Girlfriend of 3 years went on a girl's vacation?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend of 3 years planned a vacation back in January when things weren't going well with us. I didn't want her to go because we were back on track but I trust her completely and figured to not let it bother me. The first day she was there she was texting me how much she missed me and how things weren't fun without me and how she wasn't really enjoying herself because her friends had been rushing her and doing all the things they wanted to do. She calls me when she gets up, before she goes out and when she gets home at night, grant it only for a min because she's getting ready or she's in a room full of screaming girls. Is it too much to ask for like 5 min of quiet to just talk to her? Is it out of sight out of mind or does she just not care enough about me to call and see how I'm doing? Or am I asking too much? Especially because if I go out or I am doing something without her, she feels neglected if I don't call or text often... Why the double standard? What do I do? If I try to talk to her I know she's going to say that she did call me and text me and that she was on vacation and it was busy and hectic... I get all that.. Am I wrong or how do I make her see that I just wanted her to show me that she cared a little?

[Anonymous]

you just said she was texting how much she misses you, calls you when she gets up, before she goes out, AND when she gets home. How do you get out of sight out of mind from that? She is OBVIOUSLY thinking about you a LOT. And take it from a girl that tries not to over-do it... I think about my guy WAY MORE than I text or call him. Like almost ALL THE TIME. Just because I'm thinking about him doesn't mean I have to be up his ass. I want to give him time to be his own person sometimes too.

On the other side... you are not wrong from wanting a 5 minute conversation. There's no real reason why she can't go in the bathroom away from the girls and talk to you for a bit... or step outside to have a few minutes alone with you. Sure, it's vacation... the girls all want to be together and act stupid etc... but I would always make a little time for my guy - and girls are typically understanding about that. We're not like men where we say stupid sh*t like "you're on a tight leash" etc... that's all f*cked up immature 'boy' stuff... real men and most women know it's the right thing to do and respectful to dedicate time to and assure a relationship. And any girl that thinks you're being too "clingy" to ask for a measly 5 - 10 minutes a day is a selfish b*tch... if she care about you, it won't be an issue.

[rockmom]

it would be better if she took out time enough for a meaningful conversation rather than calling often when she doesn't have time to talk. she may be caught up in the moment. shell be more understanding the next time you go out w/o her. itll be a good thing if you just let her be and don't make a fight out of it. shell come back more fullfilled, more understanding, and missing you like crazy =)

[enlightenment]

jeeze...she is with her girls and calls you 3 times a day, how are you out of mind? She talks to you all the time. let her be! give her time alone with her girls!

[azzhole725]

This situation reminds me of a joke that Eddie Murphy did in "Eddie Murphy Raw." Let's just say the story goes the girl goes to Jamaica by herself and sleeps with some local because her boyfriend was a douchebag. She's on vacation; let her have fun. You should do the same. Will there be other guys gawking at her and trying to hit on her? Yes, there will be. If she cheats on you, you know it's time to dump that bitch.

1. If you ask her for some quiet time to talk, your demonstrating how clingy you are.

2. She probably cares about you, but she's on vacation so yes it's kind of out sight out of mind.

3. There's a double standard because she's a woman. enough said

4. If you want to be clingy, then tell her that you want her to call you when she's by herself. If not, you're going to need to trust her, completely.

[HumphreyT]

Whoa! It's a vacation she may be tryingot relax and enjoy it.

The double standard thing look you are dating a woman it will never make sense just go with it. You won't win and you're not supposed to.

Be happy you have a woman you can trust, be very happy.

It is a vacation so let her have her time she calls she tells you what's going on that's not bad.

Women (in general) talk on the phone more than us so they don't even register background noise (unless you are in the noisy place). She probably is oblivious to how annoying it is (and yes I know it is).

If you want to spend quality time with her and talk and her about the trip wait until she gets back.

Just make sure to tell her to have fun every time you talk to her.

[IrishMetal]

Let me tell you somthing I have learned from past relationships both with girlfreinds and freinds, girls want you to ask them every question there is possible about them, but they do not ask as much about you, its nothing to get too worried about because every girl I know does this, they really want a lot of attention from you even though they don't give you as much, it is a double standard but you can't really help it. Don't worry I'm sure she cares a lot about you if she texts you every day.

[stalinhornsby]

You are asking too much ; out of sight out of mind. She is going to come home with some memories they may as well be onces that she would rather forget. It will be easier for when she gets home if she is tired out and needs to rest a few days than to be all energenic and enthuciastic.

[Anonymous]

may b she still cares?