Guys who are only looking for sex have lower fear of rejection then guys who are looking for a partner. They also need to hit on far more girls, because even when they have success, they're still always looking for new targets.
Because of this, these guys hit on an order of magnitude more women then average guys do. It makes some women think -most- guys are players, when in fact most are NOT. It's like if i thought 'most phone calls i get are from telemarketers, so i guess most people do that for a living'. Nope, just those people are calling all the time!
I wouldn't assume you're doing anything in particular to get those sorts of guys to hit on you. They hit on every decent looking girl.
Normal guys? They take it harder when rejected, they move slower because they want to know what the girl is like, they are actually off the dating market sometimes because they're IN relationships, etc.
So you need to meet them half way, flirt with guys you're interested in, make some effort to meet normal guys, etc.
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Well a beautiful girl like yourself will attract any kind of guy who is attracted to you whether they be players or nice guys or whatever.
Generally players often approach lots of girls where a nice guy will only approach a girl who he is genuinely interested in. So by mathematical probability you will probably be approached by a lot more players than nice guys.
Im sure the type of guys you like are around. You just have to find them and work your flirting magic and hopefully they will talk to you.
You're probably not putting yourself out there enough and meeting new people.
"Players" are bold and approach pretty much everyone to increase their chances, so it's not strange they're the only ones you're getting approached by if you're usually a more quiet, shy person.
Make sure to get out of the house more and talk to more people.
Maybe try approaching the guys instead of them having to approach you. They might be under the impression you are out of their league
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Try approaching them. Those type of guys that are approaching you now are the only type that are going to approach you likely because they don't care as much, more self confidence etc. The type of guy you want is more shy and has all the same insecurities and thoughts that you might about approaching them.
Approach the nice guys then.
TBH, nice guys have other things to do as well.
Not all of them are beta males either.
Some are in between. Some won't tolerate female BS either.
They aren't players so they don't focus on you, they are focused on doing nice things. Also their interests may not be the same as yours, you've got to know them first then. Perhaps as a friend first then move forward.
Yeah some of them actually require work.
Players require no work they will just game you, and trick you that's all.What happened to the nice guys? YOU did. (No, not you personally, but read this and see just how many women to which it applies):
www.craigslist.org/about/best/lax/483318927.html
drhelen.blogspot.com/.../...-to-all-nice-guys.htmlYou might be to beautiful. Show off your inner beauty. Wear little to no makeup, dress cozy, and talk to a lot of people. If you really want a nice guy do things nice guys do like volunteer work etc. Find a hobbie and join it loads of nice guys in hobbies. If you wanna attract a nice guy the easiest way is to smile it will melt them till they are a puddle in your hand.
Players are players for a reason. They have game and they know how to approach women. So they do it on a consistent basis. So that's why your get approached by them becausebyour attractive and they wanna hook up with you. You'll meet a nice guy someday. Guys are timid and afraid of rejection these days. Women don't bite. Just go talk to them dudes!
Well the dickish dudes (often) are more confident to approach a girl, plus are less concerned about offending her. Believe or not, I consider myself a good guy. I fear a girl will just think Im objectifing her if I approach her basically randomly.
Have you tried approaching the good guys?What is your definition of good guy. Start with that.
I don't see a guy who wants sex from you to be a bad thing. Would you like the opposite?
Avoiding trouble guys is smart. However, men are risk takers, and sometimes those risks don't yield the expected result.I think it just comes down to perhaps we're not as confident or as talkative in a way, assholes always have that 'I don't give a fuck' aura so they tend to be a lot more out there than other guys. Especially in my case I don't tend to make a move because I've gone through a lot of shit through the past couple of years, once I'm familiar with someone i'll have no problems, is just depends on finding someone who's not trying to get you in bed.
It's not you, players approach shit ton of women, they need to as most will turn them down. "good guys" are more hesitant and only approach a girl they have some connection with.
All girls will get approached by players more simply because players approach girls a hell of a lot more than non-players.What makes you think they are supposed to approach you? If you want a nife guy, approach him yourself and stop waiting for other people to do everything for you.
How do you know what type of guys they are? Did you go out with them and tried to have actual conversations or did you just look and them and made that distinction in your mind?
Good guys either are usually taken or have been beaten down by getting dropped in favor of girls that want a bad boy type. A player-type guy can take getting rejected easily, a good guy takes it pretty harshly and it can take him years to recover.
Nice guys approach nice girls. Do not wear too sexy, I mean ultra mini skirts and wheels, don't make up so much. Wear feminine but more older type. Then, some nice guys will try to approach you , if you are not super ugly.
Because good guys have other shit going on in their lives besides the pursuit of women.
The bad boy types don't have anything else.
Maybe you should stop playing the passive role and go get what you want.How hot are you on a scale 1-10, no need to be humble.
i would love to find a girl like you, maybe its just that you haven't been lucky (i could tell you i havent) maybe try to hang out on places good guys hang? which i honestly dont know if that is a thing
Maybe you don't don't put yourself around those type of guys enough matey?
Players LOVE virgins. It's the "challenge" in their minds.
If your always dressed and sexy.. you migght attract players...
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