Being infertile makes me feel empty. It makes me wonder what my purpose in life is. I often wonder what growing old childless will be like. It looks so lonely. I would love nothing more than to experience the kind of love that exists between a mother and child. I hope to adopt some day but adoption is for wealthy people.. Infertility is the most painful fact of my life. 😢😭
Infertility is just a defect to a body. It seems unlucky and sad at some point. But hey look at the bigger picture. You are not that poor with love. Do you? It's love thats between mom and child. If you have plenty of love you can have whole bunch of children. Adoption is not just a legal term to own a baby. It also means a great love without any boundary. As long as you are successful in delivering your love, you will always have your own child. Open up your heart and throw away rubbish thoughts. Cuz I know you are still blessed with love of mother nature, love of God. Spread it.
All I want to know is, is your marriage legit or just one of those "we talked a lot online so now we are married" things that love sick and desperate people do? I mean you live just short of 9 hours away from each other and in two different states, so it seems a little weird.
I think it’s so strange that so many people who actually want kids really badly are infertile and people who don’t want them keep having accidental kids and stuff. But I think adoption is a wonderful thing. However many people are unwilling to do it.
I’d trade reproductive abilities with you if I could.
Maybe you can be a foster parent or save up for adoption?
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Ok obviously I don’t know the whole situation. Maybe you have had your ovaries removed. I’m not sure.
But if it is not the case, you do realise a large number of people who are told they can’t have kids or are infertile do have kids, you do know this right,
It’s just like If you get diagnosed with cancer, and you say to your doctor, I am going to cure and reverse this myself, they laugh and say that won’t be possible. You can’t reverse disease yourself, it is not possible, but guess what a lot of people do!
Infertility can be reversed. But half the battle in healing is you need to believe something is possible. If you don’t believe in the first place that you can heal your infertility, it won’t happen.
I really hope you research heavily into holistic approaches to fertility, and alternative theories to modern western medicine for example.
Because you are right, this is a horrible mindset and way to live. And I would hate to think you live like this when you don’t have to,
Of course I don’t know everything. But I do know there’s a good chance you don’t fall into that 1 percent just not possible scenarios, chances are you fit into the 99 percent of women who it is possibly to reverse such a diagnosis,
Goodluck x
I understand what you are going through. Only difference is I never wanted kids, but when I was 22 and the doctors told me I will never carry a child to term that if I get pregnant I will miscarry. I was angry and upset, I felt less of woman. Now I never have a choice if I were to change my mind. The choice was taken away from me due to a drug they gave my mother for morning sickness while pregnant with me. You don't need a lot of money to Adopt Foster Children, something to think about when you and your husband are ready.
Adopting from foster care is actually a lot cheaper than u think. Especially if u adopt a child above the age of 8. Please do ur research, there actually are a lot of options. Agencies are the expensive part, going through the foster care system allows u to get to know them too.
I really do hope it works out for you. I couldn’t imagine not being able to have kids, in fact I’m paranoid everyday that I won’t be able to have kids ( and I’m not sure why ) but if it doesn’t work out, maybe you could fill that void by doing maternal work. You could volunteer at day cares, or just do any job that involves taking care of someone. I work at a retirement home and I love it because I get to take care of people that need me. That’s just a suggestion but don’t give up!
Damn, such a pity that being infertile happens to people who don't want it and those who want it are fertile.
I'm going to pay a lot of money to become infertile. While some people pay a lot to become fertile.
If I could I would switch places with you without hesitation.
Adoption would be such a gift like other commenters have said. I do understand the painful idea that you may never be able to carry, though. Just the thought myself breaks my heart. Have you thought of IVF? Would you be a good candidate? That is if you have tried other options first. IVF is becoming more affordable as the days go on.
Not sure what you believe, but I was raised Lutheran Christian, like 'Catholic Lite' without the guilt!
If you believe anything like this, maybe god made you, the way you are, and with the things you are dealing with, and you have this feeling, because some wonderful orphan child is coming, when you are ready, and will be the most amazing, fulfilling gift, even though you cannot have your own?
I think if you leave your heart open you will find a way to adopt or help children in some way to nurture your mothering instincts. Just release the worry and see what fills you up instead. If you can't get over the sadness seek medical help through therapy.
It is really fucked up that good people is infertile while some assholes actually have children and doesn't even take care of them or have them for child support, treating them like a business. I'm sorry you are going through this, but being a woman is so much more than having children.
Besides, the adoption route is always possible. If you really want it, you'll find the way to make it happen.
My aunt made a huge impact on my life. She is very intelligent had a kind heart, she has some masculine ways of thinking that my father lacked, so as a boy this was important for me to try and integrate. She was/is infertile, but her impact that she made on this world in her fields of research and work will have a lasting effect.
I'm really sorry for this but I think god have a wise thought to makes you like that so don't be sad maybe not having kids protects you from something we didn't know, you know I'm still virgin and really afraid of being sterile... don't be sad you don't know why :)
Heyy... No way thats not the truth.. Our world has progressed a lot. There are different ways you can have babies now. Why stick to the old traditional getting pregnant when you can adopt, give another baby a wonderful life?
Hmmmm it's reality thing dear but trust me I have seen people give birth and regretted for having a child. What if you get only one child then you loose it again forever, how would you feel? Compare to how you are feeling right now. Be happy for your life joy will soon come.
I'm so sorry to hear that. Try go find something in life you can focus on that will leave a mark. There are more ways out there. And you can adopt in the future, your finances might improve.
When in doubt focus on better yourself, at least its productive
In what way are you infertile? You make eggs but they don't stick? Or your eggs don't work? You can take your eggs and put it in someone else. Then it's your kid. And I bet there are other ways to. Like DNA infusion in a neutral egg and so on. Also there are millions of babies and kids that don't have parents, and you can adopt some.
You can adopt or foster children.
Dont rush it save up and plan for ot in the future.
There is other things to do in life aside from sex. You're still young and have time. You won't have children which means you can focus on having a full time career and be successful! The world is already overpopulated, there is other things that you can do. And there is many sterile men who can't have children you can still get a partner!
you got to be sure what you want to do if you like kids and are patient that is a plus it will be easier to deal with them yes being a parent is great but make sure you really want it its a tough decision just know that nobody can think what you think give what you give and say what you feel !
Adoption through an agency is expensive, but it can be cheap through the government, especially if you foster. Often, fostering can get you $1k per month, though, you'll likely spend more than that on the kid.
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