Every time when I say that I don’t want children on my own I get to hear “You will change your mind!” “Don’t worry you will have children one day” “You are still young, this will change” “Once you find the right guy, you will have babies” and more.
I don’t want children on my own, I maybe, possibly would be down to adopt a kid, one who is already old enough but practically just needs a home with a loving family.
But I have absolutely no desire for my own child, let’s go through my reasons shall we:
Nr.1 I might have a fertility issues, I’m not sure, but like I have this health issue* that does make getting pregnant difficult, you can still talk with your doctor and like it depends on each person. But I didn’t even made the effort to ask my doctor, because I started thinking and that was the time I figured out that I’m fine with not becoming a mom one day.
*I have problems with my thyroid and it does influence the fertility and depending on how this affects your body and how you treat that and everything, it can cause miscarriage. It can, don’t have to, again here just talk with your doctor and I’m sure they will help
Nr.2 I don’t even like babies that much. I was never the person to be like “Aww how cute”… hands down puppies are cute but not babies. Also I know I used to be a child too, but children are annoying and little stupid sometimes, like yeah I mean they are still children, it’s normal but sorry I can’t get warm with that.
I like my sister tho
Nr.3 I was never excited about the thought of pressing a human being out of my vagina! You know all the shit that happens during birth? Like literally shit. Also if you’re lucky your vagina will rip apart… Google it, that really happens.
Don’t forget about hours of labor pain… yeah no so not doing this.
Even if you have a caesarean delivery, you will have weeks of pain afterwards.
Respect to everyone who did go through this tho thank you all.
Nr.4 Kids are fucking expensive and you can't just go out and do what you want whenever you want.
Nr.5 I kind of already went through the phase of raising a child and I’m so not going through this again.
My mom had a baby when I was 16, the father of my sister wasn’t living with us and my mom was working a lot, so someone had to take care of the baby and it was me. I could say a lot about the fun, but we’re going to keep this short:
Everyone tells you that a child is a blessing and will bring you joy and happiness...the truth that shit isn’t easy, sure I love my baby sister to the moon and back … but oh boy I’m so not going to go through years of no sleep, looking and feeling like shit, stress, dippers, food all over and 24/7 of looking after someone who needs you, while cooking and keeping the house and clothes clean.
And trying to keep my private life, with work, school and friends. Hell no.
Nr.6 My friends can’t wait to become a mom one day. They already have names and two honestly already own the house were they want to raise their kids. They are so excited when they talk about this and I’m not.
Nr.7 The world is a mostly fucked up place and I don’t think that it needs another innocent baby in it. We are facing some big problems, like climate change, inequality, religious and political conflicts, poverty, decrease of resources and wars.
To add children are cruel and mean to each other, I don’t want my baby to have struggles. Also most people have mental problems, like depression and anxiety and it’s also got harder to get a job, if it’s already not that easy for us, how is it going to be in a few years, it’s scary.
Nr.8 I love my freedom and I definitely don’t want to feel like being chained to someone.
You do a lot of sacrifices as a parent and I’m not down to do some of these sacrifices. I do wish for a partner on my side. A teammate, but I don’t feel a desire to have kids on my own.
So that’s it for now I can’t think of other reasons. Feel free to comment your own opinion and your reasons for wanting a baby or not wanting one.
*Update for everyone being salty in the comments:
1. Just because I don't like kids that much, doesn't mean I hate on them.
2. Me and others who might not want kids, are still human beings. Just because we decided this way, does not make us less of a human being.
3. This Take was to show you all that there are people who don't wish for a child, to show you a different perspective, but this update is definetly a justification.
And please do me a favor and read your comments again, you can totally disagree with me but please be an adult with it.