This is really just an honest take from the bottom of my heart. Turns out, I'm probably incompatible with many different women just because of the way I think and my world views and tendencies.
So this take is all about highlighting what annoys me about the women of tinder.
1. You think too highly of yourselves.
Honestly. It's entitlement and it's seriously annoying. Am I going to be less sexually attracted to you because you annoy me? No. Male sex drive doesn't work that way. Will I be annoyed? Yes. Will saying this make you change your minds? No, probably not. But that doesn't make this behavior any less spectacular /sarcasm.
2. You get what you want, but don't care.
We know other guys are interested. We do. But to be perfectly honest, you all abuse your power in the sexual market place for self-gain. It's pretty lame -- and no I'm not slut shaming, I'm just annoyed.
3. Stop lying to men about what you want.
You give men you are physically attracted to special treatment and make exceptions for them -- I know because I've been that guy before. You also treat men you are physically unattracted to worse than other men and go out of your way to make sure they know it. I know because I've been this guy too.
It's stupid.
Just be consistent and say what you mean. Be blunt and straightforward and don't contradict yourself.
I've been able to force the truth out of people by asking piercing questions and by cutting bullshit in the past. And it's incredible how much work it takes just to get the truth out sometimes. Just say what you mean, it's so helpful when you do.
4. Stop flaking out on men.
This is literally the worst. Flaky, flaky, flaky. Nothing is guaranteed ever. I don't like that. If you don't want to talk anymore, end it and don't ghost. Say something. And if you agree to meetup, don't change your mind at the last second. This is so common. A meetup could be set, and then some lame made up excuse is given right at the last moment to cancel the whole thing. Wow. Lame.
If you change your mind and don't want to do it anymore, then one give us some heads up and notice before hand so we can do something else during that time instead of get ready and two don't make up some half-assed lie about your reasons for changing your mind. Just say why you changed your mind. That's actually useful information.
5. If you match, stop ignoring messages.
Yeah, you get a lot of matches. We all know. Don't get too many matches all at once if you can't keep up with the conversations you currently have. It's impolite. Okay? We would greatly appreciate it.
6. Send us a message.
Just do it. If you don't like us enough to send us a message do us a favor and don't match with us. Because otherwise, what's the point?
You wait for me to send a message, then maybe ignore it. Lame. Whoever sends a message first should just be whoever is on the app sooner after matching. It really doesn't need to be more complicated than that. I'm tired of catering to this self-inflated ego I see all over the place. Truly, I am.
I am lookng to use the app as advertised, and that's really it. I didn't sign up to be a serf to your valdation.
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So that's it for now. I realize these points can sound off-putting to probably a small majority of women in the world, which is unfortunate because it signals fundamental incompatibilities between myself and many others.
Not everyone, but it's becoming apparent to me that I cannot assume I will actually like a person before meeting them. Which is sad, because I don't have any ulterior motives or any reason to dislike people on the app except for when I see these traits.
That's all for now. ✌
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