Why do women use their period as an excuse to be angry?

[Anonymous]

It's not our fault nature made it so!

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of women just use it as an excuse but during our period our hormone levels shift. Progesterone rises during the beginning then drops when it's ending and estrogen sky rockets. That's just the female body.

But my cramps were so severe I had to be put on the depo shot at an early age. My period even messed with things that it wasn't suppose to. I had to take Bayer aspirin constantly during my period because whenever I had cramps I would get chest pain and breathing issues. It was just a mess and I was always super unhappy but I had a lot of reasons to be angry.

Some women just use their period as an excuse but I wasn't one of them. Have you ever had constant cramps in your lower back? Imagine the leg cramps you get at night in your lower but never ending until your period ends. Some women feels cramps in their thighs, like my sister.

Don't get me started on the nausea and diarrhea. Everything I ate during those days came right back out. Then the getting your period twice a month because it's evil. A lot of us girls are just unlucky... sigh...

[kaylaS91]

I find that women or girls who do that are usually a bit off their rocker anyway. Like the friends of mine who have actually justified their bitchy, borderline psycho behaviour by saying they're on their period so they have 'every right' to behave like that... were treating their boyfriends not so nicely in general, on their period or not.

I make a point of never using that as justification for when my temper is a bit shorter before my period. That's like men using their sex drive as justification for rape or being creepy. Sure, it's a biological thing but it's fully within our control if we choose to do so.
No excuses.

[Joc4Position]

See this is why I like you.

[Asker]

That second paragraph is so true.

[kaylaS91]

@Joc4Position awe thanks. ngl but I sometimes worry that my posts may get a bit too anti-'feminist' but.. hey, that's just how I see things. :P

[Joc4Position]

You're welcome. Well the feminazis (they do exist and I'm not picking at actual feminists) may get upset but so be it. You're just being truthful and not using your gender as an extra crutch to lean on.

[Mekkalyn]

What influences your attitude/mood? Hormones. A period changes your hormone levels. That change results in mood swings. It's biology.

Granted, you shouldn't use it as an excuse... but when someone is moody (due to their period), they are quick to anger, due to the hormone imbalance. There's an actual reason behind it. It's not like someone is just being a bitch, there's actually a somewhat justifiable reason.

[ShepherdOfFire99]

Everyone preach this shit. Trueeeee af.

[Kingfrosty]

what is your proflie of your self in your underwear and bra?

[Unhappy_Sock]

As Mekkalyn said, there is a real reason it isn't just "an excuse". Women are "off their rocker" because their brains are imbalanced. It's incredibly difficult trying to deal with being mentally unstable for a few days a month. People should just be glad I haven't punched them in the throat and skinned their cat!

[Unhappy_Sock]

They are not fully I'm control, that's the problem.

[kaylaS91]

@Unhappy_Sock If they are not in control of themselves while pmsing, sounds like menstrual dysthymic disorder. In which case there is treatment for that, some medications.

[Unhappy_Sock]

I don't know what that is, but I know I cannot properly control my emotions and feelings. It's a serious struggle, I find it effects my work and private life... It isn't just an excuse to be a birch, I don't want to be like that!

[Unhappy_Sock]

A birch... ha, yeah I pretend to be a tree when I'm menstruating... haha! Obviously meant bitch.

[kaylaS91]

@Unhappy_Sock lol ok it was covered in one of my classes a few semesters ago. But here's a rundown of what Premenstrual dysphoric disorder is, in a nutshell-
Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is a diagnosis used to indicate serious premenstrual distress with associated deterioration in functioning.

Signs and symptoms
PMDD is characterized by depressed or labile mood, anxiety, irritability, anger, and other symptoms occurring exclusively during the 2 weeks preceding menses. Other symptoms may include the following:

Decreased interest in usual activities (eg, work, school, friends, and hobbies)
Subjective sense of difficulty in concentrating
Lethargy, easy fatigability, or marked lack of energy
Marked change in appetite, overeating, or specific food cravings
Hypersomnia or insomnia
A subjective sense of being overwhelmed or out of control
Other physical symptoms, such as breast tenderness or swelling, headaches, joint or muscle pain, a sensation of bloating, or weight gain

[Unhappy_Sock]

Is that not just being on your period? I get all that and more...

[CHARismatic110]

Guess I'm off my rocker then. #shrugs oh well.

[kaylaS91]

@Unhappy_Sock
Yes to a much smaller degree. If you suffer from premenstrual dysphoric disorder, the symptoms will be unmanageable to a much greater degree. Putting you in an almost manic state every month before you get your period. Hence why treatment options are available. Because for most women, PMS symptoms like moodiness should not be so severe so as to result in issues in their professional life or making them unable to handle any sorts of social interactions.

[Unhappy_Sock]

I've just read up on it and I have almost every single symptom, I just thought that's what everyone had to deal with... I can't believe I've never heard of this before!

[kaylaS91]

@Unhappy_Sock oh ok yeah... lol I hope I didn't come across as too dismissive of how you were saying you felt during your premenstrual times. But if you can relate to a lot of the symptoms listed in the write up, it certainly wouldn't hurt to raise your concerns with your doctor and see if you could get some sort of prescription to help better manage it. :)

[Unhappy_Sock]

No not at all, and I understand that a lot of people use it as Free Ticket to be an arsehole, but I suppose there must be a lot of people like me who honestly think that those symptoms are just part and parcel of your cycle.

I think I'll try improving it myself before I seek medical help, I don't deal well with prescription drugs, the pill made me literally lose my mind, ha!

I remembers mother being awful when I was a kid, we would all have to avoid her for a week or two... so I've grown up thinking it was just normal. Thank you for helping me see it isn't!

[kaylaS91]

@Unhappy_Sock yeah truth be told, a lot of my answer was based on last year when I'd have pretty big blowouts with my boyfriend on a monthly basis, and smaller ones following it and essentially ending when I started my period. I'd realize a lot of them were super petty on my part and I had to start reigning it in in terms of how much snapper and impatient I'd be while PMSing. Over a few months, I got it under complete control. I'd just limit the time I'd see him the few days before, or tell him I'm PMSing (in case he didn't already notice).
Not that simply avoiding the 'triggers' is possible for everything but it definitely helps if it's possible to be done.
Best of luck. :)

[Unhappy_Sock]

Yeah, I've already started to do that myself, I'm becoming a lot more aware of it and how it's affecting the people around me. I try and keep myself in check but it's so hard to wind down the tornado of rage and sadness that's swirling inside you.

Thanks again :)

[saltwater84]

Yeah good to read you dont have pms syndrome and that you Backlash your own sex. the Guy wtiting it is not aware even they slightest to what à woman is going through during pré period time , so he has excuse to be naïve on the case. you have. an insight on your part , so no excuse. you know it can be harsher on some woman you act like one of those bitches who wants to have attention from men , saying they are différent shit Than others. I call it LOW SELF ESTEEM girl shame on you

[kaylaS91]

@saltwater84 lol k. I don't see how sharing my opinion that perhaps some will take offense to is 'bashing women'. I'm not going to join the masses of mindless sheep if I think otherwise.
But y'know what... don't let me stop you from bashing me. Continue. :)

[Abdu115]

What an amazing answer. Second paragraph is so true.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I use it as an excuse because I'm unpleasant either way. But when I'm on it, people see it as expected.

It's like when we're mad, let's say your brother used your lazy brothers were too busy playing video games that they forgot to give your sick kitten her medicine. You get out of work, and it was a stressful day, you texted them plenty times and v they STILL forgot. Then you get angry, my brothers always say something dumb like "stop being mad! Are you on your period or something?"
Grrrr.
So now I use it to "excuse" my bitchiness because that's like the go to insult when a girl is angry.

[Anonymous]

It's not easy to be pleasant when you are in pain. Not all girls go through some horrible pain, but some do (I've seen some faint, vomit, be unable to walk etc.) so it's understandable they can't be a ray of sunshine when they're feeling like that. To be honest, I've seen many men cranky just because they're tired or hungry - such people shouldn't be judging those who are not in a good mood while cramping.

My sister had some periods that were so painful she'd been completely crippled. Any painkillers she'd try had no effect. Over the years she missed important tests and events 'cause she was in too much pain to attend. It IS a complication in life and there is science to prove it. Of course, this is going to get all the downvotes because it's easier to call all women angry bitches than to try to understand or have some compassion.

Here's a video to cheer you all up:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gkRDqSeCFes

[Ulyss]

It gets annoying that everything can make them angry while on the rag so might as well just disappear for a week

[ShepherdOfFire99]

But I'm horny on my period not angry

[larry69]

Women do tend to be hornier on their periods.

[Anonymous]

Women (in general) use any excuse they can to excuse any vile action they commit. Women (in general) don't like taking responsibility for most, if not all, of their actions.

Try and think of a situation where a female you know accepted responsibility for something stupid she has done and not tried to say it was a males fault, or alcohol, or a female friend "convinced her to".

- If they abuse/kill a child... it's because of emotional chemical imbalance caused by some "she's the victim" reason.
- If she abuses/kill a male... it's his fault, he deserved it, he provoked it, he made her.
- If they do something sexual they regret... He took advantage, it was the alcohol, her friend convinced her it would be fun, "it was rape", She felt "obligated".
- If they commit a crime... some male was behind it, she was mentally unable to think reasonably, she was under a lot of stress...

Nothing they ever do is ever just because they suck as human beings or are horrible people... NO NO... it's always someone other then them who made them do what they did.

It's why society in general uses kid gloves when handling women. They are "strong" and "Independent" right? But completely unable to make any decision for themselves, or strong enough to take responsibility for their own choices.

[Unhappy_Sock]

It isn't an excuse, it's the actual reason. I suffer from crazy hormone imbalances during my period, I literally want to rip people's throats out (that's a lie, I generally imagine stabbing them in the throat repeatedly, their blood spurting everywhere, their desperate gurgles as they clutch their throat, eyes staring wide in shock). ... then I feel so upset about being so angry that I want to find a quiet room and cry. Do you have any idea how that must feel? Not being able to control yourself? Breaking down in tears for no reason? Being mentally unstable? It's hard work, and on top of that you're horny as fuck!

[BeautifulWreck]

There was this man who asked me out when I was a junior in college. He said something along the lines of "why don't you give a real man a shot?" I respectfully declined because at that time I truly did have a boyfriend have I had been with for 6 years. He got offended and said "it must be your time of the month, huh?" And then walked off.

Its mostly men, in this one scenerio, who accuse a women of being on her period whenever she says something that he does not like. Given the fact that I personally am I bitchy person regardless of my cycle, I have never once pushed it off as "oh I'm on my period, please forgive me." Like, no.. Its always someone else who just assumes I'm raggin' it because of my year round attitude.

[pavlove]

PC POLICE!!!

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Your question is highly offensive to women who don't have control of a natural bodily function and you're also making highly offensive assumptions that a woman's negative mood is the direct result of said bodily function. So my question to you is--are you intentionally being bigoted or did you just not care to find out that a woman's period does always result in angry emotions? WHICH ONE YOU PIECE OF $WW%$T$!!

[thatbishhannah]

You act like I want to be a bitch when I'm on my period. My hormones are all out of balance and I don't want anyone near me and I get tired at 6 pm. I don't use it as an excuse bc half the time when I'm PMSing I don't even know my period is coming until I realize that the hell is going on with me when I look at a calendar. It's nature. And I don't exclusively take it out on guys, if I bitch is bitching ill take it out on her too and then excuse myself bc ik I'm being bitchy. Don't get me wrong, I try to control it b/c ik that it's not actually anyone else's fault when I get upset during that time but it still happens and why it happens is bc of my period.

[snowangle]

It's not an excuse. It's a real effect of the hormone imbalances caused by PMS.

Like why do I use my period as an excuse to cry at adorable cat treat commercials? Because I don't do that normally, haha.

And for the record, when I'm not on my period, I'm the most even tempered person you've ever met. It's very rare for me to be irritable even on my period (I usually just get teary-emotional). But when I do get irritable, I'm never irrational. I always get mad over things that normally would bug me anyway. The hormones just give me that extra push to speak up about it.

Like, "you're telling me you've had the last two days off, and I come home after two 14 hour days to find the sink overflowing with dishes?"

[RicanEyes]

I hear everyone talking about the hormone levels. Hello what ever happen to the Cramping? That freaking pain that takes your lower back and stomach and you feel like your going to die. Even taking pain killers doesn't even work at times that is why I am bitchy as hell. Try being a girl @Asker with a period and tell me how you feel.

[coldpieceofpizza]

Have you tried soething with 'naproxen'? (I think that was it)
I find that Aleve Feminax works pretty well for me, but I'm not sure if that's an international brand.
I agree that the cramping has more impact on my mood than the hormones. Sometimes it can be so bad the first day that I have to stay in bed and try to sleep, because that's the only thing that helps.

[RicanEyes]

@coldpieceofpizza thanks for the advice will look into it. Yes being a women sucks sometimes. I wish I could stay in bed but with 2 little girls it's hard. Unless I put on a really good movie they enjoy. LOL! 😂

[AleDeEurope]

Well, it's a good excuse since we men don't understand what they go through, so even if some girls don't really suffer too much from periods, they can always exaggerate it cause you can't really say they're lying.

Some girls do suffer a lot during their periods, and I totally understand when they're angry, sad, or whatever, but there are also some women who just use that to get mad at you because they can xD

[AleDeEurope]

Look at that, we got one girl on her period xD hahahah jk jk xD

[Joc4Position]

Same one who down voted me bro.

[Joc4Position]

She probably down voted Kayla too.

[LuckyLittleLucy]

I don't think most women actually use it as an excuse to be angry... some do, definitely, but some of the hormones released can just alter they way you think/feel/evaluate things, and cause you to have different reactions at different stages of your cycle.
And they reckon as many as 1 in 10 women could have problematic periods (but only about 1 in 100 are diagnosed with a 'problem') so that can definitely stress you out...
I don't think most women try to use it as an excuse, I think they're just angry sometimes and people always want a reason why you're angry, so why lie?

[heavensgift2girls]

Women in different cultures tend to act differently when on their period. In a culture that thinks women get angry during their period, the women will act angry. In a culture that thinks women get sad when on their period, the women will act sad. This leads me to believe that women are either subject to some sort of psychological impression that makes them act they way they think they are suppose to, or that they are using their periods as an excuse to act out.

I agree with @kaylaS91 that the women who are using it as an excuse are generally off their rocker. Men should start seeing this behavior as a red flag that the woman is not the right woman to be in a relationship with.

[Joc4Position]

I agree man.

[coldpieceofpizza]

I used to have pretty mild periods, so I never saw the big deal. But then they started to be extremely painful. Now the only reason I don't stab someone is because I use painkillers. No, but seriously I think that women lash out faster at men when they're on their periods, because they just don't understand. When a girl tells another girl that her stomach aches because of THAT, they immediately understand. But boys... they don't and sometimes they even try to give advice! "Maybe you should just take some paracetemol?"Yeah, like I never thought of that.

[Rei02]

I know this is just an excuse, even if it is for real, and i don't want to fall in that excuse. Why? because one has to be responsible of what oneself feels, saying that I am angry because of my period will make me feel that I am blaming someone or something else of my behaviour, that it is not my fault to act so bitchy with others because of that, and that I don't want to take responsability for my actions.

Now it is the menstruation to which I can blame, but what will happen when it finishes?, of course, blame it to the menopause.

I saw this not only in me, but also in my mom.

[SomeGuy37]

I guess i haven't been with anyone that does this, or is in some way 'Angry' or acting strange!! I think most women, at least in their mid-twenties and older have learned to manage their feelings and these ups and downs.
Yeah, the occasional, 'stupid' fight, but that happens even when she isn't!
What I found is that some crave Chocolate, others, salty things. Guys, keep track, it's usually pretty regular and if it's salt, have potato chips, or pickles (try deep-fried!!), if chocolate, duh, have chocolates, and don't say sht about it, if they eat the whole bag of chips, or box of sea-salt caramels in milk chocolate!!
Some just want a lot of cuddling, others, raw sex!! Get some Dark Blue towels, and just go with it!! It isn't going to hurt you, and it might make her feel better!!!

[pdxgirl]

Unfortunately I get very moody when that time comes.
Honestly, I'm not trying to justify my anger but merely warn you about it.
If I'm not on my period and I'm being a bitch or angry then there's probably something genuinely bothering me.
If i mention I'm on the rag and I'm being bitchy, you now know to disregard pretty much any bitchy thing I will say and not take it personally. Plus if I cross a line, you just need to be like "woah girl this is the period talking. You need a time out" and then I usually think damn you're right.

[BellePepper]

Why do men always use their testosterone as an excuse to be angry?

[Joc4Position]

We do that? When?

[Surfofthenomad]

The asker does have a point...

[BellePepper]

@Joc4Position Guys say "were just naturally more aggressive because we have more testosterone!"

So why is it okay for guys to be controlled by their chemical balances but not women?

@Surfofthenomad cool name btw! We'll see...

[Joc4Position]

We are more naturally aggressive, but that has little to do with anger. Women get just as angry.

[BellePepper]

@Joc4Position Why do you feel that is?

[Joc4Position]

Anger can be hormonal but the brain is what controls emotions. The brain I guess has hormones too, but I just don't believe testosterone is a direct link to anger. Maybe I'm wrong. I do know that since men are more aggressive and stronger (due to testosterone) that when they are angry it could lead to physical things happening (such as punching).

[Joc4Position]

But that doesn't make them angrier. Just again more physically aggressive.

[BellePepper]

@Joc4Position To be honest I don't see aggressiveness existing without anger though.

[Joc4Position]

I do. I've been angry plenty of times and not attacked people lol.

[BellePepper]

@Joc4Position Do you think aggressiveness is limited to attacking people?

[Joc4Position]

Aggressiveness usually is physical. If you're saying men argue with others well... women do too. In fact I believe women are programmed to argue more... which again goes back to testosterone, but not who's more angrier.

[9mfeo]

@Joc4Position Please show me the scientific evidence to support that theory.

[Joeman1252]

Testosterone doesn't make you angry anger causes Testosterone to be realesed

[VegasNewFallout]

Olympic Wrestling is considered an aggressive sport and neither competitor displays anger when competing. Aggressiveness doesn't always mean hostile, and the saying that men are naturally aggressive tends to mean that men are more dominant and assertive.

[Deft_maiden]

You tell them Belle 👍🏼

[VampireEmpress]

good point.

[godfatherfan]

That is a new one. How long did it take to make that one up? lol..

[NYCQuestions1976]

I use my testosterone as an excuse for wanting sex. LOL

[BellePepper]

@NYCQuestions1976 omg how did you even find this ancient thing? XD

[NYCQuestions1976]

@BellePepper Tooling around on here waiting for responses. Also on denial that I have work in the morning...

[Cabinet]

We don't. Society doesn't condone it unless we're canon fodder. There are talk shows, books, articles, you name it about how terrible we are and how that behavior is unacceptable.

We can be suffering pain so bad vomiting is an uncontrollable response and it still isn't acceptable for us to act out. We just want *equality*

[EmiliaRose2355]

Honestly? I really wouldn't say that women use this as an excuse. Up until I was about 17, I had pain free periods and never suffered from mood swings or breast pain and all the rest. I hit about 18 and I began to get agonising periods, and I mean, I literally couldn't do anything because the pain was severely affecting my quality of life. The pain would bring me to tears. Then, my breasts began hurting for roughly 2-3 weeks out of every month and my moods were... all over the place. I'd be laughing one minute and feelingg like crying the next :/ then I went to the doctors and she diagnosed me with an almost permanent hormone imbalance... which explained all of my problems/PMS and sore breast etc. The moods were absolutely terrible and I couldn't hold a relationship with them being so off balance. I'm now finally on medication and doing so much better! But yeah, this is not an excuse. It got to the point that my life was miserable :/

[Ferretman21]

You done it now...

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[Asker]

It was tooo easy

[Darkfairie17]

I really hate when people do that. It's not an excuse. It's okay to not feel well, or be cranky once in a while. But I usually forewarn people. But it's pretty much out of my character to be anything but pleasant, so I still don't get it.

I don't like treating people poorly, I was raised to treat people with respect, even if I am having a bad day. So I have no idea how some people can justify it.

[Anonymous]

For the most part, periods don't make girls angry enough to act rude. Most girls who are rude during their period, are also rude when they're not on their period. Most girls get used to getting their period really quickly. After a while you learn your cycle, you get to know when your period is about to come, and you learn to live with the pain, what pain killers you can and can't take, and when your period ends. Most girls just take a pain killer, suck it up, and deal with it. Unless a girl has crazy cramps that won't go away, most girls don't get angry. Imagine the feeling of like a tiny jackhammer inside your stomach. That's what my cramps feel like on a bad day. So of course, most girls are not going to be in their best mood when they're on their period, but it's no excuse for being rude.

[Anonymous]

I don't get angry, I get really nice actually. Not because I'm in a cheerful mood but because I'm suffering too much to even have the energy to be mad so I talk really soft and ask people to do things for me in a really nice way because I can't do it myself sometimes. Like usually I'll tell my sister "bitch I'm hungry. Feed me" (just kidding around most of the time) but when I'm on my period I'm like "sweet sister, please, I beg of you. Would you be so kind as to get me a cup of water and perhaps if it isn't too much trouble a plate of chicken? Bless your soul." But then when I'm off I get right back bitchy lol

[Opinion Owner]

Whoa all these girls saying its an excuse because of hormones. Like if hormones were excuse to act like an ass then to all teenage boys going through puberty, I apologize on behalf of my gender for underestimating you. Like seriously, its not an excuse. 😊