PregTeen: I Want To Share My Happiness And I DO NOT REGRET BEING PREGNANT.

[YumDum]

I know people think I've ruined my life, while this is what I think:

Never a baby ruined a life of someone, it's the adult and conscious people who most of time ruin their lives while middling other people lives with their own hands and thought, by hurting each other and thinking that since they are adult they can never be at fault, or they did the right thing.

the only thing that I regret here was that I allowed a ass**le to be in my life and make me feel worst than ever, by saying things that can send someone to a grave, the day I knew I was pregnant, I was shocked and mostly worried about the baby inside of me, if my baby will hate me for what I am, I've never thought of my baby as a burden for me he's a bless, when I hear people saying responsability and kids are a bother, I don't remember I've been a bother for them, I barely see them on Christmas, last Christmas with my parents was like 4 years ago, even if they aren't with me, they can still take care of me, even as a baby when they decided to work for my best, it was wrong even if I'm able to access the best schools and have all what I want when I want, it wasn't wise from them cause I never knew what a family means, but they still can make it, I grow into a fine young lady, I didn't ruin my parent's life, I was a bless so my baby will, the circumstances aren't the same since they are married while I'm still a high schooler and single.

But weren't there woman that have kids and lost their husbands? the kids grow fine as I know, it's all about how responsible you can be.

When I spoke to my parents over the phone, I was like 3 weeks pregnant, my mom stopped talking to me since then, that made me sad, dad who isn't happy either but he's a great help for me, even if he can't be here with me he did a lot to me and if I'm less stressed about my future thanks to him because he's my dad, then there come my freind Grant who I come to know on GAG since last year before everything starts, when I used to have fights with my ex and about being bullied, complaining about my parents that they call me only once a week for 10 minutes and he kept cheering me up whenever my ex said something bad about me Grant was there for me whenever I felt down so Thank you Grant a lot, then he was there when my ex decided to break up with me, and Grant was the first person to know about my pregnancy, and there is that person from my school who wanted to date me, but I rejected him at least 3 times, he ended up knowing about my pregnancy, he has always his way to get what he wants, we ended being somehow friends, but I can't call him a friend since I can't trust him, but he's a very nice person and that he keeps helping me whenever I have nausea at school and makes sure that I eat properly at school and that the bi*** who bullies me don't get near me, and he can keep a secret.

I didn't drop school, but I didn't inform the school about my pregnancy so they won't withdraw me, I'm copping between school and my pregnancy, my grades didn't drop either.

Now:

Today I felt my baby moving, it was like popcorn popping or like I'm having butterflies in my stomach or bubbles, it hurt a bit but then when I said that to Dylan he said it's impossible but it might be some gas or something.

And since it hurt a bit I decided to go to see my doctor and Dylan wanted to come along.

When we were going to check this with my doctor, I did a new ulrasound during the ultrasound the baby decided to curl up.

During the ultrasound my baby kicked, and I was so happy, I have a healthy baby who's growing healthy and strong, the doctor said there are some pregnants who feels the kicking and moving pretty early especially the thin preg..in few weeks I'll know what's my baby gender, which makes me so excited, my baby is growing tall, and she/he moved because she/he can sense light now, I did the experience again once I was home I used a flash light on my tummy and she/he moved lol so cute

This is was my first picture when finally the bump appeared(8 weeks).

My message to my baby.

[RationalMale]

So, you're saying you don't regret being a single mom?

A lot of women do say that. And it makes sense. What are you going to do, spend 24 years ranting and upset? You have to mentally make it okay.

My sister says the same thing, she's a single mom. She says its the path God wanted her on, things are great, etc.

The reality is that the child literally spends most of his waking hours being cared for and raised by another person, not her.

The reality is that child will grow up without a father around, and will be used to seeing a different guy with his mother every few weeks, or few months, and he will have no constant male father figure to help him learn and grow.

The reality is that instead of being smart and using contraceptives and only sleeping with guys she was in a serious relationship with, she's now going to be on public welfare forever.

The reality is that if she ever wants to have a steady relationship, she will have to lower her expectations until she finds a man so humble he will raise another man's child.

The reality is that when that boy grows up, he's not going to think much of women. Why should he? He'll have his own mother as a prime example of why women don't deserve respect from him.

[YumDum]

First of all, I'm not looking for relationship I have set my goals
1st of all my baby, then 2nd to keep up with my studies, my hands are already full with pregnancy and my school life, there is no time to date or to have a guy in my life
secondly this Baby once is going to be born, I won't be living on my own anymore, I'll be at my parents place in the Us, my father will help that my kid if he is going to be a boy and needed help, he can still meet his real father if he wanted to, and he'll respect women, if you taught a kid and well educate him the basic of life, he will know what is wrong and right, as an example Kids who disrepect their parents, because their parents disrespected theirselves on first, this world isn't a fairtale but solution are in our hands, it's up to me if I choose he'll respect me or not!

[REALisRARE]

Can I add my two cents? As a single mother at one time, my child never saw me with a new guy every few weeks. I also didn't sleep around. We didn't live off of welfare and my child spent plenty of quality time with me while I attended school. She also had my father to look up to who is a great man. I didn't have to lower my standards for men either because I put God first and prayed for the man that God would have in our lives, and when my daughter was 2 I met my husband, who can run circles around anyone I dated before I had children and around many men today. He's a selfless, hardworking, dedicated, intelligent , sexy man and he has loved my daughter from day one like his own blood. He even adopted her at 3 years old knowing that if we divorced he would be financially responsible for her, and his response when I made that clear was "I love her just as much as I love you". I know what you're saying but also know that it's not all the nightmare you've imagined it to be.

[RationalMale]

Frist off, @REALisRARE , congrats. Sounds like you got dealt a rough hand but managed to turn it around nicely.

That's not the average, though. For instance, kids living with mom and her boyfriend are much more likely to be hurt or abused.
https://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2011/04/3181/
Single moms are much more likely to be poor, and hence, need public aid.
www.theatlantic.com/.../

And take Owner. I'm sure you love your kid with all your heart. Seriously. I'm sure the child's grandfather will try to be a role model.

The reality also is that grandfather is not the same as dad. The reality also is that while you might be an upstanding citizen from now on, the simple facts of life--that the child will not have a father, and you are a single mother--will have a strong impact on how that child views relationships, you, and women.

[RationalMale]

The other reality is that yes, I am being kinda mean and passing judgement on single moms.

That's also reality. Being raised by a single mom is pretty bad for kids, compared to a two parent household. The reality also is that shaming or passing harsh judgement is the single most effective way to help deter other women from making bad choices that hurt themselves and children.

[YumDum]

for my case I'm not poor, and I don't need any social aid, right now I'm in the ability to travel to any place I desire all I have to do is to buy a ticket and find a good hotel.
I don't know what is the point you want to come to, but I am not planning to have a man in my life, my baby will always come first, if he needs a daddy then nothing can privent him from he visits him or contact him, for what come for me, I'm done with men, and there'll be no way i'll let anyone mess with me or with my kid.
I'll protect him with all I have gotten, I'll turn into a monster if I have to, to protect him.

[RationalMale]

See, that's exactly what I'm saying. The kid is now going to be raised by a single mom with no steady father figure. that hurts the child.

and you are going to be trying to satisfy your personal life by pouring it into your child, like a good mom. but that's going to hurt you, because women need a good man in their lives. and when that kid grows up and resents you to some degree for not having a father, it's going to be awful.

[YumDum]

what do you think of a single mother who was a stripper she made of her daughter a champion for 3 times in row of martial art and that daughter was married on 27 years old and got her first kid at 30 she said " My single mother was a striper and I'm champion and respected by everyone, I'm rpoud of my mother"
people should stop staring at singles mother like I don't know, there are a couple who kill their kids, aren't those crual? to have kids and kill them? or marrying a kid of 12 years old? or slavery for kids?
I can't compare to that, because I know that I'll always do what I have to do for my child I won't give him up.

[YumDum]

there are thousands of queen didn't marry and they managed to be queens without a man in their life, there is nothing a woman can't do on her own, I do have friends and a great father I know if I needed any help always my friends and father grand parents too be there for me, I didn't have my parents by my side, I only saw them once a year for 2 days due to their busy work, last Christmas together was 4 years ago, thanks to technologie I still manage see them on video calls sometimes whenever they are free, I'll do what it takes me to give my baby a good education, and growing healthy, what comes for a dad, my father will be there for him to

[REALisRARE]

No, what I said maybe came out wrong. I don't want to be congratulated, it was a poor choice that I made that fortunately turned my life around and we we're lucky. I do agree with what you're saying about the majority, I just don't what anyone in that position to feel like that's their future, especially when they've made the decision to make the best of a tough situation. It can go good or bad depending on your future choices and it will be hard but it can be done. Definitely not proud to that I became a teen mother statistic, but I am blessed that I was able to climb out of that ditch and move forward to where we are today. Anyway, I do see what you're saying.

[RationalMale]

Queens don't have bastard children, kiddo.

[YumDum]

Really? wanna go up for some lessons on history?

[RationalMale]

I'd rather give a lesson on birth control.

[YumDum]

everyone has a different story how they got pregnant, and the sad fact of my story I prefer I keep it for myself, and my close friend, you better get some lessons about queens who were single mothers :)

[Mekkalyn]

I agreed with you until you got to the last bit.

Being a single mother is very hard, and for the single mothers out there who work their butts off to raise their child and be a good mommy... that's really rude of you to say that a single mom doesn't deserve respect. I respect anyone who is a great parent to their child, regardless of their relationship status or how young they were when it happened.

If they are doing things right/taking care of them properly and giving them everything they need and not living off of government assistance, then kudos to you!

It's ignorant to say that every teen mother ends up on government welfare. There's a lot that just live off the welfare of their parents (whom I feel bad for) and there are the other portion that can do it without (typically the ones with support from the dad).

[YumDum]

@Mekkalyn
at least someone still have some sense, I'm not encouraging people to be single mothers, but it happened and I'm take a responsability, mytake what some people still don't get yet, I didn't post it for judgement or giving me a piece of what I already know what they are thinking of me, I had this post, to speak about my experience and to share the happiness I'm feeling, that I'm positive about my own pregnancy experience.
then I was about to start to work already, but my long distance Father, didn't want to, he ordered me to stop working immediatly he got the news that I got a part time job that will become full time job once I'm graduated from high school, it was on kindergarten.
First thing he did was to take me out from the school dorm and rent an appartement for me, it wasn't enough for him since he couldn't be with me, he paid a woman to do house chores, I didn't ask my father to do that to me, he wanted to help on his own way.

[TwentySomething]

"It's up to me if he respects me or not". Respect is earned...

[Mekkalyn]

dang, sounds like you have it made.
I wish my parents would help me by giving me an apartment and a person to do the household chores...

[COCOCHANEL]

you're the kid's uncle. be there for him. be that male figure.

[thewanderingme]

wow, you sure have low thoughts of your own sister. that's pretty fucked up. if you were a better person, you'd offer her some help. a good uncle in the kids life could be just as beneficial as a father, but instead all you're doing is passing judgement. how despicable.

[RationalMale]

@thewanderingme

My dear sweet sister left home at 18 to move in with a 23 year old high school grading working bum jobs, and according to her, he seemed kinda dangerous and did drugs. She left home because my parents told her he was bad news and she could not date him. A few months later, she was telling my parents he was a good man and they would meet him eventually... while sporting bruises from his fists.

My dear sweet sister, while dating a trashy black guy, condemned people's racism (and condemned my parents) of thinking he looked like a criminal or a bad man, and told me black guys weren't "passiver aggressive " like white guys such myself, and would fight over insults like men. When he eventually was making death threats against her, she claimed that four months earlier he had told her about how he partook in a murder.

What on earth do you think a mortal man can do for a self destructive idiot like that? I already played armed bodyguard for her, with a past lover.

[thewanderingme]

he isn't who matter, you're her family, not his. you should have been there for her.

[RationalMale]

@thewanderingme Yeah, easy to say from a distance. Situations are difficult when you're in it.

[SakuraCherryBlossoms]

Her using childcare is totally normal... And all those different guys will be there only if she wants them to. Your sis sounds like she'll end up with multiple kids and dads. Why do you think she'll be on welfare forever?

[lumos]

Why did you post pics that aren't yours? The black and white pic of the stomach was posted on a blog in 2009. The ultrasound isn't yours. None of the progress pics are yours. What gives? I smell catfish.

[lolatyou]

Damn pregnant catfishes, ruining the internet for everyone else.

[raininthedance09]

LMFAO ^^^^^

[SecretScout]

I think that's more than a catfish smell, its also mixed heavily with bullshit...

[lolatyou]

Yeah, i'm really confused. Who would do that lol

[dangerDoge]

I'm glad for you. While there may be difficulties you'll face in your life and people will surely judge you, I'm glad that you are stepping up to try and take the responsibility of the situation (unlike the father). I'm sure it wasn't in your plans to get pregnant at this stage in life, but I hope you work hard and do your best to make best of the situation at hand.

The fact happened, and there is nothing that can really undo it.

in my opinion, I feel like at this point, people should be really offering a supporting role rather than a criticizing one. Sure, they may disagree with teenage pregnancy, but the situation already occurred. All one can do is support the mother (and father, if he didn't act like a douchenozzle and run) in situations like these.
It should be in times of hardship where one gives the most emotional support instead of abandoning.

So, from one random stranger on the internet to another, I wish you best in life. And fear not-- you are rocking the baby bump haha

[Anonymous]

My take on your take is this. I'm glad you are happy to bring life into the world. A lot of young mothers, as you say, feel like their lives are over and really don't want to be parents. The thing we must remember is that your child didn't have a choice to be born, but it's how you step in and be there for them and support and love them that will make a difference.

Having said that, I hope you can also see the flip side of why there is so much opposition to your situation. Kids like yourself are supposed to be kids, out having fun, going to school, hanging with friends, thinking of college. You won't get that as a parent to a new born if you are any kind of responsible. Of course its fine to say before the child is ever born that you can handle it, but even fully grown mature adults struggle with it, so when people who have been there and done that tell you these things, they aren't saying it to be mean to you, it's the way it is. Babies are hard. They are 24/7. If you breastfeed, you're up all night, and all day feeding all the time. Even though you mention you may have help from family, sometimes people say one thing, and do another. You can't just assume.

At the end of the day, the baby is hopefully going to enter this world healthy and there is no point in lecturing you about picking the right man or safe sex, because we're far beyond that point of reasoning. All I can do is wish you the best of luck because you're really going to need it.

[Opinion Owner]

Btw: is that a picture of your actual babies ultrasound?

[Brokenheartedx]

My sister was 16 when she had her daughter... her daughter is now off to college to do music before she enters uni... she was a single mum.. no man around in her life and didn't do to badly...

Congrats sweetheart.. being honest it won't be easy but you'll do it and the results will be worth it... prove anyone that doubts you wrong x

[YumDum]

another cheerful person, it's not going easy, sleepless night and everything helpfully my father, will be there and there is my friend Grant that he keeps helping me too, it won't be easy, but I'll make it throu as you said prove anyone that doubts you wrong, thanks for your sweet words

[Brokenheartedx]

Sleepless nights... u catch sleep when babies napping... a good support network is needed... if you have Facebook join a group for mums.. to get advice were you won't be judged and maybe make new friends with girls your own age with babies... having kids is never easy ESP when they get older then the worry really begins because they become independent.. but they will love you until your dying breathe and that's all that matters... if money's an issue stock up on second hand goods like baby clothes.. it doesn't matter if they are second hand because they go through them like crazy.. keep all the nice new stuff you've bought for taking the baby out with, I wish you the very best... you'll be fine x

[REALisRARE]

So happy for you and your positive outlook. I could not agree more. When I found out I was pregnant I was 18, had been out of high school for 2 days and thought my life was ruined. Little did I know that my little angel would be the hero who saved me from a horrible road that I was running down 100 miles an hour. Without my daughters I wouldn't be who I am today. I needed them and they saved me.

[YumDum]

wooow, what a cheerful person you are, at least there are people live examples that they succeed and they make a good path for their kids :)
I was into a suicidal state, I was smoking and drinking cutting and I even attempted suicide before, my friend grant was here for me then, when I knew I was pregnant everything changed, God blessed me.

[REALisRARE]

It sounds like God very much has! See, yours sounds like a little hero already too! That's awesome, about baby, your friend Grant, and that you've come out of that lifestyle. You definitely sound like a fighter, and what a good thing to be as a mom. Kids need someone who will fight for them and be in their corner. You already sound like a woderful mother. Well congrats again! And hoping for a happy and healthy delivery for you both. Take care! = )

[YumDum]

thank you a lot, and I hope too that the delivery will be an easy task and my baby will be healthy even if he won't be i won't give him up or away thank you a lot, I'm sure you have wonderful daughters I can't wait for those sleepless nights, and hearing the baby screaming and laughing running around the house

[mutedaisy]

How many weeks are you? I barely even have a bump at 17 weeks. Literally, it's not there. The main difference that I see is that my fat content has increased a bit. Maybe my baby will be short, instead of tall?

https://i.imgur.com/8I4AMHnh.jpg

[YumDum]

Today I'm 15weeks and 3 days, it depends on the pregnant body structure, for me I was thin and I'm still thin I didn't gain weight actually I lost due to my nausea, there are some pregnant who won't have a visible lobido untill late pregnancy like 7 months, your baby now is learning how to suckle a breast or bottle and to swallow, the baby heart beats 140 -150 per min and the baby must be about 5 inches, the baby too is forming his fingerprint, his/her eyes are still closed, but now he/she can hear noises so don't worry if you'll start feeling kicking or moving whenever there is a noise just talk to him/her while rubbing your tummy he/she can hear your voice and she/he knows that you are his/her mother, and most important parttt if the baby won't curl up you will know what is his/her gender :)

[OlderAndWiser]

This is all so wonderful for you but what about a baby who is not going to have a father involved in his or her life? Having children is not about you or how it makes you feel.

[YumDum]

the father doesn't want to be in his/her life, I spoke to him weeks ago, it's not like I need support/help or to get him back, I only told him, I would like to be there for our kid when he/she needs you, the 23 years old said "I am going to be a neuro surgeon, it'll ruin my career and i don't have anything to with that thing" I didn't except so much from him when I was with him I was stable person with no depression problem after 2 or 3 months he made me cut and I was into a deep depression for mantal abuse.
I have my fahter, he helps me mentally and financially, and there is my friend and my classmate who became almost a friend too, mom is helping me indirectly too, she doesn't talk to me but she keeps buying stuff from where she is and I got them delivered on my father name, I'm sure and 100% it's going to work for me and for my baby too

[Phamtastic2]

23 years old? Wow. You have issues.

[OlderAndWiser]

Your baby will suffer if he or she does not have a father in his or her life. That is not a cause for celebration.

And. . . you can't answer for him, but I wonder how some guy who claims he is going to be a neurosurgeon is stupid enough to get an underage girl pregnant?

[Phamtastic2]

To me its the fact you had enough sex with a 23 year old for this to happen. You're 17 (now). He's an idiot and a pedophile and you're just as much of an idiot who doesn't think things through. You're messed up.

[SakuraCherryBlossoms]

It sounds like the baby will be better off without him. You would have to be mentally ill to say that aabout your own kid.

[OlderAndWiser]

@SakuraCherryBlossoms This particular guy sounds like a jerk but many young guys begin with jerk attitudes but then mature and become responsible. None of us have a crystal ball to know what will happen with him. The point is that you should not have a child unless you will be giving that child the love and support of a mother and a father.

[SakuraCherryBlossoms]

I have guys in my family who have all kinds of issues... none of them would ever call their baby a thing. And at 23yrs old it's just weird her ex would speak that way in the first place.

I agree with you, just as long as both parents are all there.

[godfatherfan]

spoken by a kid that has no clue what the reality of a child is. It is a lot of stress and financial pressure. if your ready for a child, it is the greatest thing on earth. If your not, and I mean financially, and emotionally, it will be the worse thing ever. Sure it is all "idealistic" now. But once that baby is born, your work begins in earnest. Lets revisit this take about 4-6 months after it is born, then a year after it is born. You will not be singing the same tune unless you have enough cash and support.

[YumDum]

I'm ready financially and emotionally, even if I visit this take each year and i'll say always the same thing that this baby was the missing piece and my bless.
if I wasn't financially capable I would think of other option like giving this baby to adoption, but this is not my case, in my whole life I attended only the best schools right I still hate it, my parents and grand parents paid me whatever I wanted when I wanted (right I speak like a spoiled brat kid but life wasn't easy on the other hand I had my part of trauma and sadness and depression).
and right now I'm living in an appartement of 250m², there is someone who is paid to cook and help me to clean and do my groceries, and I still attend high school, I'll graduate this year from high school and next year I'll be living with my parents if I want since my father wants me to be with them before the baby birth, or to stay where I'm.
So yes I greatly ready for the sleepless night, and the resposability that come with.

[Redshift]

Congratulations! I'm sure you'll be a wonderful mom. Don't listen to what people tell you. Your and the little bundle's happiness is no one else's business. Best of luck!

[YumDum]

thank you, I ws tired to hear people on gag saying that I ruined my life, I don't where it did go wrong since I didn't drop school and I'll graduate soon enough before the school can notice my pregnancy my grades are still as excellent as it was before.
So I shared this because I'm happy that i have a healthy baby growing inside of me, and I didn't go for abortion to kill someone's life which is wrong.
thank you for your sweet words.

[This_is_my_username]

I wish you nothing but the best in your pregnancy. And i hope you deliver a happy healthy baby :) And lead a good life. What happened has happened now the only thing you can do is make the best out of it. Hopefully your mama might come around. And good for your father that he is there for you.
Peace out sista :)

[YumDum]

thnak you a lot
it's not going to be something easy, but i know i'll find my way, and i'll be capable of raising him/her the way it should be, thank you for your nice words, thank you for accepting to share my happiness.

[IceEverest]

I dont know you personally but I am feeling it... I hope you have a healthy baby and a bright future ahead...
It actually took me 18 years to understand that society is actually total bullshit... the environment around the whole world is surrounded by hypocritical people who know only to shame others...
Take care of the baby...
Best of luck...

[YumDum]

what I saw some people coming here, while I have indicated that I'm sharing my happiness which means if you don't want to read don't come up and comment on whatever without knowing me or knowing my story, some thinks Whatever about me, and says whatever they want, some in their opinion went to call me wh*** c** dumps... it didn't hurt and it won't, but seeing it, while I have made a take about a take about children marriage.. importantly, I exposed something everyone knows, but none lift a finger to change it, yet still around the world and some states in USA child marriage still exist with only permission from the parents, in some countries there is no minimum of age... so teen pregnancy isn't accepted (i'm not encouraging people to be pregnant and be single mothers but I am speaking on my own experience) but child marriage/child porn/child abuse/child slavery none speak of it, this is how I wonder those hypocrites how they would deal with this topic.. thank you a lot.

[IceEverest]

You are welcome...

[Love-travel]

Would you want your daughter to be a teen mom or a vibrant, busy, goal-oriented and ambitious young women? Would you want your daughter to finish school first before finding the love of her life and starting a family? Do you want her to prioritize her education, career, financial stability and independence before bringing a life into this world? I'm your age and my parents would be extremely disappointed and hurt if I was pregnant. I'm a teen, I go to school, work part-time to save up for college, volunteer at the local pet -shelter and soup kitchen I keep myself busy and have no time for sex and kids.

[YumDum]

I'll say this once and I won't repeat it ever again, people are different, I came from a happy married couple who are always busy with their work, I grow with granny till I was 4or 5 then my parents decided to take me with them due to travelling a lot during two years and changing schools for me I ended developing depression at early age, for losing friends and being bullied for being a mix (asian, french), they decided to put me in the best baording schools, and since then I was on my own, my parents were married when they got me, even thou' that they are very religious so somehow I am, I ended being single mom, there is a champion of martial art a russian who is raised by a single mom who was a stripper if i'm not wrong, the daughter was educated but that stripper and learnt to value life and she was 3 times in row she married at 27 and her first child was at 30, she said in her Interview Never judge a book from it cover, my single mother was a stripper and I'm respected by everyone.

[Love-travel]

Yes, young single mothers are capable of raising successful children. But teen pregnancy should never be glamorized or accepted. I just wanted you to think about the situation from your parent's perspective. Your parents must be disappointed to see their baby girl pregnant instead of being in school.

[YumDum]

my parents aren't happy about it, and I didn't drop school either, my grades are still as excellent as they were all my exams result are between 92-100/100

[Anonymous]

I don't know about this, but sooner or later, you'll have to figure out how to support him or send him away to adoption. Abortion is too controversial and very restrictive, if you live in the United States, so I wouldn't count on that. Also, you may need parental consent for an abortion, if you are a minor, in some jurisdictions. So, the safer bet may be sending away the child to a foster home or looking for adoptive parents. In the meantime, you may want to prepare for parenthood and search for foster/adoptive parents. Alternatively, I suppose your own parents may choose to become adoptive parents, but then you just said your mom has stopped contacting you. Bummer.

[YumDum]

just two words for you FUCK OFF.
I'll be a great mom, and I'll support my child, and you aren't a GOD so you can Judge me, people lives in darkness more than light!!

[LyssaNicole]

Wow good for you! I wish the best for you and your daughter or son! It'll be challenging, but that's what life's about. If you don't have any challenges then your not living 😊

[YumDum]

thank you a lot for your sweet words, at least from some females, you know how to enjoy a take that marked i want to share my happiness, then gloomy people ended here throwing tombourine lol, thank you again :)

[F1Mad39]

You're doing fine. The only person who can judge what has happened is YOU. People are very quick to judge!

[YumDum]

thank you a lot, that's what I have been saying, I'm the only one who can judge myself being capable or not, my father is trying to make me depend on him more so I won't end being harmed neither my baby, but I'm assuring him that I'm doing fine and I can make it.

[YumDum]

Plus there you are Grant, you are the best friend I can have, and if I'm cheerful like this it's all thanks to you, you are a like a needle in crowded room, this is your rarety for me thank you for always being by my side

[JohnnySS]

your kid MAY drive you nuts but mostly its how you teach him/her to understand and control her/his genetic traits

good for you and your kid you know much about parenting

[YumDum]

I can't wait to have him/her in my arms, she/he'll flood the house with his crying/screaming/laugher.
For now he/she is giving craving and i'm stil have nausea it should be gone since long, but for some preg it won't go till they gave birth.
yesterday he/she kept kicking to adjust my sleeping position, and she/he didn't stop till I laid on my back
I won't do the same mistake as my parents did; I'll always be by my baby side, all they need attention, eating properly, being clean, be their playmate be their friend be their everything before they start to face the world, because if a parent gives a good example the kid will instantly know what kind of friend he wants, we can see that some child can say someone is evil, if the parent behave like he/she should be with and in front her/his child, the kid will keep that his/her mind, and they'll behave as their parents do.

[SunDevil11]

Good luck with your baby and I hope you are both happy and healthy through the whole process

[YumDum]

thank you a lot :)

[Dulcedulcexoxo]

Yea, your young for having a baby but you knew what you were doing having unprotected sex. Fact is their is a lot of single moms, and they slave them selves to give their kids good lives they play the mother , father, care giver, counselor... etc Women are amazing. one day you may marry, but all you can do is the best of your ability and beyond. So good luck and I wish you the best.

[YumDum]

I didn't write the whole story, because it was my first time and last time I had sex, my ex said there is no way a girl can get pregnant, and since I trusted him and he was and still studying to be a doctor.. this is how it happened, thank you at least you were nice enough to say good luck and wishing me the best

[Anonymous]

I didn't log for a long time, I'm surprised and shocked to know that you got preg...
it's not wise but what is done is done, you chose a hard path but I'm sure you'll be just fine :) Keep fighting KJF, I wish you a happy pregnancy and a healthy baby, without forgetting an easy Delivery lol, I heard it hurt a lot..
I would like to catch up with you...
that's great that you finally made friends, like I said before it depends on you if you wanted to be out of the shell or no...
you shouldn't listen to people who says nonsense keep going with my your doing and learn from your mistakes.
good luck XoXo

[thewanderingme]

screw his career. he helped make that baby. take him to court for kid support, after the baby is born to avoid any extra stress during pregnancy.

and if he's about to become a surgeon he must be quite a bit older than you, how did you meet? you should press charges against him.

[HarryStyles]

I agree with you on that one - take him to court and make him contribute to his child's upbringing... If nothing else, why should the state pay for the fact he's not a real man?

[thewanderingme]

@HarryStyles sad part is a lot of women actually do that, let some guy who's about to, or already makes tons of money, get away with not contributing at all because it would look bad for the guy. they should realize their kid is what's most important

[HarryStyles]

Madness - the child's wealth fare should always come first... with rights come responsibilities. I'm all for equal rights between men and women in respect to pregnancy & family law... there must be equal responsibilities too - it's not a choice whether you want to be a parent or not!

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Congrats:) that's really an exciting thing to have happen in your life. I wish you and the baby well in this moving through all challenges to come.

[YumDum]

thank you a lot, and yes I'm prepared for the sleepless night, diaper time, bath time, crying in the middle night for food or just to be hold, I can't wait for this change, the home will be filled by a baby joy