Why I friend-zoned you

[Anonymous]

1. You were too much fun

I love being around you. You are so much fun!

The goofy stuff you do and how you attract a crowd with your funny quotes.

But if we ever dated…I’d be associated with you and judged accordingly.

And I don’t want to be associated with burping the alphabet and mooning old people.

2. You were too sweet

I love how you are totally interested in my life.

You ask me how my day went. You give your shoulder when I cry.

Every. Single. Day.

You bought me teddybears and roses. How very romantic.

Or kinda creepy. You know... In a stalker kinda way.

3. You were so in touch with your emotions

I love how you are not afraid to show emotions.

Most guys I know don’t get in touch with their feminin side.

But I’m not gay so…

I like my men to be men. Sharing emotions is fine later on in the relationship.

But you immediatley were more Jane than Tarzan.

4. You were too familiar

I love how we’ve been friends for like forever.

We scraped our knees together. Remember we were bathed together by our moms? I'm sure I still have the pictures somewhere.

And every bit of it was familiar heaven.

You’re like my brother now. And you liking me feels so wrong!

5. You don’t even like you!

Long story short: confidence is everything!

All the times you talked to me about nobody wanting you.

The times I disagreed when you said you were ugly (and meant it)

I remember them well.

And although I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you

You became wrong for me at that point

But you know I love you...

[Anonymous]

Why do GAG let some stupid users post random shit? :'( I just wasted 2 precious minutes of my life :/

1. TOO MUCH FUN

Burping or whatever is NEVER fun. It can be comical, but fun includes lots of things. Like, talking for hours and never getting bored, having common things and trying new things out, hanging out at cool places, and there are so many things that I can do with a guy that's TOO MUCH FUN. His witty talks and sense of humor can make things TOO MUCH FUN and make me fall hard.

2. TOO SWEET
Showering a girl with compliments at every second can be clingy, but being sweet, helping her, complimenting her once in a while, encouraging her to achieve her dreams, listening to her, giving her a shoulder to cry, showing her the optimistic side of the world IS THE MOST CONSIDERATE THING A GUY CAN DO FOR ME.

3. TOUCH IN EMOTIONS
Every fucking word your wrote in the paragraph screams immaturity. You want a robot, go and buy a robot, or better, if you really don't need emotions but just dick to fuck you, better go and buy and vibrator :))

4. TOO FAMILIAR
Many people who are childhood friends enter into marriages and last for a lifetime together.

5. LACK OF CONFIDENCE
There's a lot of difference between a person who whine about everything (like the Take owner) and people who are seriously suffering from certain issues in life but try their best to overcome that. I would much rather be with the guy who needs my support and help him in every way I can. Love a person so much that they learn to love themselves. It happens as I have experienced it.

[KleinTeef]

Hmm... I agree with nothing but #6.

You sound quite self-entitled, you're missing on a lot of very good guys.

[KleinTeef]

#3 is the stupidest shit I've ever read on GaG, and believe me there has been some crap on here.

How does it make me gay if I cry, or get emotional when shit happens. Should I not have cried at my aunt's funeral, because it makes me look more like Jane than Tarzan? Fuck off will you.

[lumos]

"3. You were so in touch with your emotions
I love how you are not afraid to show emotions.
Most guys I know don’t get in touch with their feminin side.
But I’m not gay so…
I like my men to be men. Sharing emotions is fine later on in the relationship.
But you immediatley were more Jane than Tarzan."

Wow. Seriously? You're so ignorant. This is the reason why so many men commit suicide every year. Because assholes like you think it's "manly" to hide your feelings and "gay" to express emotions freely. Why is it "fine later in the relationship" but not when you're getting to know each other? I get it, you don't want the guy to be clingy and cry in your lap every day. But did you know that men are able to freely express their emotions WITHOUT actually taking it to the extreme? Also, what a nice fucking way to shame gay and trans people.

Who the hell doesn't want a guy who's sweet, caring and funny? Like I said, I get that you don't want any extremes (clingy, stalker-ish behavior etc). But wtf is so creepy about giving you some flowers or a teddy? Talk about overreacting. And really, most people that are considered funny don't go around burping and mooning people. They're funny because they're witty and tactful, not because they're immature. Rarely have I met someone who truly thinks that mooning people and burping is funny (who's above the age of 17).

[emmabee11]

Your super vain then because us girls say we want a guy who is all those things but some of you are so hard to please... lol make up your minds... sheesh... nobody is perfect... and since when do women these days like themselves ether? lol your always complaining your fat (even when your skinny), you obsess over your weight, you let other people constantly influence you and decide how your life should be instead of making up your own mind, i say screw what other people say... who cares if people might think negative things about you... someone always will no matter who you are or who your with... If someone wants to judge you wrong how can you stick up for them? they are being closed minded, judgmental jerks and it's not his fault or anyone's that people do that, so don't blame a guy on how other people act.

[MaskedSanity]

This, ladies and gentlemen, is how NOT to pick a partner, the bitch edition.

I wholeheartedly disagree with every single point apart from confidence.

Women don't want to be WORSHIPPED, but having a partner with all those qualities of being hilarious, caring, sweet, open and confident is the combination of the perfect boyfriend, which is what my man embodies.

What you've done here is cemented the notion in many guys' heads today is that all women want to date assholes. Thanks for that.

[prog91]

I agree with you MaskedSanity (clever name btw). I've been told before that I'm too nice, but I really don't think I'm "too nice" at all. What does "too nice" even mean? I'm just very in touch with myself and have been through a lot of crap, so I know how to rationalize things very well. One of my exes broke up with me because she was unable to get me mad... I mean really? I just let things slide off, you pick and chose your battles. It seems like most women want someone who will cause them drama, or someone who gets jealous easily. You know what I call those men? WEAK. That is not a man. I don't know if some women just want someone they can show off, or have some drama stories to tell around the water cooler... I really don't know. I just don't get it. You want me to hit you? Grow up and relax. It looks to me like it's her problem aka lack of maturity. Where's all the real women that want a happy, drama free life? Lord knows we have too much bs in this world already.

[MaskedSanity]

@prog91

Take owner is most likely just barely out of her teen years, if that. Her entire post reeks of immaturity. The fact that she thinks having a sense of humour = burping the alphabet and mooning old people, speaks volumes about her intellect.

[godfatherfan]

That is really pathetic. I feel sorry for the woman in this article, whomever she is. To be that judgmental is being a high maintenance cunt. Then to want to try and rub his face in it at the end by pretending to like the person as a friend shows what a truly disgusting human being she is. Men don't want to be friends with women. It does not work ever (straight guys anyway). If you have straight male "friends" there are reasons that the situation is how it is. he is not looking at you like a friend.

[Creole_Flavor]

This take should have been why I rejected you so we can kill this invisible stupid friend zone crap. A guy can never be too fun for me because I don't like to be bored. He can never be too sweet especially if he is just being himself and a guy that is too in touch with his emotions is better than one that is emotionally unavailable. Gosh I would hate to see what kind of list you have for an ideal boyfriend.

[sawno]

I dislike this take for the sole reason you would probably friendzone me lol.
I like to be myself around you, if that means showing my goofy side when i find it appropriate then that means showing my goofy side. If that means opening up and being able to share my emotions to me thats a sign of a strong bond between us (I don't just open up to anyone you know..).

But so be it, you most likely don't want a guy like me and i am totally fine with that. What i am not fine with is the fact the take makes it seem generalized and will prevent guys from being themselves and doing these things.

I'd suggest anyone not to take any advice from this take as its something very personal and will certainly not apply to the girl that fits YOU if you need to adjust to the picture drawn in this take..

[thecd1979]

This is so much the truth. I used to be this kind of guy when I was a younger man as I had plenty of women that were just friends. Looking through the comments from other guys on here I can see a lot of them are not liking what you have to tell them and refuse to believe that their behaviors, insecurity and lack of confidence are the problem. I guess it was no different for me when I was young, immature and lacked confidence. I definitely had to learn the hard way and the majority of these guys are going to learn the same way also. Guys if the shoe fits think about what she has to say here, she’s being real about this.

[ShutUpAndSuckMe]

@OP, ''3. You were so in touch with your emotions

I love how you are not afraid to show emotions.

Most guys I know don’t get in touch with their FEMININE side.
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BUT I’m not gay so…

I like my MEN to be MEN. Sharing emotions is fine later on in the relationship.

But you immediately were more JANE than Tarzan.''.. Fukn LMAO xD!!!

Male feminists everywhere are crying n' their tears are delicious~!

- Take notes white knight paladins cuz this is the type of man you hate, but the women you want.. Love. To. Hate.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sHUgSl4_Yxs

@Patriarchal_Man = 1, @Feminist_boi = 0

[been_waiting]

Please, guys of the Internet, if you stumble across this, don't mark it as proof girls hate nice guys and think that we're all this fucking retarded. OP must be 12.

never have I ever NOT liked a guy because he's "too fun to be around", "too sweet"or "too"in touch with his emotions. That's the dumbest shit I ever heard.

[Anonymous]

I'd like to point out that the sentence "I like my men to be men. Sharing emotions is fine later on in the relationship." sounds pretty sexist.

That's like saying "I like my women to be feminine. Unless they know how to make a decent meal in the kitchen, they're not worth dating."

[Hello_Lemonz]

This is just my opinion..
I personally would like a guy who is very close to me, sweet, and fun to be with.
They don't have to be confident nor so brave. cuz y'know that's what makes them, them..
I know girls can be picky with their guys. (and guys too)
But, I want to tell all you guys/girls who've been friend-zoned..
Don't give up! I hope you'll get a good relationship someday!

[TedStar]

This was so sweet.

[AleDeEurope]

Wait, I don't understand #2. If he's sweet and you like that, why is it creepy? Why don't you want your boyfriend to be sweet? To be there when you cry, and to ask you how was your day?
You like that in a friend but not in a boyfriend? I don't understand :/

Good Take, I agree with all the other points though.

[notverycreativeguy]

All your points except for #5 are not understandable at all and make me think that you aren't that bright...
The worst of your points is probably #3,
you want your men to be men? Alright - if you like traditional gender roles, get in the kitchen and don't dare wearing jeans or trousers.

[aniemist]

Honestly everyone, man or woman wants something a bit different out of a relationship, often the problem is just different expectations for each other. What I believe is most important is that you both have the same expectations and when you are together if feels natural to you. If you don't have this in your relationship it will either be something that you have to work on through communication and mutual trust or you might just have to move on and try to find people that match this.

[geri3ttc]

Hold on... my brain is trying to handle the stupidty and immaturity of this post and poster.

Yep, we've hit man the lifeboats level of stupidity ladies and gents, bail on this sinking ship.

[Bandit74]

i feel like guys who get really emotional too early in the relationship are kinda like girls who have sex too early. It's not always a bad thing but it sometimes makes people loose interest. People seem to like somewhat of a challenge.

[BertMacklinFBI]

daaaaamn someone is damn strong opinionated hahaa :D your opinion rules all!

*bows down*

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[spuitkaas]

I totally don't agree with this post. It sounds like you really want some kind of douchebag/a freakin robot. For me it's actually quite a deal-breaker if a guy can't show his feelings.

[Psych]

Meanwhile I've read countless posts all about "Why can't I find a nice guy?" or "Why are men such jerks?"

It really sucks when some women judge a nice guy b4 really giving them a chance. I've literally had experienced where the more I hung out with girl they looked at me like "What happened to the nice guy?" Just bc we're nice doesn't mean we can't be full of surprises or offer more then you think.

[been_waiting]

This girl doesn't represent all of us. She's in the majority.

When a girl says she wants a nice guy by the way she means nice and cute, smart, and compatible with her, not just any nice guy.

[kheserthorpe]

If you're a young guy reading this, open your eyes, look at people around you and see if it rings true for you. If it does, take it as helpful, if not, ignore it.