Yes, thank you, it is definitely something that can happen for both genders. I just see it so much in the "nice guy" form that I had to address it. Not to mention my personal experiences, lol.
Interesting... I would say this is gender blind in my experience, for example a girl can feel like she must do what her significant other wants because he cares so much for her and does things for her (ie is a really nice guy), even if those things aren't necessarily what she likes or wants. The most important part falls under point one I believe, you need to be self confident enough to speak up. If something isn't right or you don't want to do something, you have to say so.
You're welcome :) I've had the fortune of meeting several assertive yet genuinely kind men. This article is not for them. This is for the passive-aggressive takers and patronizers.
i used to be "nice guy." Once I learned who I really was and shed the layers of want and need, I found at my core I'm not a nice guy at all - I was just trying to hard to please and impress. A facade!
Many dudes have this same realization at some point. The kicker is I got way more action as a nice guy than the indifferent and dismissive smug bastard I have become years later.
Hate to say it, but there is some truth to the old idiom.
Great article! Every guy needs to read this. Girls honestly want guys to be themselves and do good things because they want to, not because they feel they have to.
alll good cept for being selfless which to me is probably the most desirable characteristic a person can have. Being a hero not so you can be a hero but because the thing is what is necessary
I think the ones that will miss the point the most are the nice guys you mention. They will usually because they have the ego of Gaston and the bitterness of Scar. adamfk1 as an example.
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Yes, thank you, it is definitely something that can happen for both genders. I just see it so much in the "nice guy" form that I had to address it. Not to mention my personal experiences, lol.
Interesting... I would say this is gender blind in my experience, for example a girl can feel like she must do what her significant other wants because he cares so much for her and does things for her (ie is a really nice guy), even if those things aren't necessarily what she likes or wants. The most important part falls under point one I believe, you need to be self confident enough to speak up. If something isn't right or you don't want to do something, you have to say so.
Story of my whole freaking childhood =P
It's always nice to revisit these thoughts every now and again to keep my sight focused on what I want in life.
Nice read ;-)
You're welcome :) I've had the fortune of meeting several assertive yet genuinely kind men. This article is not for them. This is for the passive-aggressive takers and patronizers.
i used to be "nice guy." Once I learned who I really was and shed the layers of want and need, I found at my core I'm not a nice guy at all - I was just trying to hard to please and impress. A facade!
Many dudes have this same realization at some point. The kicker is I got way more action as a nice guy than the indifferent and dismissive smug bastard I have become years later.
Hate to say it, but there is some truth to the old idiom.
Realize! But don't turn to the dark side.
Great article! Every guy needs to read this. Girls honestly want guys to be themselves and do good things because they want to, not because they feel they have to.
I freakin' love you for using Disney characters as a comparison for "Nice Guys." xD
And YES, that guy trolls my comments and other girls' comments saying how "ugly" he is.
alll good cept for being selfless which to me is probably the most desirable characteristic a person can have. Being a hero not so you can be a hero but because the thing is what is necessary
nice article ^^
sadly it happens way too often and the dude with the mask is very good at playing the game lol
Yay! Yeah guys who can't be themselves/act passive-aggressive are just not boyfriend material. Change needs to take place first.
Yes! Exactly! And it feels so insincere and "fake." Most, if not none, of the women out there like fake, half-assed comments from a desperate guy lol.
Good for you! And yeah, that's understandable; the opposite genderes often don't treat each other right, so trust has to be earned :/
Nice guys lack courage to be themselves. That's why they don't form close attachments too readily. Good points here!
I think the ones that will miss the point the most are the nice guys you mention. They will usually because they have the ego of Gaston and the bitterness of Scar. adamfk1 as an example.
I'm sure i could pick at small points, but broadly good article.
you know what sucks about the online world? rappore just doesn't exist much...
wow I think I gotta change a little bit.thanks,great article
Correction: passive-aggressive fakers, but takers can certainly apply ;)
Very good and valuable article. I'm surprised to see this on here.
GREATEST article ever!
Guys please listen to this!