I have always tried to be perfect for a man, for him to love me. After being battered and bruised ...all my blood,sweat and tears, I've decided to say fuck it. My hair ...gone ,my nails...super long, My clothes ...fucking edgy. I've decided that I will go with the path my heart tells me and never conform to what a man wants because it brings me tears in all accounts. I'm done being the perfect girl ...Your perfect potential girlfriend. That femininity inside me ...gone . I'm done hiding in the safety of what I want. It's like I'm going for the throne I'm ruling alone and I don't need a man. I'm done crying . It's time to be happy.
Different guys want different things. I can't tell if you're saying you're going to stop doing the things you've stated above or start doing the things you've stated above to be honest. Either way I'd say you've only just now hit the point where you'll actually find the type that is right for you... because you've only now decided to just be yourself.
To give it more perspective, I could dress up in a suit and trade in my Police Interceptor for a Mustang, and yeah I might attract that type that wants to get taken to wine and dine, and play dress up herself with all the fixins. But would that girl really work for me or make me happy? No... I like getting dirty in the woods, cargo pants, and my no mid back length metal hair. That's me, and all I would get for being fake, is a fake girl too.
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damn i been down that road of being beat down and wishing i was dead... i still feel that way due to my past and now being 39 and alone cuz iam over weight and act like a child when i get super happy and hyper.. i have adhd badly but i look at my life and by all rigjts shud be dead but i push on to help make people happy not with money or items i try to make people happy with happy emotions evem tho iam a train wreck emotional wise i am super empithatic
Maybe you're just giving the best of yourself to men that dont deserve it. there's men out there that will appreciate you for you. Every man and relationship u go through is a lesson learned and a precaution for the next one. Little by little you learn more about yourself and your standards, what you can and can't handle and what is healthy for you or not. As you get older it becomes easier to face these pains in life. But what is life without these twists and turns. Right?
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I am sad for you, I treat my lovely wife like I would expect her to treat me. You are possibly not seeing the wood for the trees. there are a lot of shitty men out there. The men will lie and tell you anything to get into your panties. So when you go out appear aloof for sometime. You are not pump and dump material. Did your father, abuse your mom, how did he treat them?
You know what now you are more perfect that when you were "Perfect" - Be yourself, love and accept yourself - If a man doesn't love that version of you, it is his loss
It might have worked well for you, in the long run, if instead of trying to be perfect, which is impossible to achieve, you just tried to be a good version of yourself.
How about you just concentrate on not be in being a dumb slut? Hell, all some chicks gotta do to be perfect is avoid cheating then lying about it...
Are you aware that you are now some other type of guy´s perfect potential girlfriend?
And so another feminist is born. In the time it took you to be butt hurt enough to swear off guys, some butt hurt guy became a MGTOW. And so it goes. Bitterness kills.
Not sure i follow 100%, but do what you think is good for you.
I would also say don't give up on guys. There are a lot of idiots, but there are good people too.You shouldn't have to try to be the perfect girl, if a person truly loves you the attraction should come naturally
Nooooo! Don't stop being perfect! We need perfect girls! Perfeeeeection!
Okay.
But you shld tell these to those who made you frustrated...Good on you for your choice, just know the consequences and take ownership.
Then be the bad , dirty girl who gets into trouble🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Do it.No such thing as perfect, we don't expect it from you, you shouldn't expect it from us!
ok, well I am sorry you have had it rough, good luck to you
Well, good for you. Just be yourself and you will find someone who will like you for being you.
Dont worry about being the perfect girl, Concentrate on that person who thinks you already are.
You will come around baby. You are in depression right now.
You should be who you think you are not what other people think you are
Just do you, best way to attract someone who will end up being a keeper.
You never were one because there are no perfect girls to begin with. ..
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