My first real relationship ended two weeks ago and it hurts but i need to move on. I wrote this to encourage myself and I thought I should share it.
I believe in God thus I make reference to him a lot in this article. If you do not like hearing about him read at your own risk.
Regrets:
What is the main reason you hold back? Challenge it, be brave. Teach yourself why it is necessary that you have freedom and obtain it.
Note that you cannot base your happiness on someone else, people will come and go. Be happy with who you are 1st and then it will keep people around you. Happiness is contagious (if you are healthy and put into a room with only sick people, eventually you will get sick. When you are depressed and unhappy it transfers to the people around, if they stay they too become ill, the smart ones will leave to prevent the turmoil. So if you are not happy with yourself why would anyone want to be around you?)
Show people you love and care for them: If you cannot love yourself, you will never understand why someone else will love you so you couldn’t return it.
Forgiveness:
Be brave and confident to accept your mistakes and know that in the future they are the reason you are anchored in whatever decision you make. Do not let it drown you, it is the past. Move on and learn, do not let it belittle you. In doing so you will appreciate each good moment life serves you. If you have forgiven people who have done wrong to you that you cannot control. You can forgive yourself, for you have total control of your life.
Time Lost:
It is the past. It wouldn’t change. Smile at the good times, learn from the bad times. Recreate the good times and strive to never repeat the bad. Let it be a reason you utilize and value YOUR TIME wisely. So rather than sitting in guilt and depression use time to build on your character.
Grief would not change the current situation. It only worsens it. Whether it was his faults or your fault. Strive to better your good and eliminate your bad. Learn to recognize the difference. Identify which is more dominant in the people you encounter on a daily basis, always trust your gut feeling.
Reconnect with yourself:
Set goals. What would you like to accomplish over the next few weeks, months or year(s)?
Create Separation:
Avoid contact with whatever is bothering you. Doing so is like making it your new hobby. Drop it and find something edifying. Visit it once a month, every two months until you barely remember it.
Let yourself feel:
Give into your emotions, but don’t bury yourself in it. Just accept it and move on. Shift your focus from the past to the present and most likely the future you envision.
Try to be happy each day. Visit your daily activities at night, focus on what made the day great and if something really bad has happened seek God for comfort but also thank him when the day went well.
Stop dwelling in guilt forgive yourself daily.
Remember the benefits of moving on:
You get to start over. Obviously it wasn’t as perfect as you thought it was or else it would have stood the test of time. Go out meet new people, meet their friends and family. Do what you love, be wise and do not repeat your mistakes. There isn’t anyone to bring up past failures and that is what’s great about starting over.
Recognize and Replace fear:
There will come a point in your life where you will have fruitfulness and happiness. Thank God for his blessing, appreciate it, share it with the world and do your uttermost best to keep it. Have faith Good things takes time. God knows what’s best for us, trust and believe in him.
That’s the reason a parent will take a pretty pink tablet from child. It appears as candy, but in reality its no good, so mom/dad strips it away. The child will be upset at first but with time he will understand why. It is the same principle with God he knows what’s best for us.
Impermanence:
Nothing lasts forever.
Appreciate the people who support and love you. When you find it hard to appreciate them, imagine life without them, improve your efforts. Live a constructive life, always strive to do better.
If you feel like you want to cling to people and their experience. Remind yourself that these things are curses and adventures. You choose the outcome. When you reflect on it do they make you feel happy or sad? If it makes you happy, smile and let it be a reason to motivate you to do better.
If it makes you sad, it’s no good for you, leave it alone before it scars you for life.
TRUST IN GOD
I believe in God thus I make reference to him a lot in this article. If you do not like hearing about him read at your own risk.
Regrets:
What is the main reason you hold back? Challenge it, be brave. Teach yourself why it is necessary that you have freedom and obtain it.
Note that you cannot base your happiness on someone else, people will come and go. Be happy with who you are 1st and then it will keep people around you. Happiness is contagious (if you are healthy and put into a room with only sick people, eventually you will get sick. When you are depressed and unhappy it transfers to the people around, if they stay they too become ill, the smart ones will leave to prevent the turmoil. So if you are not happy with yourself why would anyone want to be around you?)
Show people you love and care for them: If you cannot love yourself, you will never understand why someone else will love you so you couldn’t return it.
Forgiveness:
Be brave and confident to accept your mistakes and know that in the future they are the reason you are anchored in whatever decision you make. Do not let it drown you, it is the past. Move on and learn, do not let it belittle you. In doing so you will appreciate each good moment life serves you. If you have forgiven people who have done wrong to you that you cannot control. You can forgive yourself, for you have total control of your life.
Time Lost:
It is the past. It wouldn’t change. Smile at the good times, learn from the bad times. Recreate the good times and strive to never repeat the bad. Let it be a reason you utilize and value YOUR TIME wisely. So rather than sitting in guilt and depression use time to build on your character.
"If you are not happy with yourself why would anyone want to be around you?"Bad and Good times:
Grief would not change the current situation. It only worsens it. Whether it was his faults or your fault. Strive to better your good and eliminate your bad. Learn to recognize the difference. Identify which is more dominant in the people you encounter on a daily basis, always trust your gut feeling.
Reconnect with yourself:
Set goals. What would you like to accomplish over the next few weeks, months or year(s)?
Create Separation:
Avoid contact with whatever is bothering you. Doing so is like making it your new hobby. Drop it and find something edifying. Visit it once a month, every two months until you barely remember it.
Let yourself feel:
Give into your emotions, but don’t bury yourself in it. Just accept it and move on. Shift your focus from the past to the present and most likely the future you envision.
Try to be happy each day. Visit your daily activities at night, focus on what made the day great and if something really bad has happened seek God for comfort but also thank him when the day went well.
Stop dwelling in guilt forgive yourself daily.
Remember the benefits of moving on:
You get to start over. Obviously it wasn’t as perfect as you thought it was or else it would have stood the test of time. Go out meet new people, meet their friends and family. Do what you love, be wise and do not repeat your mistakes. There isn’t anyone to bring up past failures and that is what’s great about starting over.
There will come a point in your life where you will have fruitfulness and happiness. Thank God for his blessing, appreciate it, share it with the world and do your uttermost best to keep it. Have faith Good things takes time. God knows what’s best for us, trust and believe in him.
That’s the reason a parent will take a pretty pink tablet from child. It appears as candy, but in reality its no good, so mom/dad strips it away. The child will be upset at first but with time he will understand why. It is the same principle with God he knows what’s best for us.
Impermanence:
Nothing lasts forever.
Appreciate the people who support and love you. When you find it hard to appreciate them, imagine life without them, improve your efforts. Live a constructive life, always strive to do better.
If you feel like you want to cling to people and their experience. Remind yourself that these things are curses and adventures. You choose the outcome. When you reflect on it do they make you feel happy or sad? If it makes you happy, smile and let it be a reason to motivate you to do better.
If it makes you sad, it’s no good for you, leave it alone before it scars you for life.
TRUST IN GOD
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