She said no to me twice, now she wants to go out?

[Anonymous]

So I met this woman through some friends. She was cute and definitely flirting with me, but when I asked her out she gave me the "well I don't know you yet" excuse so I took it as a no.

For the next month I would see her a couple times a week and she would still flirt and always come up to talk to me and touch me. I decided to ask her out again and asked if she was ready to come out and play, and she kinda laugh and just said we'll see.

Now it's been a couple months. Her interest seemed to drop during that time but now it has picked back up and her married friend told me that now she wants to go out with me.

I do still find her fun and attractive, but I guess if I'm honest I'm a little turned off by her previously saying no and think that she needs to be the one that asks me out since she already turned me down twice. I'm also curios as to what's changed. Maybe it's my ego getting in the way, but I'm not interested in being anyone's backup plan.

What do you think? Have you ever gone out with someone who turned you down multiple times before? What happened?

[Anonymous]

Don't go with her out

The Rule of Twos

“Once is a mistake, twice is a choice.”

When pursuing a girl, if she ignores, rejects, or disrespects you TWICE, you immediately walk away and never contact her again. No apologies, no goodbyes, nothing. As far as you are concerned, she no longer exists.

- If you ask for a girl’s number and she refuses twice, walk away.

- If you text a girl twice with no response, walk away.

- If she refuses plans twice (with no offer to reschedule), walk away.

- If she flakes or cancels last minute twice, walk away.

- If she shuts you down sexually twice, walk away.

- If she disrespects or belittles you twice (physically, verbally, socially), walk away.

[JSmuve]

I totally understand the ego thing, but it depends on how badly you want her. You can't rely on her to do shit, so ask her out a third time. If she gives you the runaround then drop her. Chicks who don't know what they want are headaches to deal with.

[Poppykate]

You are not her back up plan. She was just getting to know you! Women need/ should be more careful these days, before accepting a date from someone they don't know. It sounds like that was what she was doing! Three times a charm! So ahead and ask her out. You will not regret it!

[ItzDizzY]

To be honest, no matter how amazing of a girl the person is, if you threw yourself out there and took a risk by asking her out but she turned around and said no then I would of just given up on her completely and moved on as I would only be hurting myself by chasing something that could lead to nothing but that's just me. If you feel like this girl was worth the time and effort you put in then go for it but just be careful as you might end up getting hurt again!

[AdenKayy]

1) Dont ask her out for a while and this is to punish her
2) let her ask you out if possible but dont wait too long
3) She didn't say no badly she said she doesn't know u maybe she was waiting
4) flirt with other girls and she can't get upset because she declined plus she doesn't know u know she wants u to ask her out so this works in your favour.
5) dont listen to the other girls comments if it was you rejecting her theyd advise her that your a dick or whatever trust me.

[meatballs21]

"well I don't know you yet"

Yes, that's why we should go out on a date. So we can get to know each other.

She sounds indecisive and unreliable, I wouldn't be interested in her any more.

[K-Cool-Dude]

Maybe she was too shy in the beginning and thinking that you were a playboy or were just kidding with her. But now she understands you and so she agreed. This is my optimistic comment. But remember, things could be worse too.

[xXiTacoXx]

Have you ever considered that she wasn't ready for a relationship at the time?

[RunTheRares]

I don't see the harm in asking her 1 more time. While reminding her of nonsense

[Anonymous]

No, if a chick turns me down, I don't keep going after her. I don't waste my time. There are way too many women out there who will give a damn.

[xnoiseandkissesx]

She's playing you hot and cold.

[HereForTheDay]

Maybe the first two times she had someone.

[far2gud4u]

stay clear