the group not knowing what atrocities face her with those groups she hangs out with.
That's one category of girls you are explaining. Unfortunately they are many, yes.
If all you say about yourself is true, then you are indeed unique. That's what our world needs or at least desires or wants. More supportive people are always appreciated.
But you should also keep in mind: Guys can also be cruel in some ways.
It's not gender specific and also not origin specific or something. It's the common mass in which an individual becomes one.
Great! Another self woman hater. Females will never have equal rights because women hate women smh and if we hate ourselves we don't support each other (to get equal right). This is why I hate being one, I still support women though. Shame
Name one right that American men have that American women don't
@ShayanMortazavi How tf am I a moron for stating facts? You're the idiot. Yes we have most of those right but people that does those jobs (where a women is going the same thing men do sont get paid the same amount) dont follow the non sexist rule. The entire world is sexist. Women are seen as hoes for sleeping around as men are seen as better. If a woman wants something better, she's seen as a man hater. Feminist that are fighting against unfairness is seen as man haters. Women are excepted to change their last name (they grew up in home and taught to do it so they do). Women dont have control over our bodies when it comes to abortion, they're judged harshly. We're blamed for getting raped. The list goes on. And person with eyes and common sense will know that
Women do get paid equally to men, it's just that women tend to go for lower paying jobs. And abortion is murder. That's another persons body, not yours.
@ShayanMortazavi @ShayanMortazavi It's told that women are supposed to get paid equally but the bosses that give the paychecks aren't doing it right
In case you're simple minded---->A fertilized egg is NOT an individual. It is a blastocyst and it has a high probability of being expelled from a woman's body (40% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage, most before a woman even knows she is pregnant). People who insist on "personhood" for a fertilized egg are the ones who are fools. These, by the way, are the same ones who support cuts for food stamps, WIC, housing and energy assistance, maternal care, and Head Start. You know, the things that help living, breathing people.
@ShayanMortazavi Lmao being Black has nothing to do with be being from Africa. I never been to Africa therefore these's nothing to go back to LMAO. You're idiotic lol. And you started it with me. Should've kept your crap to yourself :). Racist like you amuse me. You all look stupid LMAO
@CapricornSwagL Ah, the gender wage gap myth again? The reason why men on average make more than women is because, ON AVERAGE, men have higher paying fields. Men are more likely to go into fields of mathematics, science, etc. Where as women are more likely to go into English, Arts, etc. So therefore, men make more than women.
A man and the woman with the same job AND experience should make roughly the same. I know teachers are hired on on an equal paying scale for sure.
@EnglishArtsteacher I wasn't talking about that. I am talking about where men and women are doing the SAME job and somehow the men gets paid more for it. doesn't seem very fair to
EXACTLY, they SHOULD be getting paid the SAME but somehow the men are getting paid more. Hmm, wonder why
Recently a woman on here was complaining about how she was getting paid less for doing the same job as the men in her job was doing. People gave her terrible advice. Saying forget about it, quite, dont say anything, be OK with it, it doesn't matter. and more. It's disgusting
I have the same experience you do unfortunately.
I'm still trying to see if that loyal female friend will ever come...
I'm a very attractive woman and the few friends I have had, tried to compete with me or throw me under the bus because they hated I got more attention
Maybe you're looking for friends in the wrong place. I am attractive and my best friend is awesome. I also have friends in uni and they are great girls as well. I've had bad girl friends and bad boy friends and the opposite
There are different types of attractive though. Where I am from while getting from point a to point. literally almost every guy is looking at me in a sexual way or trying to get my number.
It's plain annoying half the time.
Not every woman gets attention like this.
I'm sure there are decent women out there I haven't found them yet.
I wish I did because often times I get lonely or want another woman to relate to me.
It's way easier for me to make male friends , I don't even have to try.
I'm kind of over it though, I've accepted that you don't always get what you want and perhaps I'll never have a loyal female friend.
I know attractive girls can have friends it just has not been my luck
Getting from point a to point b *******
The only thing I disagree with in this article is that she concludes every girl is that way. Although my experience Is similar to hers I haven't met the whole female population so I cannot say that.
Just remember that the ideal guy best friend will probably start developing feelings for you.
Whether or not he confesses those feelings is totally different lol
Awesome.
Guys are just as bad to one another. You rarely see girls friendless, they always manage to find a clique. Guys are cast out and can never find friends and be alone. Guys beat one another up. Guys gossip about girls and who's bad in bed or ugly. Guy friends can turn into guys who want to date or be friends with benefits.
It's easy to get advice from the opposite sex that I agree on and not hitting on people you like.
I always had the same problem but then I found better friends as I got older... You will see things differently as you age, I am now friends with a great girl who I knew when I was 14 but I was the fickle one. We are now best mates and I trust her with my life and vice versa...
It will change and your perspective in 10 years will be totally different. Trust me as I have been where you are :) x
Guys are nice and chill with you because they want you to like them and eventually sleep with them. Very few guys ever wanna be just friends with girls they like. In fact that's there worst nightmare and hence the most infamous and loathed term "friend zone".
That's not true since guys don't like every single woman they meet. And u can't say that my guy friends are sweet to me just cuz they want me to sleep with them
Trust me I am a guy I know. Men and women can never be just friends.
And that's where you're so wrong mister.
Not true. I don't know about other guys but I personally see my female friends as like siblings so I'm not sexually attracted to them.
this video right here explains it all:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=91SlnIVDFso