White, Asian, Native & Latino men, how do you think your family would feel if you brought home a black girl?

[Anonymous]

...given that she is well-educated, attractive, good family life, and has a decent personality. I am a Creole-Dominican mix (but generalized Black) and I have an issue with my guy who is White & Mexican... his father doesn't feel good about his son dating a black girl. He doesn't know me well, we only met once and maybe that's why he feels that way, but granted he gets to know me and he feels better about it? My guy is not doing well because he mentioned marriage recently and he really loves me, but of course, family comes first, and he doesn't want to upset his family. But he is trying his best to bring my family close with his. But I just wanted to know how most non-black guys who have or would date a black girl has dealt with any negative feedback from friends and family, if any. Thanks. & Girls, how have you dealt with interracial dating?

[Anonymous]

If everyone else in his family is OK with you and him as a couple, then eventually the father will come around! I think you should encourage your guy to talk his father about how much he cares about you, how you make him happy and how much he desires his dad to accept you as person; and for him to tell his dad how much it would mean to him if his dad accepted you.

Plus I think his father is holding a double standard because clearly he is OK with certain interracial dating because your guy is half white and Mexican. People should be with who they love and who treats them well; family should appreciate that and get over race/ethnicity.

[Camilus]

I dated a black girl a while back and my mom really liked her. My dad never met her because he lives in California but he probably wasn't too enthusiastic about it, but he never made any direct comments to me about it when I talked to him until after the relationship was over. My friends didn't care and it wouldn't really matter if they did. The most crap that we got for dating each other didn't come from family and friends but from complete strangers, mostly black guys (at least they were more obvious about it).

[noregret11]

I personally haven't ever dated a black girl, but I don't think that my family would have any problems with it. His father may have problems with it, but I would try to maybe arrange a chance to be with his mom. Maybe go shopping with her, or offer to cook a meal for his family or something. If you can get in with his mom, his dad will follow suit.

[Asker]

Oh, me and his mom are close. She calls me her daughter. We went shopping together for my guys sisters baby shower. It's just the dad who is distant, and he is rarely home because he works like 12 hours a day, and when I do see him he gives me a awkward "hello" and that's it. I am close to my guys siblings & uncle too. But him and his father are really close.

[noregret11]

If his entire family is ok with you, and he loves you, then I don't think his dad will ruin it, him and his family won't let it.

[Anonymous]

well I'm puerto rican and I've been dating a black girl for about two years now and yeaa in the beginning like when she first met my parents it was alittle awkward, they were supprised I guess cause they would expect me to be with another girl who is spanish since I've dated spanish girls in the past but my mom and my siblings have grown to love her because they see that she makes me happy its just been my dad he hasn't really gotten past the fact that I'm going to STAY with her and he used to question me about us all the time even if my mom thought he was wrong for doing it, but its getting better and I'm sure he'll get past it. I'm going to try my best to stay with her as long as possible anyway cause I wouldn't know what I'd do without her.

[arisato-]

I'd like to think no one would care one way or the other about it. Especially if it's just a race thing, and anything important. But if I did catch anyone disliking her due to race, they are gonna have a hefty hospital bill. I operate on a very strict "no racism" policy. I don't care if it's friends, family, or whatever. I would never let them get away with something like that.

[stevo]

I don't have a problem with it, but unfortunately, my father does. I think that a parent can speak his/her mind on who they want their son/daughter to date, but they really can't stop them from dating whom they wish. They can protest all they want to, but it's the choice of the couple.

[Dela1111]

Well I'm mixed (white and mexican) and personally I think my dad wouldn't like it too much, but my mom is usually pretty passive. My friends would probably freak out.

[Asker]

Is it their beliefs or because where you live its uncommon?

[Dela1111]

Well a little bit of both, I'm from a pretty white town. Though I've had asian girlfriends and my parents actually seem to like them better because they're more "wife material" in their eyes.

[Asker]

Cool, thanks for your answers.