Why I dislike hanging out with most women

[buttheadkakakak]

I know the title is a little off, but it's what this is about, obviously. It's really simple. I don't hang out with my gender much anymore.

Just think about what it's like hanging out with girls. Drama. Jealousy. More drama. Self confidence. Slut shaming. Even more drama. Crying. Betrayal. Rumors. Gossip. So much drama.

My mom asked me why I never wanted to talk to any of the girls throughout school. I told her that it was because none of them wanted to talk to me, and that was true.

I'm not a Slut. I'm not a loner, geek, nerd, freak, burnout, or 'victim'. I just don't like being persecuted for everything I say like a KKK fanatic in a room full of African American people. Girls never liked me, so I never liked them. That's all.

[DanHart]

You just need to stay away from the mean girls.

Just yesterday I overheard a conversation between 3 girls, they must have been 18 to 20, at a Starbucks in Frankfurt and while I was drinking my coffee, I heard really nasty things.

They just gossiped about other girls, about guys, then they talked about what to text the guy they think likes them - Luckily I can literally smell such girls from miles away and stay away from them, I would never come close to them.

As to drama : "Oh, no, my entire life is a drama and I want attention for it from you "

It's not a matter of gender in my opinion, it's a matter of maturity rather.

The mean girls also all show a certain pattern of body language and facial expressions. Actually they have low self-esteem (that's why they gossip - to feel better about themselves) , I believe they are really bad people in reality

[diamondhair]

Well said. Completely agree.

[DanHart]

@diamondhair you could also rephrase your question to the opposite case - stay away from the childish guys who don't know how to invest their time in you and who don't make it clear what they want from you. Stay away from the "bros" who use you or mess with your feelings - they are the equivalent of the mean girls ! Unsurprisingly, bros usually end up with the mean girls... but let them be... this means less trouble for genuine people like us... No one has time and nerves to get involved in drama

[diamondhair]

I'm not the asker, just a random who agrees with you! Haha

[DanHart]

One more aspect from a biological perspective - many girls compete against each other by gossipping about other girls' looks - to decrease their self-esteem so that they are out of the game when it comes to attacting a potential mate. Nonethelss, it's more a matter of character an maturity - a girl who is okay with herself is the best thing anyway - she feels great and I feel good around her and vice versa : )

[MargaritaPeach]

Amen to all of that. I grew up in a rural area working on a farm... the only girl, surrounded by 5 brothers. So I didn't hang out with girls or even have much exposure to them except for school and church. When I did start hanging out with girls in high school, it amazed me how dramatic and petty some of them were. It blew me away. I hung out with guys just because I could relate to them. Good times, no drama. You can ask a guy how he feels or what is going on and get a straight story every time. No gossiping, no backstabbing, no 'I changed my mind over breakfast'. Just the truth.

[Azara]

THATS BC THEY WANT TO FUCK YOU SO THEY ARE ACTING NICER THAN THEY WOULD WITH EACH OTHER, OR YOU, IN 30 YEARS. I NEVER HEAR WOMEN OVER 25 SAYING THEY can't STAND WOMEN AND PREFER MEN, ITS BC MEN ARE NICE TO WOMEN THEY WANT TO FUCK.

IM NOT SAYING MEN ARE ONLY NICE IF THEY WANT TO FUCK. IM SAYING IF YOU WWERE A GUY YOU WOULD NOT FEEL THE SAME ABOUT WOMEWN BC WOPMEN WIOULD BE NICE TO YOU BC THEYD WANT TO FUCK YOU.

PEOPLE ARE JUST NICER TO PEOPLE THEYT ARE ATTRACTED TO. you'll REALIZE THIS IN 10 TO 30 YEARS OR SO.

MEN ARE PLENTY DRAMATIC ANBD JEALOUS ETC., PEOPLE HAVE THESE TENDENCIES. THE MORE DECENT PERSON KEEPS IT CONTROLLED.

IM ALSO NOT SURE WHY YOUD POST THIS SAYING HOW PEOPLE HOLDE IT AGAINST YOU., NO ONE WAS SAYING ANYTHING UNTIL YOU BROUGHT IT UYP. MAYBEV YOU POSTED IT BC you're UNSURE OF YOUR POSITION.

I MEAN 'MOST' WOMEN. WHAT DOES THAT EVEN MEAN. THERE ARE BILLIONS OF WOMEN IN THE WORLD. ITS SEXST. YOU can't GET AROUND THAT. you're A SELF HATING WOMAN--AD NOT BC YOU DONT LIKE STEREOTYPICAL WOMAN BEHAVIOR, BUT BC you're DECIDING IT EXISTS AND THATS HOW YOU SEE WOMEN.--AT LEAST you're PRESENTING YOURSELF THAT WAY.

I DONT THINK YOU CAN SAY WOMEN ARE THIS OR THAT WAY BC THERE ARE MEN WHO ARE THAT WAY AS WELL, AND VICE VERSA. ITS THE FACT YOU WANT TO SAYIT.. THAT COMES FROM BIAS.

SORRY ABOUT THE CAPS, MY KEY IS STUCK. IT WAS NOPT MEANT FOR EMPHASIS.

[buttheadkakakak]

Perfect job showing everyone why I hang with guys

[buttheadkakakak]

Also I reread this; it isn't sexist to have a preference

[Rawrzz]

That stuff doesn't exist as much around men, because they want to fuck you, so they're playing nice. Well, extra nice. There are still a lot of guys who are into the drama, jealousy, more drama, and the opposite of slut shaming. More drama. Punching and kicking and biting (arguably less desirable than crying). Betrayal. Rumors. Gossip. Really, actually, I'm pretty surprised at how often I've encountered males gossiping and spreading rumors.

We're both human, ya know. Though, I can dig it. I would love to have my own harem around.

[ShepherdOfFire99]

True.

[Cookies_AndMilk]

I prefer hanging out with guys to girls. Guys are just easier for me to get along with. They're just awesome people and I have more in common with them than with women. Most girls I meet are uptight and honestly I think they're stupid. lol. I don't keep many friends simply because I don't need them. There's only one girl I call a "friend" and I don't even keep up much with her.. She's essentially like everyone else and I'm starting not to like her lol.

[buttheadkakakak]

Exactly how I feel, but I'm getting attacked by the butthurt girls on here because of my preference

[Cookies_AndMilk]

I don't see why. Those same people will attack someone else for not liking another person's lifestyle choice because it doesn't affect them yet here they are doing it to you lol.

[buttheadkakakak]

Yup essentially lol

[bluenose1872]

We've (me and my mates) known quite a few girls who used to hang about with us coz they didn't like other girls. They seen themselves as one of the boys. I don't mean they were butch or manly. They were just normal women who had no time for the bitchiness and two facedness they got with other women. They said that specifically, all of them. Most women just talk about each other and cause trouble. My ex prefered mens company to women's. Not for sex just for casual friendship. Didn't bother me. The men she liked talking to were friends of mine and I knew they they respected me enough never to try it on with her

[peachblossomluck]

There are a lot of drama making guys too but it's found more commonly among drug using crowds of guys and incarcerated guys. I just think some people lack direction and feel the need to divert negative attention from themselves by trying to scapegoat some outsider. It's a symptom of moral and personal weakness. I don't want to be around any of those creeps either!

[buttheadkakakak]

Amen 😂 I totally agree but I don't hang out with druggies or those other freaks

[peachblossomluck]

Smart♡

[Anonymous]

It's quite common for girls to say that dislike other girls or that they only hang out with guys. Girls think it's cool, but many guys see it as a red flag. A lot of guys don't trust women who can't develop a friendship with other women. I mean, I get what you're saying, there can be some rumors and gossip and it can be annoying, but there can be a lot of sharing and support as well. My girlfriend has a lot of female friends and they support one another, cheer each other up, help each other. In fact, it was one of the things that made me fall in love with her: seeing how warm, giving and loving she is with her friends, with the people she loves. Reducing an entire gender to a few stereotypes like drama and jealousy is not seeing the whole picture. There's a lot of love and sharing, lots of fun and joys in female friendships as well.

[silverfeline]

Hmm reading all these comments shows there was no point for this my take to be posted. What were you trying to prove or do. Because it seems like you took every comment that you didn't like picked parts of what the commented saidnthan twisted it around and argued how it was wrong. You very much seem to be set on your own mindset and opinions. But should everyone care about them or need to listen to them. This was a pointless mytake and I feel bad for those who bothered to comment a thought filled post.

[spuitkaas]

Amen to this. Girls are really competitive creatures and that's why I don't always like them. I simply just don't trust them. Only the ones who are not competitive (and yes, those exist).

[buttheadkakakak]

I've had a lot of girls talk behind my back, insult me and take everything I say far too seriously. I totally understand the distrust problem👏

[Elizabeth21__]

I have two friends that are girls, and tbh, that's plenty. There's even drama in that little group of three. I love them, but I can't stand them. I hang out with my crush and his friends. My girl friends call me a slut because of it, but that's why I'm not hanging out with them. Not to chase dick, to get away from girls who think having guy friends is chasing dick.

[Mina072]

I also have a hard time making lasting friendships with other girls, the ones I meet are either incredibly rude towards each other or are only my friend when its convenient to them.

[buttheadkakakak]

Preach

[BlueAngel0]

I enjoy the company of females however most turn into bitchy psycho women after a while and the Green eyed monster pops up so it's time to say bye bye.

[buttheadkakakak]

This is what I was trying to say 😂

[FatherJack]

I always thought that women ( mostly ) stuck together , as in most cases girls / women do tend to form very close friendships , whilst boys / men generally have more distant , looser friendships. At least the " media " anti-male propaganda machine has not affected your good self !!

[bluenose1872]

I dunno how you grew up but men form the tightest bonds where I'm from. Usually the only thing breaks up a group of guys is when women come in and start thinning them out. Guys usually are the ones that like running with the herd and women are usually individual

[FatherJack]

@bluenose1872 I will agree to some extent as military / ex military form strong bonds forged from adversity , which often brings the best out in men ( I'm former British Army ) there is no Civvy St equivalent However it's mostly the girls form the " herd " , with the guys generally doing more their own thing. We can beat the crap out each other , then be best mates minutes later , whilst the ladies often bear simmering , lengthy grudges !!

[bluenose1872]

I was in the reme myself for 4 years. Learned mechanics. Still in contact with a lot of my old mates up and down the length of Britain. Before that I was in a gang in glasgow. We must've been 70 strong and of all ages from 14 to 30. It was like a big family. A dangerous one but we all looked after each other. Maybe it's different where you came from but men form big groups up here. Be it for survival or a shared passion of a footy team. That's why you always see mostly men in pubs. With the odd exception of a few wankers men generally congregate like wild deer at a watering hole. Women generally don't form groups like men because they see each other as adversaries. Not all of them but there's generally a lot of spite between them especially the pretty ones. It's an inbuilt function

[Crazyced]

Sometimes I think girls take the 'Keep your friends close and enemy closer' mentra to the next level.

[FakeName123]

It comes down to a very simple thing. Competitiveness. While both gender are similary competitive, they express it entirely different. To make it simple: Guys compete about who is better. Girls compete by putting the competitors down.

Needless to say this causes unnecessary drama. Though often among really insecure and/or superficial girls.

[buttheadkakakak]

This is why I'd really rather not be with the ladies, I just wish all these butthurt girls would understand what I'm trying so say

[Anonymous]

The girls I have always found most enjoyable to be around always preferred hanging out with the guys for the same reason you do. Those girls are just more down to earth and tend to have more in common with guys and less in common with the average girl.

[Accipiter]

I find that guys gossip and talk shit just as much as girls do. The only difference is that girls take the gossip into colorful detail, whereas guys cut to the chase.

[FatherJack]

Yep , then drop a few " Yo Mamma " type jokes. We enjoy taking the piss out of each other !!

[Applefan1]

I don't think our parents understand what school is like for us younger generations. It is not the same. In my opinion there is far more of what you mentioned among girls than when my mum and dad went to high school in the 1960s.

[Oztese]

HECK YES!!!
my best friend are guys and everyone's like, you're weird, but now i can b all, f u bishes cuz I'm not alone!!!
the second paragraph is like literally high school. thank you, o wise one.

[GirlsLie]

In my experience the girls who have a problem with "most" other women, are normally kind of bitchy and jealous themselves Sometimes you attract what you put off.

[buttheadkakakak]

Snide comments like this one are examples of why I only have 1 female friend

[Calex]

Shots were fired, but I shielded take owner.

Perhaps she just wants genuinely nice girls to hang out with.

[GirlsLie]

Exactly, it's my fault that you made a take which is sort of dramatic, explaining why you can't be friends with other women because they are too dramatic, it's clearly women like me who are keeping you from having female friends.

Considering I have basically nothing but female friends, none of them are dramatic, none start rumors, none cry constantly, none of them are jealous.

[GirlsLie]

So, like I said sometimes you do attract what you put off and if this has been your experience with the majority of women then maybe it's you or at least your perception of other women.

[GirlsLie]

@Calex Who doesn't want that but why should nice girls want to hang out with her when she thinks so poorly of other women.

[plaisirdamour]

Ha ha you hurt some feelings
I like this opinion

[plaisirdamour]

@mytakeowner i think it's wrong to blame all women
No one is forcing you to hang out with only women
You are free to be friends with who ever you want

[buttheadkakakak]

@plaisirdamour thank you, this is what I'm getting at. The reason I think poorly of some women is because some women think poorly of me. I don't have tolerance for such trivial things anymore

[Anonymous]

nice take I agree with your points i used to be cyber bullied by girls on other websites for a few regions and one was because I'm specilneeds and one girl called me a ugly whore and a couple of others bullied me for not having good grammer and spelling and others tried to perpresher me to be les and bi and I had to keep saying no and every time I said no they would curse at me or get upset or ignore me and they also bullied me because I'm straight

[93stepsawayfromhome]

This depends on your own gender, though. When I was younger I practically only had female friends. I still have some and I don't want to have sex with all of them as some commenters here claim.

[buttheadkakakak]

So many commenting girls seem to think that all my guy friends want to sleep with me, or that I'm a whore, so I get the pain😕