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Oh goodness me! I'm shy in a sense, like when I'm around strangers or guys I find attractive my body tenses and I stutter and say the most random, stupid things! But when I get more relaxed and comfortable in their presence, my normal self emerges. However it's a totally different story around my crush and the worst thing is that I'm 90% sure he has a crush on me too! When I'm around him my legs shake like crazy and my voice gets deeper! But the worst part is the fact that he flirts and touches me quite a lot (places like the back of my neck and on my shoulders), and my reaction is to ignore him! I noticed him staring at me once and he didn't look away when we made eye contact, I looked away. It's not because I'm disinterested - I'm VERY interested - it's because I'm terrified due to having no experience with romantic relationships and that's my coping mechanism. I'm pretty sure my crush tried to subtly ask me out by asking "What was I doing later that night?" but I didn't even realise that he maybe was trying to ask me out. Instead I thought he was just asking out of curiosity and I didn't want to seem boring so I told him I was going out with friends. It didn't occur until afterwards that he might've been asking me out. This sort of thing happens to me whenever I really like someone!
Anyway, if you like a shy girl, the best thing I can advise is to start a conversation and see if it flows. It will hopefully make her feel at ease and less awkward. Let's say you're sitting next to her on a bus for example, you could start with a simple "Hi, How are you?" Then ask what she studies and ask her questions about it. Or you sit next to her in the library, you can ask what she's reading and make it flow from there. Good luck!
Ahh i see.. All your actions make you seem disinterested but in reality you do? Your just shy and didn't want your crush to notice it. I can relate to that many times lol
Yep pretty much lol! It's awful isn't it. Anyway I've decided to bite the bullet and ask him out tomorrow. It will be scary! Very scary! But if I don't do it, I'll just be moping around with that "What if" feeling. This is why you should ask your crush out too. At the end of the day, the worst thing is that she said no but at least you went and did it! Yeah it'll sting for a bit, but at least they'll be no more "what if" feelings and it'll give you confidence to ask another girl out in the future. :)
Best of luck! Let us know how it goes!
That depends on her level of shyness.
I'd say that I'm pretty shy. It takes quite some time for me to open up to people, and I often struggle to make conversation when I'm in the early stages of getting to know someone. And when I have a crush on someone, it usually takes a lot of time for me to actually start showing it. Like, I won't have a problem talking to him, but it will definitely take a while for me to become more comfortable with flirting or hinting that I'm interested.
So, for girls who are more like me, all you've got to do is make sure you reach that level of comfort with us. Then we'll start opening up and showing interest, slowly but surely. I often start out by holding prolonged eye contact. Then I start giving compliments, and I'll also begin to playfully tease him. Lastly, I might even confess to him. However, this is a very long process, and it could take a year for me to confess how I truly feel lol.
If you're interested in a shy girl, all you've gotta do is try to get her to relax more around you. Don't be intimidated by the fact that she might be too shy to initiate contact with you. Chances are that she will, at some point, tell you that she appreciates it. And if not tell you, then she'll somehow show it to you. Be sure to give her some space, though. You don't want to overwhelm her. Simply take things slow and make sure that you show her you like her. She'll start opening up eventually. :)
I usually don't like to label myself shy but I use it as a default anyway. What I mean my this is that its really hard for me to approach new people in the beginning. Conversations are hard to keep but if we talk consistently enough I open up a lot faster and more. As for guys I have a crush on or find attractive then I'm pretty much screwed because I'm just a big clumsy shy mess. I get tongue tied and my mind goes blank. So chances are I'll mostly just stare A LOT lol. Make eye contact but look away quickly because I get embarrassed. If I was approached it would be a lot easier for me to open up and I actually wouldn't be as shy. If I knew him and knew he also felt the same then I wouldn't have a problem making the first step. I don't know if that helped but yeh some girls may seem shy but they really aren't.
Shy girls are a nightmare if you like independent girls.
- You never really get to know them before suddenly open up. Then they might go on to say stuff too early.
- They often get overly attached
- They are clingy
- They plan stuff way ahead in time at early stages in the relationship
- They often text you way too much
- They try too hard to please you
- They are inexperienced
I know it sounds amazing in theory, but in reality it's actually quite stressful.
Actually thats all the traits i desire in a girl lel. She view me as king huehue
Trust me its shit. When you start to feel bad because you don't feel the same way she does to that point that you're not attracted to her anymore, and all you think about is how bad you feel for that when you're around her, then it's not so fun to be king anymore hueheuheu.
This is happening for me these days, a shy girl is falling for me, and you know the rest!!! I was singing with my guitar, she couldn't watch me. She started to watch me using her camera pretending that she's filming the scene.
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Yup we act exactly the way uninterested girls do.
Being 21 now I realize how many guys I pushed away. God I was in love with this guy when I was 18 and in the first year of college. I ignored and avoided him to the point that he stopped talking to me but it was because I was too shy.
Do I ever regret that now.
Hahaha that was what im thinken abt. She could be the same as you tbh. U ignored him eventhough you like him right? But your just too shy to act on it?
Yup used to be. I am a completely different person now. But yeah I would avoid eye contact, I don't why I used couldn't do it. Lol.
Talk to her please.. I am sure it will make her day.
Yeah i know im good looking too so there's no eay she couldnt go on even a second with me B)
Ofcourse we avoid eye contact cuz we dont want them to know that we have a crush on them even i myself is shy and that is the reason why i dont keep up the eye contact with them cuz i dont want ma intention to be too obvious cuz ill be embarrassed if she found out that i like her lol. Yes i will but i still fear that maybe ill just make her even more uncomfortable or bothersome for her cuz she doesn't talk much? I dont know if i really am or she is just too shy to talk..
I get kind of shy around guys I like. In class, I will try not to look at him a lot, but if I think he's not looking at me I'll sneak peeks at him. I'll sometimes have trouble thinking of things to say to him and avoid eye contact when talking with him. I tend to play with my hair a lot when he's around.
Lol that was the kinda response i was looking for. If she walk pass me without even glancing, i assume she is giving me the cold shoulder so hall shy girls shouldn't do that cuz it could be a deadly signal for us :c
Being a shy girl myself, I more or less stare at my feet whenever I'm around anyone. If I'm around my crush and I'm good friends with him then I'm a bit more outgoing and I'll smile a lot. When talking I'll look anywheres but his eyes, so that could be behind him, his nose, his mouth, etc.. I also fidget with my fingers a lot as a way of calming myself, since I'm never around him. If I'm not good friends with them then I'll often stare at them in hopes that they'll come up and talk to me. Shy girls are quiet so if she's not talking very much it's not a bad thing, it just means that she doesn't want to say something weird that'll make you want to leave or avoid her. If you do like a shy girl then the best thing you can do is talk to her and try to become friends. Ya gotta be friends before you can be lovers.
But what im afraid is that ill make her even more uncomforatble or ill just be a bothersome to her. Its hard to tell eventhough i have a feeling that she kinda liked me as well but im also afraid of that. Its pretty hard to tell... im shy myself and i always avoid direct contact contact with my crush. she's also like that towards me but i dont really know..
Relationships would be dull if everything was predictable. I'm extremely shy and if I like a guy, it would be hard for me to maintain eye contact with him. There's no real way to know if someone really likes you unless you ask. If she's really shy, she's probably waiting for you to make a move
Okay im gonna let u in on a little secret
Most shy girls are very smart. some want to hide their feelings but if they are feeling gutsy they will look at you and smile and look away quickly. They will probably do this continuously until u get the hint okay? Okay (:
Yeah but some are just way too shy that they dont wanna appear obvious to their crush. I know im one of them so its very hard to tell.
And how do u know if they want you around them when they only reply back with 1 word lol. I dont know if im making her even more uncomfortable or just a bothersome for her. Err so difficult!
The thing is, i think she is probably way too shy. I think thats how she is with everyone as well cuz i can tell. she's Muslim, have no friends at all and is always alone. I often wonder why she only speaks one word cuz their could be something wrong with her. Judging by her behavior i can tell she is very shy and thats the reason why she only speak with one word correct? Thats why its hard to tell..
How do i know if im making her uncomfortale if she's only speaking with one word lol. Im not really sure if its cuz of her shyness or is it cuz of she's uncomfortable. there's two possibility here :P
But ill try... im just afraid ill bother her cuz i dont know if she prefer to be alone or not. Do you as a shy girl prefer to be alone?
there's no way in hell will she ever come to me considering that she's that shy and do t even have a friend lol.. but yeah if i have the chance and the courage to walk up to her again, ill ask her if im bothering her. Im just as shy myself so.. >.<
thanks for your input though :*
If I'm around my crush I don't talk to him. I get extremely nervous. If I'm not interested in him I won't shut up.
I remember how when I sat by my crush on the bus I wanted to talk but didn't talk. When I have a crush I glance at them a lot. Watch how she interact with other guys and watch how she react with you. If She's quiet around you, then she is. Talk to her, like I wish my crush did. Get closer to her and the signs will be clearer.
she's very shy and lonely, doesn't talk at all and doesn't have any friends. Thats why its hard to differentiate.
Why that's very hard. Befriend her that's the only thing that I can think of.
Yes i try to but her replying with only one word makesme think that im making her even more uncomfortable or ill just be a bothersome to her. Dont know if its her shyness or am i bothering her. How can u tell?
Most likely her shyness. You said that she has no friends, so she's probably awkward about talking.
If you have the balls ask for her number. If you get it, see if you can get more out of her since it's not face to face.
Lol i dont think she's that kinda easy girl you see around. I alrdy knew she is gonna say no cuz i think her religion or her parents is against it. Yeah i hope its her shyness. Just hope im not making her uncomfortable or anything :c
If i like someone i act as if i don't. I also avoid galking to him since i don't want to embarass myself. If I did make a fool out of myself in front of him i would think about it obsessively. But I can't even look at him these days everytime i do he's already looking. I guess he found out I like him despite my efforts.
Haha i see. What if he ask if you like him, what would your response be?
I'll say yes only if im sure he likes me back. I don't really want to put my feelings out in the open without assurance that he likes me.
I'll also probably get flustered and spat out random words that doesn't make sense
How do you know if he likes you since he just randomly asked do you like him? Your answer will still be the same? How do you feel if you rejected him lol
You know there are some guys who ask girls if they like them just for an ego boost.
U'll never know but would ur answer still be the same or no unless he told you that he likes you furst?
I'll say no.
Ok so i have to say i like you first and than ask you if you like me... i dont mind going back to when were in elementary school. I think thats cute :3
Yeah that's how we roll. lol. Im trying to change it though.
Lol thanks for your input honey :*
No prob. Hope it goes well with the two of you:)
Im putting all my love and trust in the hands of God. Im... thanks x)
For shy girls when the guy is around it will make us nervous as hell. Head will go blank and we don't know what to talk hahaha. So we ended up avoiding and talk to them lesser so we won't make a fool of ourselves
So you will reply back with only one word if he talks to you? :P
Lol hmm interesting.. that means we aren't making u uncomfortable if u are only replying back with one words? It means that your just too shy to talk? Just your shyness isn't it
Lol but in heart, you really want us to carry on the convos eventhough you only teply with one word or you rather have us keep our mouth shut and remain quiet xD
I am a wreck near guys I find attractive. I don't really look at them. I try to not make it obvious at all.
All I can say is that the chances of you having a decent conversation will go up when it's just the two of you rather than in a group of people.
Yeah its only me and her but she's just way too shy i guess. Im hoping that she will open up someday. I hope..
Her behavior says it all. Her loneliness, no friends, nobody and besides, she's a Muslim. I never see her interact with anyone at all and when were outside, i always see her by herself wondering alone. doesn't that prove how shy she is?
I've never met a shy person without a single friend in life...
Well, if there's only the two of you, you're talking to her and she's ignoring you or giving one word replies, that's more than shyness, it's called being rude. She may even have her own reasons, but I'm guessing no one calls her on that either and just stay away from her.
You can't be friends with someone who doesn't want to be friends with you or anyone else for that matter.
If she was really that lonely, she would make a bigger effort to get along with people, but it sounds that is not the case yet.
But dont shy people just needed time to open up? Once they're comfortable, they began to talk more? And yeah i know thats rude but i can bear with it. I think she is just too shy to say anything cuz she didn't wanna disappointment me or anything. Yes it is true... most muslim at my college are introverts and obly stick with their kind if u haven't notice. This muslim girl is different though.. i never see her hangout with any so yeah.. its possible.
Most Muslim girls I know are actually very friendly. Maybe not with guys, but they have many girl friends.
As for being shy, I suppose there are many shyness levels. Sure it may take a while to open up, but since you aren't in middle school anymore, things like greetings, talking about the weather and other neutral conversation topics should be fine with anyone (and I was painfully shy as in hs as well).
As you grow old, you start realizing people have no obligation of doing all the hard work for you, especially when you aren't making an effort yourself and are basically being rude and even selfish. I'm not saying for you to ignore her or anything like that, but maybe take things slowly and don't go to extra lengths for her if you haven't even seen her smile yet? And perhaps if you have the chance try to find out more about her from her classmates.
She'll mostly avoid eye contact, and if she's like me, she'll blush LIKE CRAZY! :$
I see.. its very hard to tell if she's into me or not if its always like that with y'all :/
Yeah, you just have to trust your gut... :)
if she likes you and is shy she'll probably look at you every once and awhile
How about direct eye contact when im looking your way? I suppose a shy girl will never look my way if she knows im looking her way..
she'll most likely look away if you do
Yes thats why its hard to tell if a shy girl is into you. She doesn't talk much either hence the reason why she only reply with one word. Im not sure if ill just be a bothersome or make her uncomfortable. I dont know if i can get her to open up if i fear that ill just be a bothersome for her :/
don't feel that way.. and don't give up on her. :) just try finding what she's into and connect with it
Yes i will. thanks for the input :*
oh course.. love to help
Ugh I ignore him but try to call their attention with my weirder ness they stare at me like I'm weird haha
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