Girls, question on protecting ourselves?

[Anonymous]

Today at school, the girls were separated from the boys into different halls and we had a guest speaker talk about the dangers of drinking, partying etc. Us girls were given a female and male instructor who were teaching us the basics of self defense in groups. However, I found it extremely weird that the instructors were virtually teaching us how to damage the male reproductive system in sooo many different ways.

At one point the instructor us that if we were ever in a situation where a boy was trying to come one to us in a dangerous way, we should basically go with it, get the boy unaware, before kicking him in his testicles with our knee repeatedly while screaming.

I myself found this kind of teachings to be extremely unfair, as many of the girls in my class would probably abuse it and the boys seem to be so fragile down there. I even heard one of my friends talking about how she could not wait to try it out on a particular boy in our class the next time he annoyed her. (There have been many cases already where some of the girls kick boys there "for fun" and do it too hard, ending in the boy having to be sent home because he was in too much pain)

When I asked them this, they explained to me that if I was in danger it did not matter if the boy got hurt permanently because of me, as he should not have made me feel endangered in the first place if he did not want to get hurt.

Do you think that this approach should be taught?

[Anonymous]

To me it seems you actually had a very good self defense class. The class I took was very intense, we learned all sorts of things from awareness/avoidance to basic and last resort techniques. Our female instructor told us we are going to learn some brutal stuff, but we must not be squeamish, self defense is not a pretty thing. She also explained us some very important points: Girls cannot out compete guys on strength but can be trained to excel in specific techniques designed to explore guys natural vulnerabilities. When fighting back in a serious situation you need to inflict an incapacitating injury, fast without warning. However, the methods must be taught properly but at the same time regularly exercised to become automatic when needed. For me and the other girls it was not a piece of cake to listen to detail graphic descriptions of brutal techniques how to gouge eyes or how to destroy a testicle or even to practice them on some anatomically correct props. Unfortunately, this is sugar-coated in many courses making them ineffective. She also stressed that this knowledge should not be misused and only to be applied in serious situations.

[lexythelou22]

They need to be sure to explain that this is ONLY for when you've rejected sex with this person at least 2 times, and they've tried to touch you and you tell them once again that you aren't comfortable. If the person hasn't touched you and they don't realize that you're uncomfortable, then you shouldn't go straight for the dick-as-a-punching-bag method. The instructors seemed to be saying in any odd situation you should attack. It needs to be taken seriously.

[Asker]

They emphasized very little on that and focused more on ensuring we knew how to do maximum damage so that he will be unable to continue whatever he was doing.

[Asker]

I personally found that very dangerous, knowing some of the girls in my class and how guys are generally so weak down there..

[lexythelou22]

That isn't a good method to teach at all. They should show you other forms of self defense, because there are SO many that don't involve that area. They should have taught you those first, then explained these approaches and emphasized that they were only for extreme situations.

[Asker]

It took place over a few days, so I guess they figured they would get straight to the point. Is it effective though?

[lexythelou22]

Well if you kick a guy in his nuts then you'll have time to get away so yeah, pretty effective. Just not safe, and could lead to unnecessary pain if it turns out the girl over reacted and the guy actually wasn't doing anything wrong (Like how the girls in your class were going to use it on the next guy to annoy them)

[Asker]

Yes, I read another commenter's experience on how a guy that she kicked lost his testicle! It would be awful if that happened to the boy who annoyed that girl!

[Anonymous]

Horrendous, not at all! It should only be used as a last resort, and if not done correctly it may only make him angrier and hurt you. I trained in women's self defense myself for 4 years, and if done correctly it works as a immediate "off" button for the unfortunate male, as I discovered.

[Asker]

Oh I see. Did you actually use it on a guy?

[Opinion Owner]

Boys, especially around your age are going through puberty where everything down there is oh so much more sensitive, so it made sense that the boy who got kicked was in that much pain. He can be considered to be lucky.
Yes, I did, while I was visiting a friend's pen pal. He threw a party, and got drunk midway and tried to corner me in his room. I pushed him off me at least three times, and gave plenty of warnings that he would regret it if he did not leave me alone but he didn't care, so I shoved him off me and delivered a swift kick to his gonads!

[Opinion Owner]

His junk started swelling with blood apparently, and he eventually lost that testicle. We made ourselves scarce very quickly to avoid any further trouble. So yes, an average kick in the balls is THAT effective, and so you should not abuse it like your friend intends to because all it takes is a little too much strength and some bad luck for you to not so figuratively "bust a nut", as they say it.

[Asker]

That must have hurt a lot for him! At least you got away safely. Is it possible for him to die because of that?

[Opinion Owner]

Die of embarrassment, maybe. Doubt any of his future dates will stick around for long after learning of how he lost his nut.

[Mártainn]

@Asker

It is actually possible to die because of that.

[Opinion Owner]

@Mártainn Yes, and that is why training girls to do so should be moderated heavily. In one scenario, she might make her intentions too obvious, and he would simply block it. In another, a younger girl like the asker might not know the repercussions of kicking a guy in his reproductive region, and abuse it. All it takes is a little bad luck for her to do life changing damage; some guys might just walk it off, while another might need a trip to the ER.

[Thatweirdone_]

Well I don't wanna be raped so I'd fuck up his balls and dick real good 😂

[Asker]

I would feel very bad if he could not make babies because of me.. but that is just me I am just that polite

[Thatweirdone_]

If his intention was to rape me I'd be glad he won't have kids

[Asker]

I guess.. well he won't be raping anyone after that xD

[letthefire80]

It should only be done if you are certain there is no other way out.. C'mon, this is not his arm we are talking about, it is his sexual organs.. he can't grow those back

[Thatweirdone_]

@letthefire80 well too bad 😂 he can get a ball transplant for all I care. If he puts me in danger I have no other option than to hit the obvious. An arm so what? What damage can yiu really do

[Anpu23]

Just a thought,
Depending on the study men are 30% to 50% of rape victims
Men are 4 times as likely to be assaulted as women
And 10 times more likely to be killed.

Is it fair to teach only women self defense?

As for hitting him there, most guys instinctively defend that part of their body, and if that fails where does that put you? If you want to learn to defend yourself, learn from someone who is capable and won't just say "hit him in the junk".

And yes it can permanently harm a boy to hit him there.

[Asker]

They even showed us graphic anatomy charts on what we were supposed to kick to hurt him the most, which I found a little strange as it felt more like a lesson on maiming a guy's balls (wut) than self defense. We were supposed to take him by surprise, she told me, and to hit him hard enough that it disables him.

[MrTexan37]

What they should have taught was how not to get in a rape situation most women dont think they just do, they go to a party where there's more guys than girls and get completely drunk then end up in a room with 1 or 2 guys! But i do feel that women should have some self defense skills

[Anonymous]

Effective techniques should always be taught. It’s good to focus on the brutal aspects of self defense because those tend to be your best bet for staying safe. That being said, it’s not “unfair” and comparatively, guys are not fragile. Every girl has had this thought in her mind at some point, that men have this huge, exploitable vulnerability and women don’t; we can take any of them down and not vice versa. This is hilariously wrong and I remember being humbled with a swift knee in the crotch in high school. I used to be one of the serial ball kickers until I was floored with a single strike and had to throw up from the pain. I saw it happen to other girls when I trained Krav Maga. The groin is our weakest point as well. If done correctly, a strike to the groin can and will function as an instant off button for any attacker, regardless of their sex. It’s important to educate yourself about this sort of thing.

[Asker]

Why did you get a swift knee in the crotch? And this was over a year ago. It had disastrous effects like expected.
A lot of girls abused it, and they made us have another sex ed class telling us why it should not be abused, only after a boy got seriously injured. Apparently he called a girl something like "a stupid and useless person", and she kicked him so hard that she caused permanent damage.
I have been hit before, and it doesn't even compare to what happened to that boy.

[Opinion Owner]

If you haven’t had a really well placed knee or kick, I wouldn’t expect you to understand the pain. Anyway, I got kneed because I was doing heavy contact sparring. I was pretty good at it too, to the point where I could overpower most guys. People tend to get reckless if they feel overwhelmed, so a stray kick to the groin was inevitable, and a protective cup pretty much solved the issue in the future. You’re right that in terms of long term effects, we’re pretty safe while guys can be rendered infertile. When I mentioned it’s universal effectiveness, I was just saying that girls can also be disabled with groin strikes in the context of a fight/when a girl is threatening someone else and teaching guys to use that to protect themselves is a good preventative measure for girls abusing self defense techniques. I wasn’t saying that there aren’t any consequences of teaching girls those techniques, and dirty fighting definitely shouldn’t be abused, but it’s unfortunately necessary to learn about that sort of thing because we live in a world that’s unfair to women in a lot of ways. Because of this, you need to know how to defend yourself against a larger attacker, especially a man (men are significantly physically stronger than women). Think about it this way: the guy’s injury has nothing to do with the fact that those girls were taught how to maim a guy’s genitals. They were just cruel people, plain and simple. If they didn’t know the technique, they would’ve punched/slapped the guys in the face when they were annoyed. Restraint is the issue here, and teaching respect is the solution. Keeping people in the dark about how to defend themselves in a serious situation doesn’t help anyone.

[Asker]

It was well placed alright. I got into a fight with a friend and she did it to me. It completely took the fight out of me so I think I can understand. I just think it is unfair that they teach it to the girls while the boys get lectured.
It had everything to do with what they taught those girls. They showed proper kneeing techniques, which was employed on the unsuspecting, undeserving boy who got injured. This girl has been known to do it to guys she is pissed off at, but she never permanently injured anybody until after the classes. If she slapped him instead he would be fine, but instead he had to go to the hospital.

[Opinion Owner]

Actually, you’re completely right. Maybe they should teach the boys the same self defense? It definitely seems unfair. I still don’t think the solution is not teaching techniques, but it sounds like the instructor would benefit from teaching something other than just attacking the crotch region, like other weak points and situational awareness.

[Asker]

They brought the boys into a separate room to learn about what not to do, while they taught the girls crotch kicking. They certainly changed that syllabus after the incidents

[Asker]

Very hypocritical, because they said that boys are more likely to hurt the girls and she is proud of what she did even though she almost castrated a guy for nothing

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, that doesn’t really seem fair. Your class was still better than what I learned which was to urinate or throw up on yourself and do whatever you can to gross the attacker out and dissuade him from violating you, though. That self defense course was a joke. Anyway, I agree that they really should teach the boys the same thing they teach the girls. Treating them all like potential rapists seems a little dehumanizing to me.

[Asker]

It was very dehumanising. But if they taught the boys how to block a low kick, it would defeat the purpose of teaching the girls how to cripple a attacking boy with a low kick. I am very confused by both of them. But what I know is a boy who might want to start a family someday cannot because some girl stupidly kicked him in the groin as a teen. And he deserves it if he tried to hurt her, but he did not, and she was still able to affect him like that.

[Joeman1252]

See if someone was trying to hurt me id beat them up possibly kill them with my bare hand how u ask well lets see punch in the throat certqin pressure points can pop a blood vessel or I could just keep hitting him so yea as u can see im quite a violent person but thats what happens when u play mortal kombat the images get into ur mind and corrupt u

[Asker]

You are so violent!

[Joeman1252]

Yes one time someone hit me in the stomach I punched him in the face around 10 times taught him a lesson though never punched me again necer punched anyone again

[Thatweirdone_]

Calm down satan 😂

[Asker]

@Thatweirdone_ He sounds like one of the guys us girls have to protect ourselves from!

[Joeman1252]

@Thatweirdone_ hey im not satan im a warrior here my mighty roarhttps://youtu.be/tbylGZuMU7c

[Asker]

what a dork

[Joeman1252]

WHAT DID U CALL ME

[MrTexan37]

Calm down killa!

[skeptic007]

you're 15 still young
when you're my age you'll carry a gun and knife on you trust me

[FrenchyFrenchToast]

dude ur awesome

[Joeman1252]

Hey this is mafe up shit because they would teach you sctual selg defebse

[skeptic007]

there's 2 sides to this, I understand girls have to protect themselves but there giving girls an automatic notion that guys are a certain way and think a certain way as if where all rapist and will one day attack them which isn't the case, not saying it doesn't happen,, but I think what there teaching is wrong i know the right way too teach it

[bente2]

I think those girls were raised wrong. Self defense is very important, especially if the possibilty of rape is there.

[Mynameisbobby]

I've been kicked there by girls just for fun I think a lot of girls do abuse that power they have over boys. No I don't think it should be taught.

[Asker]

that's what I thought too!! and how right I was! The vendors conducting these classes have been suspended by the school after an epidemic in girls kicking boys in their nuts resulting in one boy having to go to the hospital. it was so not well thought out by whoever planned it

[karthickkv]

ya best way