It is certainly not wrong to challenge traditional gender roles and traits, but it can come at a cost. I think there's a lot of confusion as to "what went wrong" which in turn creates a lot of anxiety. So, for that, here are some traditionally masculine traits that I see some girls exhibiting that men complain about...
1) Emotional Apathy
Women have forever been seen as the more emotional of the sexes. As a result, "emotionality" has been connected in the human brain with "femininity." A man who is too outwardly emotional can be seen as too feminine as well. A woman, then, who has no perceivable emotionality is considered masculine a lot of the time. Feminism and general self help targeted towards women encourages women to be less connected to their feelings so that they don't get hurt. This is understandable. But the cost is a lot of men don't enjoy these women anymore. when you're with your guys you get all the insensitivity you could ever want. A lot of men look to their relationships with women as a way to interact with someone who is more connected to her spirit and her feelings. Further, some women seem to want to go out of their way to show the guy "they don't care." While it's good not to be thirsty, the stone faced woman is not as sexy to most men as the stone faced man is to most women.
2) Giving logical advice rather than emotional comfort
A lot of girls who are interested in power and status seem inclined towards giving advice to guys which is more strategic in nature than comforting. This is great if a guy wants to be a power couple, but if he's looking for his girl to be a person to (literally) lick his wounds then such a tough logical approach can be a turnoff.
Not what every guy wants his mother to see on her future daughter-in-law's social media...
3) Showing off your body
This might seem more feminine rather than masculine, but the way i see it showing off your body is showing off period. showing off and bragging is seen as traditionally something boys do more than girls. Of course when you walk into starbucks with practically see through pants it will get a guys interest but if you're dating a girl and she's always putting it out it won't always make you think she's a slut but subconsciously there will be no "mystery" to her. Those types of clothes break from the traditional conservativism of women.
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not saying any woman should change at all but i write this only to help women realize what is sometimes at play when a guy starts to lose interest. there are certainly many things men do that turn women off because they're seen as traditionally feminine as well...
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