What does it mean if a girl doesn't reject you but doesn't say yes ether?

[Anonymous]

I told my crush that I like her, and we started to hang out and talk to each other a lot more. Not really in person, mostly on socal media. We talk every day for a long time. The problem is that she never told me how she felt. I am really honest and open about how I feel about her. It's weird because the only real person I have to talk about my love life and my feelings is my crush. It's even more strange that she acts like a third party memmber when I'm talking about my feelings to her. She doesn't seem to be interested, but she refuses to reject me or let me go. One time, I gave up and said I think the best option is to move on. Next day she said I looked very sad and asked if I was okay, and I told her: I was having a hard to forgetting about her. Next thing I know, I am in the same situation. I already asked her directly how she felt, and she said she felt mixed about me. She says I have a chance with her, and that we might have a future together. One side of me wants to continue talking to her, one side of me wants to give up and cry.

[epiper888]

Your "friend zoned" (which really doesn't exist), I'll give you some advice.

Why are you telling her how you feel? SHOW her how you feel, this isn't middle school man, in a girls mind, they have a radar that can pick up if someone is intrested. Next thing is, your to easy and your boring to her. The one thing woman hate the most is being boerd, they would rather feel anxious, sad etc than boerd.

What you need to start doing is being playful and challenging towards her, if you balance those things out, she will be heavily attracted to you.

Some methods I'll share are as following
Push pull- show Intrest and then show the opposite "your pretty fucking awesome (pull) but it would never work out between us (push)"
Disqualification-"your really fun! But your way to short for me!"
Frame shift- "misinterpreting" her words and using funny reply
Girl: where's the bathroom?
You: you want to hook up in the bathroom? I don't think so!

Use my advice as you please, 9 out of 10 times it will work, girls like getting teased. I don't usally spend this much time on my post! But your an exeption cause you seem like a nice dude.

[epiper888]

* your semi-friend zoned, she likes you as a guy and doesn't wanna lose you, but just doesn't know if she should take it further with you

[Asker]

That makes sense. She just said that I was a close friend to her because we were only emailing. I''m an artist, should I give her artistic gifts or use this "push and pull". Also is there a certain amount of times where push and pull is effective, because I have also unintentionally used that a lot on her in the past.

[epiper888]

I wouldn't give her a gift, I'd use push/pull only because its one of the best way to have a girl attracted, push/pull will always work as long as you balance them well and use body langue and voice tone correctly. Most guys only pull, which will turn a girl off. To much push is always better than to much pull, but balance is key. just wondering, but do you agree with her a lot? Or do things for her?

[Asker]

I haven't truly disagreed or argued with her as of yet because we share so many interests and opinions. I haven't done anything thing for her currently.

[epiper888]

Okay, that's good, I always just say or do what I actully think. Which your doing! I wish you the best of life, be awesome, id love it if you kept me posted, you can message me if you'd like

[Kylesar]

This is what she's doing to you

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Mind games are a bitch
You need to leave

[sweettckae]

Yes listen to him... move on.

[Asker]

She says I'm a close friend. I don't think it's anything like that, but I understand what you are trying to say.

[Anonymous]

Why not just go with it, what's is she doing that's so terrible. She says she likes you so that should easy the tension you know now, and then she says there's a future with u and that's another plus... my only concern is why she won't tell you that she's either not ready for a relationship... or she want to take things super slow.. she already made her interest clear. And the whole thing of her reference to herself as a 3rd party.. l think she's trying to keep your communication very open, and she's trying to show you how she is instead of getting all caught up in the motions that it's a chance it won't work. I don't think she's an attention whore. I believe she could of been hurt before and she doing what she deems as necessary in order for the relationship to work. What u can say to her is that a relationship is a two way street and you could tell her why it won't be a bad thing to move things along... have the conversation she wants, it seems like she want the relationship maybe with rules. Start dealing with her how she does you, get her to explain her reasoning for not moving forward

[Asker]

She never said she liked me nor did I mean to say she did anything wrong, but I understand what you are trying to say. She hadn't really had a bad experience with a relationship before, but she has had plenty of bad life experiences. I can see now that that might be a contributor to her behavior around me. Maybe neither of us are ready for a relationship. I guess I need to wait and watch things play out before I assume anything else. Thank you for your opinion!

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, this was easy.. lol I was ready to argue my point.. ok it seems like you got it. Your welcome. Off I go I guess. Good luck.

[SarahsSummer]

If it's clear to her you want a romantic relationship and yet she continues to be non/committal Don't cry, but do stop wasting your time. And move on.

[Asker]

How do I make it clear?

[SarahsSummer]

You said "I am really honest and open about how I feel about her".
What did all that mean?

[Asker]

I talk to her about how I feel about her all the time. I never try to hide my emotions and feelings towards her at all, and frankly I don't even think I could lie to her. Maybe that's my problem.

[SarahsSummer]

I'm really confused. If everything you e said is true, she's abundantly clear of you romantic interest in her. That said, if she is noncommittal, wishy-washy or vague, you have your answer. She doesn't see you that way and it's time for you to focus your efforts elsewhere. She'll still be a friend but you need to look somewhere else for a romamtic connection.

[Asker]

Why do you think she says I have a chance with her and that I may have a future with her?

[SarahsSummer]

Because she wants the continued attention with no commitment from her end.

[Asker]

Okay. Thank you.

[DorkySoul]

Player? She may feel like she'll break your heart, but she certainly is afraid of something

[Asker]

What do you think it may be?

[Anonymous]

Be firm. It's a yes or no/take it or leave it thing.

[Asker]

This doesn't usually happen?

[Anonymous]

Seems to me you're the backup guy. Her fail-safe. Or maybe she's a commitment-phobe, who knows. Seems pretty clear you should let her know that you're going to move on.

Most likely that will make her want you without in a week or two. And if it doesn't, then it really is time to move on.

[Asker]

I did do that before, and then we went back into the same old situation.

[Opinion Owner]

If you made it clear enough you can't wait around not knowing, then that's it. Time to move on. If she decides to go for you that'll be obvious enough.

[BertMacklinFBI]

she's keeping you on the fence, its not worth sitting on the fence, cause if you fall you break your back lol.

just get off it and walk on home.

[Asker]

Do I have a chance with her?

[BertMacklinFBI]

possibly, but probability does not seem to be on your side

[Hades77]

Don't give up, you'll look weak and start a habit of giving up on wonen and you'll never be happy. Keep trying bro, you gots this.

[Asker]

Thanks a good point. Thank you for the support.

[Itryhard]

She's using you as an emotional tampon, while she "fools" around with sexually exciting guys on the side

My advice? Don't focus on one girl, spend your youth just fucking girls. Trust me I am much better ever since I stopped focusing on one girl

[Asker]

She doesn't really seem like the type. It is pretty obvious she hasn't really explored her own sexuality that much. As for me, I don't want to spend my youth fucking tons of girls. Its not my style, and seems heartless.

[Itryhard]

Then I'm not the guy to help you, sorry.

[0112358]

So you told her your feelings, but didn't actually ask her out.

You did that backwards.

[Asker]

really? How so?

[0112358]

Unless you're already 'best friends', what's she supposed to do with this. "I don't know you that well, but i really like you!!'. uh, okay. She probably doesn't know if she really likes you. SHe might know that she doesn't, or she might just have not thought about it much. She's not ready to say 'i have a crush on you toooooo!'. so she's just like, uh that's great.

What you should do is shut up about your feelings which are mainly based on how you -imagine- things might be, and just ask her out. Now she can respond. If she's interested in getting to know you she can say YES, if she's not she can say NO or avoid the question. You have a clear answer either way, not if she's in love, but at least if you can move forward or not. If she says yes, you see if things develop. And your own feelings get confirmed or change as you get to know her more.

The exception to this if you're already super close friends, at which point either she loves you or doesn't.

[Asker]

We sort of become close friends since I told her my feelings. Should I still ask her out?

[0112358]

Yeah, most of what i said was for next time.

Honestly she responded about as well as you might have hoped given what you did. I'd try to ask her on a specifc date date type thing. You also need to start ramping up flirting if you're not doing it.

[Asker]

What do you recommend in terms of flirting?

[meatballs21]

Someone who wants you will say yes. If you don't get a yes, don't pin your hopes on them - keep looking.

[Anonymous]

She enjoys the attention. But don't waste your time if it's going nowhere

[Asker]

Is it going nowhere?

[Opinion Owner]

Well I don't think she wants a relationship. I would move on and find a girl who does