sounds like you could learn something from a guy like him. We all learn something in our relationships. But most importantly about us... id say give him a chance and try it out, date... just be honest and yourself. if you tell him that his sweetness is too much for you, say it jokingly but serious.. and show eachoother what kind of person you both are, and if it matches then maybe it can be more :)
and if he is sweet that doesn't mean he isn't like other guys when it come to being intimate just cause he is a nice guy doesn't mean he likes having relations any less lol
and as far as everything else goes just keep being you open up to him and let him kow how happy he makes you
Hey, I'm this type of guy. The girls that I've been with or dated lately say the same thing " I don't deserve you, you're too kind". I also can't understand this to be honest. My Girlfriend now opened up about this...now I'm trying to be the man he wants me to be because I love her but just to let you know It's very very difficult on my part. I can't express my feelings or show I care for her whenever I want too...this is what I told her when we had this serious talk.."ask yourself Do you still love you Him? Are you better of with out him? If the answer to these are No and Yes..then I'll let you go"...this way both parties are fair to each other...hope this helps...and may God guide us with our decisions.- MB
Well I probaly couldn't say anything that everyone else has said but I know what you mean a lot of the guys I've dated were ass holes but I couldn't stand it and then a sweet guys to boring you just have to except him and maybe spark up your relationship don't give up because your intemadated by his sweetness
Show him how you feel he's a sweet guy that cares for you and wants to be with you so work with that be sweet back don't push him away because a sweet guys hard to find trust me I know
wow, that's amazing does it just scare you that he might be more perfect then anyone else does that scare you... just curious... because I had a guy like that except for I pushed him away cause I was scared... don't ask me why I don't really know myself and then I started getting stuck with all the losers... karma sucks
If he's sweet to you, why not be sweet to him. For example... Buy him something that you think might like.(T-shirts, teddy bear, necklace, etc.) Call him when you feel lonely or miss him. Text message I love you to him when you really felt like that. Just try to be sweet, if he's not that guy of your dream it's okay, there's nothing to loose from talking and being sweet to some guy who is being sweet to you. Right?
man, SomeOtherGuy has one of the best answers I've ever read on this site. I wouldn't be surprised if it didn't work in the long run, but if you actually want to give it a try and maybe have a fulfilling relationship with someone who isn't an a**hole, then seriously think about what this guy has said. a lot of people here have good points, but after looking it all over I def think you should focus on his answer more than any other.
IMO you like the way he makes you feel so you want there to be something there. you want to like him but you just dont. you're sending him mixed signals because he makes you feel good. he's your fan. if you don't feel attracted to him, let him know, be friends and let him move on.
Well first you need to ask yourself if you finally deserve to be treated nice,if your burned out on the jerk guys then why not treat yourself to a nice guy who will treat you right and see how it goes. It's either that he really is a nice guy or he's just faking it,but either way why not give it a shot if you think you deserve it?
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I wish there were more guys like that in the world. Dude he obviously makes you happy and if he truly cares about you why wouldn't you give him a shot. It is so sad that girls are so used to d***s and assholes that they don't know how to appreciate a decent guy. Enjoy it and thank your lucky stars that you found a guy like him and you're not wasting anymore of your time on useless assholes like the rest of us.
You need to be honest with him and tell him you want him and you want him just the way he is and not trying to be the a$$h)le that he's not. It's not going to make either of you happy if he turns into the a$$h)le he's. You two obviously have great chemistry and are meant to be together at least for now. Noone besides God knows the future but if you're not honest with him you'll always regret it and miss out on great happiness.
Lol they deserve it. they earn it that is, but keep what they earned, Nah. jerks do get the girls and nice guys (generally) don't but niceguys just don't know how to keep it interesting(generally). You gotta bust some balls and act accordingly sometimes.
well being a sweet guy myself I have to say don't hold him to what every other guy you have been with is like. Just take it a day at a time and don't make him work so hard. Let your guard down a little knowing that he is a sweet guy.
You are in denial stage. Free yourself to get used to his sweetness little by little. And stop thinking about you are used to a$$holes because obviously, you are starting anew with this sweet guy. Be yourself.
You are talking about what most of the girls on here are looking for, a sweet good guy who really cares about you. If he's not what you want then don't do anything, because it will crush him if you lead him on knowing its not going to work
Simple solution: don't be a f&$king tw@t. This guy obviously likes you a lot. You're one of those types of women who are used to being shit-bred door mats for jerk off assholes so you won't let a real man love you. Do yourself and this man a favor; let him go. He will find a woman that truly appreciates every sweet thing about him. At the same time you can find another douche bag to treat you like trash. Win, win. Peace.
Try him you will love it, sweet guys usually never had love in his life maybe by his parents or friends so when he sees something he want then he/she will be nice and sweet so they can get the love they want, try it, it won't hurt you be pleased and wothy of it.
I don't think there is such a thing as too nice. I think for some reason we are attracted to the so called bad guy. But I would not let someone who treats me like a queen go. I say be honest to him and tell him that you don't know how to act around him and don't let him go.
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sounds like you could learn something from a guy like him. We all learn something in our relationships. But most importantly about us... id say give him a chance and try it out, date... just be honest and yourself. if you tell him that his sweetness is too much for you, say it jokingly but serious.. and show eachoother what kind of person you both are, and if it matches then maybe it can be more :)
Its called love embrace it
and if he is sweet that doesn't mean he isn't like other guys when it come to being intimate just cause he is a nice guy doesn't mean he likes having relations any less lol
and as far as everything else goes just keep being you open up to him and let him kow how happy he makes you
Hey, I'm this type of guy. The girls that I've been with or dated lately say the same thing " I don't deserve you, you're too kind". I also can't understand this to be honest. My Girlfriend now opened up about this...now I'm trying to be the man he wants me to be because I love her but just to let you know It's very very difficult on my part. I can't express my feelings or show I care for her whenever I want too...this is what I told her when we had this serious talk.."ask yourself Do you still love you Him? Are you better of with out him? If the answer to these are No and Yes..then I'll let you go"...this way both parties are fair to each other...hope this helps...and may God guide us with our decisions.- MB
Well I probaly couldn't say anything that everyone else has said but I know what you mean a lot of the guys I've dated were ass holes but I couldn't stand it and then a sweet guys to boring you just have to except him and maybe spark up your relationship don't give up because your intemadated by his sweetness
Show him how you feel he's a sweet guy that cares for you and wants to be with you so work with that be sweet back don't push him away because a sweet guys hard to find trust me I know
Keep him I sure as hell know I would
wow, that's amazing does it just scare you that he might be more perfect then anyone else does that scare you... just curious... because I had a guy like that except for I pushed him away cause I was scared... don't ask me why I don't really know myself and then I started getting stuck with all the losers... karma sucks
If he's sweet to you, why not be sweet to him. For example... Buy him something that you think might like.(T-shirts, teddy bear, necklace, etc.) Call him when you feel lonely or miss him. Text message I love you to him when you really felt like that. Just try to be sweet, if he's not that guy of your dream it's okay, there's nothing to loose from talking and being sweet to some guy who is being sweet to you. Right?
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man, SomeOtherGuy has one of the best answers I've ever read on this site. I wouldn't be surprised if it didn't work in the long run, but if you actually want to give it a try and maybe have a fulfilling relationship with someone who isn't an a**hole, then seriously think about what this guy has said. a lot of people here have good points, but after looking it all over I def think you should focus on his answer more than any other.
IMO you like the way he makes you feel so you want there to be something there. you want to like him but you just dont. you're sending him mixed signals because he makes you feel good. he's your fan. if you don't feel attracted to him, let him know, be friends and let him move on.
Well first you need to ask yourself if you finally deserve to be treated nice,if your burned out on the jerk guys then why not treat yourself to a nice guy who will treat you right and see how it goes. It's either that he really is a nice guy or he's just faking it,but either way why not give it a shot if you think you deserve it?
I wish there were more guys like that in the world. Dude he obviously makes you happy and if he truly cares about you why wouldn't you give him a shot. It is so sad that girls are so used to d***s and assholes that they don't know how to appreciate a decent guy. Enjoy it and thank your lucky stars that you found a guy like him and you're not wasting anymore of your time on useless assholes like the rest of us.
You need to be honest with him and tell him you want him and you want him just the way he is and not trying to be the a$$h)le that he's not. It's not going to make either of you happy if he turns into the a$$h)le he's. You two obviously have great chemistry and are meant to be together at least for now. Noone besides God knows the future but if you're not honest with him you'll always regret it and miss out on great happiness.
I feel sad for you feeling this way, I mean why?
I think it only would be good for you staying away from those a$$ holes. Because such guys doesn't deserve anything.
Lol they deserve it. they earn it that is, but keep what they earned, Nah. jerks do get the girls and nice guys (generally) don't but niceguys just don't know how to keep it interesting(generally). You gotta bust some balls and act accordingly sometimes.
Gotta be both to deserve and keep it mon.
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So your used to @$$*&%# guy and now you have nice guy and this is a problem. Be grateful your luck with guys changed and you have nice one enjoy it.
well being a sweet guy myself I have to say don't hold him to what every other guy you have been with is like. Just take it a day at a time and don't make him work so hard. Let your guard down a little knowing that he is a sweet guy.
You are in denial stage. Free yourself to get used to his sweetness little by little. And stop thinking about you are used to a$$holes because obviously, you are starting anew with this sweet guy. Be yourself.
All the best.
You are talking about what most of the girls on here are looking for, a sweet good guy who really cares about you. If he's not what you want then don't do anything, because it will crush him if you lead him on knowing its not going to work
If you are not used to it, go back to the a**hole, don't waste his time
He will probably end up in the friend zone while you are being used by the a**hole
Sorry for the harsh response it's just that it happens too often
Simple solution: don't be a f&$king tw@t. This guy obviously likes you a lot. You're one of those types of women who are used to being shit-bred door mats for jerk off assholes so you won't let a real man love you. Do yourself and this man a favor; let him go. He will find a woman that truly appreciates every sweet thing about him. At the same time you can find another douche bag to treat you like trash. Win, win. Peace.
Try him you will love it, sweet guys usually never had love in his life maybe by his parents or friends so when he sees something he want then he/she will be nice and sweet so they can get the love they want, try it, it won't hurt you be pleased and wothy of it.
I don't think there is such a thing as too nice. I think for some reason we are attracted to the so called bad guy. But I would not let someone who treats me like a queen go. I say be honest to him and tell him that you don't know how to act around him and don't let him go.