Selfish women VS Rational women
A lot of y'all assume all feminists and pro choice women are the worst. I understand there's a bit of an overlap and some females may come off plain harsh sometimes which helps you formulate a negative opinion, but here's a good take for the sake of clarity :
A) rational women
B) selfish women
Note that both women don't want children.
A)
- firmly presents her lack of interest in motherhood. Has had the baby talk with partner since day 1.
- uses contraceptives wisely.
- wouldn't neglect "no glove no love" rule.
- doesn't force fatherhood on men. She understands that if a man you're sleeping with was clear beforehand about his disinterest in becoming a parent, he doesn't need to pay for it.
- for her, being single is okay as majority of partners dream about family making.
- would make the guy pay for abortion procedure if he's one of those "I can change her mind, gimme some time" types.
- doesn't force her child free opinion on her partner. Break ups are hurtful, but what's more hurtful is you want your own kiddo but for the sake of your partner's, you don't chance to get one.
- has plan B pills just for spontaneous encounters.
- goes for abortion if the birth control failed. As her partner and herself has already went over this, she just needs to mention she's getting it done. If he wanted to object, he should have during the baby talk.
- knows adoption is an option. Too many kids out there who can use a loving home.
- only cares about her partner's opinion and hers. Screw society.
- wouldn't keep a baby resulted from rape. Traumatic experiences don't need souvenirs.
- has child free friends, as well as a partner who understands family isn't necessarily having kids. Pets are family. Close roomies are family. Polyamorous group relationships is also family.
B)
- her insecure self thinks no man would want her if she were to reject motherhood openly. So she postpones the baby talk... Until she's knocked up.
- complains about government and lack of abortion rights, asks around what can be done, something feels off about this whole deal, gets talked into childbirth.
- keeps her disinterest a secret, either for societal validation or personal insecurities, which society says childbirth can overcome.
- is careless with body, that is, she finds out about her pregnancy so late that even abortion rights can't help her.
- has never had baby talk and doesn't ask the father if he wants the kid. Condoms break, and this Missy assumes all men would & should soldier up. Its partly his fault too to never have expressed his doubts or disinterest regarding the matter.
- doesn't have support of child free community, or similar social support. Everyone's against her. Self doubts only increase.
- thinks feminism is about only pro choice women. Wants abortion rights, but if that can't be done, she argues all fathers must pay. Blames the father.
- complicates the situation by deciding she'd give it up for adoption. The kid either struggles at orphanage or with his/her unprepared parents. Either way, lives are ruined.
The overlap is both would value money over anything, romantic intimacy over family making, and lastly would need love and acceptance. The selfish one is more likely to become neglectful parent, the other one just wouldn't care.
Stay tuned for more takes,
anon1903
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