My Explanation For Being Terrified Of Having Kids

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People tend to view kids as objects that are half human. I think they are full humans who didn't have a choice to be on this planet; their parents simply wanted them to be here. The parents don't really care about what could possibly happen to them in the future because they just want them to exist for some reason. It's just a biological thing called continuing your species...

My main reasons for not having kids are because they cost too much money, they require too much responsibility, they whine, they're time consuming, they can cause trouble, and they are NOT going to make me a happier person which is a common misconception. With my last myTake I was very original because I stated my fears (minor reasons) about not wanting kids, not the common things people usually say, but unfortunately some people took it the wrong way. They thought I'm the type of guy who wants kids but is afraid of having them which isn't true.

Here are some of my explanations for the minor reasons of not wanting them.

I'm afraid they will be too tall:

They are my kids and of course they can inherit my genes. Of course, a person who isn't that tall won't understand the disadvantage of being too tall especially when they aren't as tall as me or even close. I actually take pride in being one of the first guys to complain about this if you haven't noticed. Being too tall causes issues like not fitting inside of clothes and etc. And if you still think it doesn’t then…

I don’t personally like to go through it myself. Why would I want to put someone else on earth who might have to go through this issue? Stop trying to marginalize a person’s struggles when you don’t go through them! Yes a person who is taller than the average tall person does get teased about it. They are more likely to be rejected for dates because of their height.

I'm afraid they might get bullied:

Bullying isn’t all about getting physically hurt. People can get emotionally hurt by bullies. I used to cry everyday after I came back from school. I wouldn’t want my kids to go through the same thing or watch them cry when they come from school. When you put a person on the earth, I hate to break it to you but there will be a risk that they will be bullied.

Afraid that kids can leave me and reject me:

Even after everything you give them, they can leave you and never come back. People can be cruel like that even your own child. After finishing college they can reject you. During college they can too, I did it myself but that's a story of itself. I heard of some people who don’t visit their parents in the nursing home. You can't forget them after they leave you forever because you grew to love them and all of the sudden they decide to leave you. It's not something you can easily move on from because it'll stab your heart. It's called betrayal and it will hurt in the long run.

I'm afraid they could die before I die and I'm afraid they could get a disease:

This is unlikely but it does happen unfortunately. This is another reality that people don’t like it when I point it out. I heard about so many stories of how it happened to a lot of parents. Why would I want to put myself at risk for having children? I know but it’s still a valid reason because I can’t control what happens to my child and you can’t predict what the future holds. I can practically have any reason to not want kids no matter how unrealistic it sounds to you.

I don't want to be disappointed by their mistakes:

Some mistakes are permanent and can't be changed. There is nothing that can be learned because the damage is done. Parents feel overwhelmed whenever their child makes a mistake that can't be fixed. I know I would have high standards for my children. Kids make mistakes and sometimes it won’t be fixed. Some children have became paralyzed because they didn’t listen to their parents. Some girls become pregnant when they are teenagers and refuse to give the child to adoption. Then I’m forced to support her when no one else does. It's mistakes like these that can't be learned from and changed. No, I don't like to punish kids. It doesn’t matter how well you raise them, children can go corrupt at anytime without your control.

I'm afraid they will embarrass me:

Just how your parents have embarrassed you, you have also embarrassed your parents without realizing it. Even I have embarrassed my parents with some of the things I did. I said I would be so embarrassed if my kids are rude, impolite, or horrible human beings. If your child acts that way, people will think that you didn’t raise them probably. Kids have decision making power and can say things that would embarrass you in public. If it wouldn’t embarrass you, then you really should reconsider having kids. I personally don’t want to create something that could embarrass me.

There are parents who can’t see their children as often and it’s not their choice at all because of divorce and work. I could be one of them. What’s the point of having kids if you won’t see them as often? That’s like buying a pet and not spending time with it. What a waste of money!

I'm afraid of my children taking up more of the world's resources:

Yes, every single human being takes up so many resources. If you think it won't be significant then think again and stop being so stupid because children will multiply by creating their own children who will continue to use up the world’s resources. What if my child becomes a big consumer of natural resources because of their large company? I don’t want to contribute to it by having the child.

One person was surprised that men think this deep. I may be one of few men who think this deep. I guess people don’t think the way I think when it comes to kids so it surprises people. My thinking patterns do surprise people. I think some people got mad that I pointed out reality to them and decided to call it stupid, immature or whatever as a way of coping with what reality is like. If you still think I'm ridiculous, then you should be happy that people who think like me don't want kids. Fatherhood is a choice and shouldn't be a requirement in life. I can have any reason to not want kids.

I personally think having kids are a selfish idea because you are putting someone of this universe when they didn’t choose to be born. Most people would not choose to be born if they knew what life would be in store for them before they were born.