It's common problems in almost all girls sometimes you feel she is too much close to you and next moment you feel she is away from you so it's very difficult to understand girls.
If she didn't slam the door in my face with the boyfriend line I would approach her again. I understand why she did it (Best Answer Above) but its gotten to the point where too much time has passed and I don't see it going anywhere.
Yes and No. Mostly I would catch her staring then she would either look away or put her down. One time I happened to see her on my way to my car and she smiled but then quickly turned her head touching her face. The only other time she smiled was when I went up to her and said hi. Still, even then I got rejected.
How long have you known this girl or been aware of her showing interest in you? She may think you are cute and all but does have a boyfriend and wasn't trying to date you. I think you busted a secret admirer who is probably embarassed now. It sounds like she is avoiding you now.
I've been aware of her since last Fall. I finally said something to her a couple of months ago. Yea but in my approach it came off like I've been noticing her - not her bahavior. Then there was that week after trying to get my attention... so, if she's avoiding me is it because I didn't try to talk to her again or is she like me - shy and embarrassed? I know I felt embarrassed after I got rejected by her.
It sounds like you took way too long and then when you went up to her, said hi, and then gave her your number, well as one person said on here, that's a player move. She may also be catching your vibe that you are still thinking about her but not doing anything about it and really, I cannot see what you could do anyways. Your window of opportunity has closed here. You will just look like stalker-status if you keep noticing her and try to push something she isn't interested in now.
That's why I feel awkward. And this is why I kinda hate you girls. I was pulled in - and stupid me went for it, albeit too late - I was pushed away and left wondering and looking like an idiot. She follows me around for attention, yet you say as of now I can be viewed as a stalker? That's really unfair and unbelievable at the same time.
Why do you think you look like an idiot? I don't understand why you are saying that? This girl was giving you signs, you tried to start a conversation, she said she had a boyfriend, and then kept staring at you, right? The only thing you could have done differently was asked her sooner and asked for her number, not give her yours. That's it. It doesn't make you an idiot. Stop being so hard on yourself. She sounds a bit odd or she just changed her mind.
Your stalker comment irked me a bit... made me feel now all of the sudden I'm a bad guy. A creep if you will... I mean I'm in an awkward position now and if I try to say something I could come off as a creep... if I don't and we happen to see each other I'm a stalker?
No, you are not a stalker. Stalker-status does not mean you are a stalker, it means that you will appear to be thinking about her too much. If that is the energy you have and she picks up on it, that is a problem.
Well, when I see her, yea I think about her cause I feel awkward and don't know what the hell she is thinking. God, this is so confusing... I'm going to avoid her at all costs. I do not want a perception that I'm a stalker, when I am not one. It's too bad as she could be a really nice girl, and I think I'm a good person, and people are guessing what the other may be like with out actually getting to know them.
I think if people would be less afraid and more open, maybe there would be less confusion and more clarity so guys like me don't have to come here get advice.
I agree. I have had my share of confusing guys who act like they are sincere and want to date you but then you realize they are just looking for sex. They make it really hard for guys who would never do that. I guess part of the problem is people being honest with themselves and then being okay with someone not wanting what they want. In other words, if a guy came up to me and said he wanted FWB only and I told him I didn't, then he would stop at that and not play games to get what he wants.
Girls who have had player types or just regular guys who are not that in to them play games and then disappear after they get what they want, they are fearful and often don't trust their own judgment and you get into situations you are in right now, where you do not know what happened with a girl who seemed interested.
Well it really depends I mean I do that ONLY if the guy starts acting tht way to me!
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Its quite simple. Women act on their emotions. And by acting on your emotions, which change all the time, you can't make sound decisions. For this reason, women don't know what they want and constantly change their minds.
i think she's shy and doesn't know what to say. try confronting her and tell her how you feel. then she'll be force to answer you. she probly just likes you so much she gets caught up whenever sh's near you...
If this is true, then I'm all set! She either was telling the truth she has a boyfriend and just wanted attention or she thought I was a player and made it up.
If she told you she had a boyfriend, then just hook up with someone else. if she was lying then she'd become jealous and do something to get you back. if not, then at least you hooked up with someone.
I just wonder why all the effort to get me to notice her - I mean we're possibly talking about a person altering their schedule to find out my schedule and follow me around. I would like to know if she lied ot me or not. It's hard though to keep seeing her now that I'm at a disadvantage. I'll try to hook up with women right in front of her!
Sometimes its the guy that gives off the wrong signals! I know I do it because guys make me feel like an idiot so to avoid looking like one I just avoid them :)
If a girl suddenly starts avoiding you, its likely that you have done something to scare her away. You should probably just talk to her and ask her why she's ignoring you or just move on if she obviously isn't interested any more.
I feel like guys do that too though, I think it's human nature. Maybe she's playing "hard to get" or she wants YOU to text first? My friend is VERY old fashion and always wants the guy to communicate first. Maybe your girl is waiting for that?
Sometimes the girl wants to see if the guy will chase her or make some grand gesture. Girls like to feel special. Sometimes girls see things from tv or movies and they act the way the characters do.
Not necessarily. It seems to me that the girl he's chasing right now wants him to stop. Do you think if he lays off for a while she'll start to get interested more?
Odd how this works... She was following me, now I'm chasing her? Lets be clear: All I did was approach her one time. Since then I've backed off and ignored her. I think she's p*ssed off that I gave up too quickly and easily.
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It's common problems in almost all girls sometimes you feel she is too much close to you and next moment you feel she is away from you so it's very difficult to understand girls.
We Actually feel the same way sometimes ... so maybe that could be the reason!
Only way to know is to talk. Problem is I don't think that will ever happen!
I could totally relate ...
If she didn't slam the door in my face with the boyfriend line I would approach her again. I understand why she did it (Best Answer Above) but its gotten to the point where too much time has passed and I don't see it going anywhere.
Exactly. Forget about hefr, she's not worh it :D.
maybe they found something out that they didn't like. or was offended in some way. yes we girls over analyze everything!
You really don't want to think too much into this.
It's the basic fact that girls are... undecisive.
Damn, so do i! :D
She seems a bit shy to me or maybe you misready her body language.
No way I misread her body language. She was pretty obvious. Its what's between her ears that is a mysetery.
Correction: mystery
"misready" - misread - well sometimes we want to see things a certain way.
when she stared did she smile?
Yes and No. Mostly I would catch her staring then she would either look away or put her down. One time I happened to see her on my way to my car and she smiled but then quickly turned her head touching her face. The only other time she smiled was when I went up to her and said hi. Still, even then I got rejected.
Sounds like she's scared
not all girls like that. we can be emotionally stable or not. depends on the person.
Everyone is different - I agree.
How long have you known this girl or been aware of her showing interest in you? She may think you are cute and all but does have a boyfriend and wasn't trying to date you. I think you busted a secret admirer who is probably embarassed now. It sounds like she is avoiding you now.
I've been aware of her since last Fall. I finally said something to her a couple of months ago. Yea but in my approach it came off like I've been noticing her - not her bahavior. Then there was that week after trying to get my attention... so, if she's avoiding me is it because I didn't try to talk to her again or is she like me - shy and embarrassed? I know I felt embarrassed after I got rejected by her.
It sounds like you took way too long and then when you went up to her, said hi, and then gave her your number, well as one person said on here, that's a player move. She may also be catching your vibe that you are still thinking about her but not doing anything about it and really, I cannot see what you could do anyways. Your window of opportunity has closed here. You will just look like stalker-status if you keep noticing her and try to push something she isn't interested in now.
That's why I feel awkward. And this is why I kinda hate you girls. I was pulled in - and stupid me went for it, albeit too late - I was pushed away and left wondering and looking like an idiot. She follows me around for attention, yet you say as of now I can be viewed as a stalker? That's really unfair and unbelievable at the same time.
Also, how can I not think of her when she's there and all those months of her behavior. Don't you think this is her fault? Just a little bit?
Why do you think you look like an idiot? I don't understand why you are saying that? This girl was giving you signs, you tried to start a conversation, she said she had a boyfriend, and then kept staring at you, right? The only thing you could have done differently was asked her sooner and asked for her number, not give her yours. That's it. It doesn't make you an idiot. Stop being so hard on yourself. She sounds a bit odd or she just changed her mind.
Your stalker comment irked me a bit... made me feel now all of the sudden I'm a bad guy. A creep if you will... I mean I'm in an awkward position now and if I try to say something I could come off as a creep... if I don't and we happen to see each other I'm a stalker?
No, you are not a stalker. Stalker-status does not mean you are a stalker, it means that you will appear to be thinking about her too much. If that is the energy you have and she picks up on it, that is a problem.
Well, when I see her, yea I think about her cause I feel awkward and don't know what the hell she is thinking. God, this is so confusing... I'm going to avoid her at all costs. I do not want a perception that I'm a stalker, when I am not one. It's too bad as she could be a really nice girl, and I think I'm a good person, and people are guessing what the other may be like with out actually getting to know them.
Sorry I even used the word "stalker". It does sound confusing. I hope you are able to sort out all the advice and find something that works for you.
I think if people would be less afraid and more open, maybe there would be less confusion and more clarity so guys like me don't have to come here get advice.
I agree. I have had my share of confusing guys who act like they are sincere and want to date you but then you realize they are just looking for sex. They make it really hard for guys who would never do that. I guess part of the problem is people being honest with themselves and then being okay with someone not wanting what they want. In other words, if a guy came up to me and said he wanted FWB only and I told him I didn't, then he would stop at that and not play games to get what he wants.
Girls who have had player types or just regular guys who are not that in to them play games and then disappear after they get what they want, they are fearful and often don't trust their own judgment and you get into situations you are in right now, where you do not know what happened with a girl who seemed interested.
They're girls. They're weird like that. BAM BEST ANSWER!
BC they're women and that's what they do to guys that let them get away with it. Find a new one.
im a girl who does this. its called teasing them to see how you guys really feel about them
Very true
Omg it all makes sense now!!!
What makes sence now?
What all makes sense now?
Well it really depends I mean I do that ONLY if the guy starts acting tht way to me!
Its quite simple. Women act on their emotions. And by acting on your emotions, which change all the time, you can't make sound decisions. For this reason, women don't know what they want and constantly change their minds.
i think she's shy and doesn't know what to say. try confronting her and tell her how you feel. then she'll be force to answer you. she probly just likes you so much she gets caught up whenever sh's near you...
If this is true, then I'm all set! She either was telling the truth she has a boyfriend and just wanted attention or she thought I was a player and made it up.
If she told you she had a boyfriend, then just hook up with someone else. if she was lying then she'd become jealous and do something to get you back. if not, then at least you hooked up with someone.
I just wonder why all the effort to get me to notice her - I mean we're possibly talking about a person altering their schedule to find out my schedule and follow me around. I would like to know if she lied ot me or not. It's hard though to keep seeing her now that I'm at a disadvantage. I'll try to hook up with women right in front of her!
You know what!
Sometimes its the guy that gives off the wrong signals! I know I do it because guys make me feel like an idiot so to avoid looking like one I just avoid them :)
I'm guilty of this. I can look p*ssed off sometimes, so she could take it as I don't like her.
If a girl suddenly starts avoiding you, its likely that you have done something to scare her away. You should probably just talk to her and ask her why she's ignoring you or just move on if she obviously isn't interested any more.
I feel like guys do that too though, I think it's human nature. Maybe she's playing "hard to get" or she wants YOU to text first? My friend is VERY old fashion and always wants the guy to communicate first. Maybe your girl is waiting for that?
Sometimes the girl wants to see if the guy will chase her or make some grand gesture. Girls like to feel special. Sometimes girls see things from tv or movies and they act the way the characters do.
Not necessarily. It seems to me that the girl he's chasing right now wants him to stop. Do you think if he lays off for a while she'll start to get interested more?
Odd how this works... She was following me, now I'm chasing her? Lets be clear: All I did was approach her one time. Since then I've backed off and ignored her. I think she's p*ssed off that I gave up too quickly and easily.
Younger girls are immature, no matter what, deal with it or live with it, or kick their butts away.
Like the song says, if you want her to go after you, just walk the other way...
Well honestly that shows that she really likes you. And if you chase after her that shows you care, so it would make your relationship stronger!
What relationship? I don't even know her.