I Don’t Want a Baby and I Mean it! (Page 2)

[spunkygiraffe]

Do what you want, that's my advice. Don't feel pressured into having a child, some people will be delighted at the thought of having a baby. It's a big decision, and certainly not one that should take lightly. So much time and energy goes into carrying, having, and raising a child. Live your life by your terms, and make sacrifices that you're comfortable with!

[OldSchool_Metalhead]

nice take! no joke my closest friend thinks the same as you do about having kids. I wouldn't mind being a mom someday, I actually like the thought of having a little girl or boy to love and care for. But every individual is entitled to their own decision about becoming a parent so you have the right to stick by yours.

[Comawhite666]

Yes! I agree so much, I have NEVER wanted children at all >.< It's annoying too that if a guy says he never wants kids in the future, no one seems to care, but if a female says that everyone thinks you'll just change your mind about it.

[JudgmentDay]

Haters are always gonna be haters and won't accept any perspectives that are different than theirs.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Don't you just wish others will simply honor the choices you make and respect you for your preferences? You know what you want and don't want. Don't let others upset you. Be happy about yourself already knowing your choices and standing by them.

[passinby]

I highly recommend that you get your tubes tied because no kid could or should be raised by a mother that hates it and doesn't want it. So the answer is simple and less effort to decide than writing this take. This will solve all the problems that you cite.

[englisc]

Reason number 7 has never made sense to me. We live in the easiest time ever. Modern technology makes ours lives too easy in fact, I think that's why we have people who think the way you do because people don't think like this in places where life is a lot harder. It weakens people. You gain strength through hardship - modern people have no hardship in comparison to our ancestors. Most adults today are like children themselves, I notice this especially in those who don't want any children.

[Nik1hil]

After reading this article!..
I have only one thing to say!..
I don't want babies too..
To me a women like you is perfect!..
Will you marry me?

I had my babysitting experience taking care of a brother 6yr younger than me..
I am done with it for life.

[JudgmentDay]

Wouldn't it be great if all the people that didn't want kids can have their own designated location, like their own little continent, state/country or land so that can at least have a chance at finding somebody in the same category as they are?

It still does not absolutely guarantee that a relationship or marriage would work out though, although I suppose it would be a good start.

[Nik1hil]

@JudgmentDay quite thoughtful..

[JudgmentDay]

The closest thing would be designated dating apps and online dating websites, but even then they hardly ever work out either. A long while back there was such a "ChildFree" dating website known as YesChildFree.

[Nik1hil]

@JudgmentDay it won't work..
99.99% women want children

[JudgmentDay]

Don't forget that they can change their minds too. The only ones that are absolutely serious about it would probably already had surgery and had their tubes tied.

[SngBirdy]

I dont understand why you made this post. If you dont want kids, dont have kids. But dont expect society or men to think its "normal". Having children is the most natural thing in the world, of course its going to be weird for other people.

Honestly if you seriously didn't care about other peoples opinions, you wouldn't have made this thread to justify your mindset.

[rutty]

I am totally with you girl! I don't want to have children either... I get annoyed when I hear them crying. And they are very expensive... Also your freedom is a big part of it... Not being able to do what you want when you want, or not having the money because you need the money for your baby. I think I'd rather adopt too... I mean hey, not everyone has to have children... If you don't want them then that's your choice! :)

[Drinkingcoffee]

I’m torn. I like babies and would like one.
But I also think mothers lives are incredibly sad. I want a baby but don’t want to be a mother, so I’ll stick with my parrots lol

[JudgmentDay]

You've adopted parrots LOL

[Drinkingcoffee]

@JudgmentDay honestly, not much different to babies hahahah parrot friend once told me they’re harder because kids will eventually grow up. Parrots are like having a toddler that never grows up

[JudgmentDay]

The expectations are much lower, parrots can't let you down in the same way another human being can.

[Drinkingcoffee]

@JudgmentDay nah, they’ll never hurt you, betray you

[JudgmentDay]

@Drinkingcoffee Imagine raising a person and they turned out to be some horrible monster, either some criminal thug, murderer or rapist, and look at those that raised a person and turned out to be a mass shooter, it's like how the hell does one live with that kind of an outcome? I guess they were all just too optimistic and not realistic about all of the risks and consequences and possibles outcomes. Completely blind and ignorant to the reality and the fact of how little control to no control that one has over whomever once created and brought into existence.

[jmstarling]

I don;t get why some people can't accept that not every woman wants to get pregnant and/or raise a child, even if she likes children. I like kids, but I think I'd rather my future wife and I help friends with their kids than get her pregnant.

[AlphaGhost]

Its no big deal cuz we are facing overpopulation and food shortage issues anyway and every little bit will help.

[JudgmentDay]

More people added into this world, MORE PEOPLE WOULD THUS EVENTUALLY BE SUBTRACTED FROM IT AS WELL. Does nobody ever recognize this?

[A-man-22]

It's your choice, I would be fine with it. Children are more trouble than they are worth. I don't want children at the moment, i would only change my mind if I came across an extremely trustworthy and loyal wife.

[Browneye57]

Having children, a family, isn't about GETTING. It's about GIVING. Surely you may never be in a place to give more than you get. This is a typical immature mental state. So yes, when you actually grow up you're likely to change. Then again, perhaps not.
Bottom line though, if you really don't want children, please don't have them. It's miserable for the kid.

[jmstarling]

My mom was desperately attached to me making her proud. As such, I was never able. If I sang at church and got a standing ovation, she objected to the song.

[Anpu23]

Good for you. If it's not something that you want, why would anyone else have an issue with it. Maybe your parents would like grandchildren but that's about all who have any say.

[Kaneki05]

I don't want kids aswell i wouldn't mind adopting a child over 11 years old but otherwise no thank you.

[Massageman]

Yes, children are costly. Yes, they are a bother. Yes, they are wonderful. Ps 127:3. Everything in life has a balance of plusses and minuses. You may feel free to focus on the minuses. I'll focus on the pluses. Number 6 isn't a reason, by the way, just a viewpoint displaced from Number 2.

[art84]

I myself don't like kids as they are handful when they get older and they are expensive to care for. I don't there's nothing wrong with a women not wanting children. Some women are set in that they don't want children and that's alright.

[TrixiePooch]

I heard that it cost $300.000 to raise a baby to the age of 17. That's a good chunk of change.

[JudgmentDay]

It's close to two hundred thirty four thousand dollars (~$234,000) to raise a child to 18 last reported in 2017:

www.cnpp.usda.gov/expenditures-children-families-annual-report

time.com/.../

That's about a quarter of a million dollars.

[OlderAndWiser]

If you don't want to be a mother, you should not be a mother. It's that simple!