Why is my ex copying the life he had with me w/his new girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

My xbf and I finally ended things at the first of the year. We lived together for most of last year and went through some very emotional, trying times. Our life had a set routine with certain places we'd go and certain things we'd do together. He met a girl and started getting serious with her within 1-2 weeks of our breakup. Now he says he's in love like he's never been before and happier than he's ever been in his life. People have a right to move on and that's all great for him however, his behavior confuses me. It seems as if almost every aspect of his new relationship is an exact carbon copy of the life he and I had together, from nicknames to places we always went and vacations we took. Am I just over analyzing the situation when it's really just a coincidence or does this mean something more? I guess the confusing part to me is I know I couldn't take anyone else to the places we used to go together or do the things we used to do, at least not yet, without thinking about him and us. What do you think?

[mrledzep]

Humans are creatures of habit. Not that it really is any business of what he is doing now that you are not together, but he is just doing what is familiar for him. Falling back into a similar or same routine could just be because that is what he knows how to do and if it worked in the past it will probably work again. I have taken multiple girls to do the same exact things just because it is something I like to do and I know it will be a good time. Just habit. But my advice to you is to just let him do his own things and try yourself to move on.

[ArtistBboy]

My rationalization for the way he is acting is this:

- Because he couldn't have you in a relationship where he was completely happy, he moved on to someone new and decided to mirror a similar relationship with her, being the nicknames and places that were shared. It's kinda creepy and weird that he has been doing those things, but it's not uncommon and it's not something to pester your mind about.

I'm glad that your supportive of him moving on, it shows your maturity as an individual.

~ ArtistBBoy

[Cathrine]

because he still likes you and wants to get back together, and at the same thime he's trying to annoy you just to know if you still feel the same way

[bennynthejets]

Creatures of habit we are. I wouldn't worry about it until he starts asking you for hair samples or something. Why do you care? You're broken up...move on and stop worrying about what he is doing in his life.

[Irrelevance]

Extrapolations, speculations and psychic predictions aside, it doesn't matter. You guys aren't dating anymore. His romantic life, unless he's dating a psychopathic cannibal alien masquerading as a human, is no longer your concern.

[wanacot]

He's rebounding and trying to recreate what he lost. But who cares? Focus on your life and moving forward.

[Nenhry]

Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.

[Anonymous]

Some guys do it too.