Once you truly like a person, you never really stop liking them, true or false?

[raabzbaby89]

Example:

A guy likes a girl for 5 months straight. He pursues her and is around her all the time and the two become good friends. He wants to be in a serious relationship with her. But she doesn't feel the same way.

Well, one day he decides to stop liking her. But that's the thing, how can he DECIDE that? She has done a few things to make him angry and discouraged, but they have gotten over it and he was always seriously attracted to her..up until that 5 month point.

But since when can you "just stop" liking someone? Don't the feelings remain, maybe buried, maybe denied to the point where he's convinced himself he really doesn't want her, but STILL there. Maybe it takes a certain event to resurface the feelings. Or maybe one night he does a lot of thinking and realizes he hasn't completely stopped liking her.

Is it possible to re-ignite the flames of the first 5 months?

I know I've never been able to JUST STOP liking someone. All the men of my past, still have a little, tiny flame in my heart! Can't be just me, right?

True

False

[sillyzgal2012]

To me I think that if a man just stops liking you that this means that he must not have liked you that much in the beginning. Sure he seemed to have like you alot. He may have started coming over to see you alot, kissed you and told you how much he loved you and was the sweetest to you, but now he seems to have changed and your thoughts are "why? Is it me?" Most likely its not you it's him. He doesn't know what he wants. You know you want him, you know you love him and don't want him to leave, but he feels it's best that he's not with you. One reason could be that he wants to see other people. He may think sticking to one person leads to something huge down the line like marriage. Maybe it's just that he feels he needs a break for a while to test the waters to see what's out there. To see if there is someone better out there then who he's with now. Most guys have two things on there mind and that's girls and money. When they think of girls they think of who they can get with, who's prettier then this one, who wants me more than this one, who has a fatter pussy? I'm sorry honey but if he does not like you anymore he never really did.

[16switches]

I've heard its true for guys because they never get over it really, and this has been proven to me many many times. But I, personally, don't still have crushes on people I initially thought I'd die without. lol. Girls give themselves a window that, okay, if the guy doesn't ask me out within this amount of time, I stop liking him, the guys don't do that. Honestly, I get tired of being attracted to the same person for so long, so I move on!

I had been into this one guy for like a year, and then suddenly I just didn't care anymore. One day, I came to school, saw him, and just passed on by without a backward glance. I think subconsciously, we move on. You can't tell yourself you will, you just do.

[Anonymous]

every summer, I had an enormous crush on this guy. he was perfect. I had this kind of unhealthy obsession over him for like 7 years. and now that I am older and wiser and realize that I wasn't really "in love", I have completely gotten over him.

or so I thought.

i haven't really, because sometimes I will just be thinking about nothing and I will think about him, these inner thoughts that have been nagging at me forever come to the surface. sometimes I think that I will never truly forget about him.

[Jon364]

I can say for anything (not just girls) that you can like something.. or someone.. and then later into the future something can happen that has a ripple effect backwards, so that when you look back everything is now tainted with that new knowledge about them. And you don't see them the same way again.

For example before the internet and learning what Scientology is.. I could take Tom Cruise movies seriously! Now I go back and watch the old ones and it's not the same!

Do you still like them? Maybe a little, like there is a soft spot for *once* liking them. But it's not the same feeling. It will never be the same. That feeling is lost forever.

The thing that changes your perspective could be anything. You could find out they killed someone, or cheated, or even something smaller. *shrug*

[raabzbaby89]

Your answer probably nails it the best

[Lockjawx27]

Well a girl can never become un-attractive to a guy that finds her attractive, until she gets old of course.

But he can be seriously turned off by her constantly rejecting him and leading him on. It can cause him to despise what kind of person she is.

So if "like" is defined ONLY by how good she looks, then sure, there's no way for him to stop. But "like" is so much more than that.

For instance, I "like" Katey Perry, she's hot. But I would never date her, because her attitude and personality turns me off big time. I just couldn't deal with it

[Jon364]

You don't like attention seekers? Haha.

[Lockjawx27]

Hell no

[avksxx]

Chocolate cake will always be tasty. That doesn't mean I will be in the mood for forkful after I wake up dehydrated in the middle of the night. What made you attracted to your exes will always be there, but that doesn't mean that you're always going to want them, or that they're always going to be good for you.

[mf-ibmj]

its true, you know why,

because when you like a person, you don't just like one thing about them, no, you like their appearance, their skin, their personality, their taste in clothing, their intelligence, etc..

so, even if you do break up, or anything, ud still find AT LEAST one of these features attractive !

[gnargnar]

I think it's true to a point, but I voted false because people change, or they become different once you get to know them. In your case he stopped liking you when you rejected him, that right there made him "mad" at you, and he started to see you in a different light, and he won't see you the same way again. but if nothing like this happens when you're pursuing someone then I think the feelings will linger.

[jan3y]

why would someone be mad at you for rejecting them?

[rdabby]

False.

I will like a guy oneday and if he disappoints me few times I will probably not like him anymore. plus why are you forgetting that being rejected leads to not liking the person who rejected you so many times!

Lets not forget that , people fall in love and then fall out of love after years and years go by... so ofcourse its false because when you re in the "crush" phase.. anything could happen!

[AliceMcKay]

I think that you can't just stop king someone. I don't think that you will like them FOEVER but it has to happen gradually, you can't just be like okay, now I don't like you, and have it work. I have tried that. The guy I like leads me on, but treats me bad as well, I've told myself about 100 tims to stop liking him, told myself no, I don't like him. But as soon as he talks to me I'm like dam! and it starts all over again

[PrincessCandy17]

i used to like this guy for almost 5 years. I know pathetic. but I got over it and I don't like him that much anymore. I just woke up one morning and I decided I wasn't going to like him anymore. in fact I have days were I really hate him. so it's possible to get over that liking feeling.

[Anna19]

I think its half true. I think its true that you will always have emototions towards that someone, but you can also really, really hate him/her. They say the ones you hate the most, used to be the ones you loved the most and that's so true. But you don't just stop liking somebody.

[Fiqah]

well, the longer you like someone, the harder it is for him/her to be forgotten.

well, that's in my experience anyway. I liked a guy for a year and well, it's been four years since I've seen him and I still have moments when I actually say to myself that I still like the guy but you know, it's like those days when you eat something and when you eat it too much, you get sick of it. I guess, it's this situation. (:

[EddyMetal]

Super false. There have been plenty of people I liked at one time that I don't like anymore. It's common knowledge that you grow out of your friends a lot of the time. I can't believe so many people answered A.

[Dines]

Plenty of people at one time? That means you never truly liked any of them.

[--LalaSugar--]

As in past tense, he's liked them at one point in his life but no longer does....

I totally agree, everyone changes and developes in different ways its a fact of life. You grow out of most things as you grow older including people.

[EddyMetal]

@ Dines: LalaSugar has it correct.

@ LalaSugar: Thank you.

[GeeeFooo]

Its true, As mf-ibmj said you aren't just attracted to a person because of one thing. Its the whole person and what makes that person up that you are attracted to. So you can't just decide that you don't like them anymore. And I believe that once you have loved someone they always stay in you'r heart in some way, Even if you don't love them anymore you still remember the good times that yous each had together.

[Juliana77]

From my personal experience, it's false. I can garantee I truly loved my ex boyfriend of 3 years and 5 months with all my heart, and I don't like him anymore.

[demetri77]

That's false. It is true that if at first you like someone, then you see a reason to NOT like them, even then you try and see something good in them again, something that you like. But that doesn't mean you'll find it.

[rissaboo45]

I think that's false. I was absolutley head over heels for my ex boyfriend and after he broke up with me and shattered my heart into a million pieces.. I can even look at him the same.. he's just scum now.

[Yeahhbro]

That is a big false, I could love somebody with all of my heart but if she is a cheater, a girl who loves to play games, manipulative and selfish, then the feeling eventually will go away

[Tatl128]

Yeah, that can happen. There is this guy I have been crushing on for 9 months. He started being a real jerk to my friends about 4 months ago. I tried to stop liking him, telling myself that he isn't right for me, and I finally did. But now I can't quit thinking about how I still like him. And he is still a jerk.

[Nickishguy]

Yeah usually I just bury my feelings for girls I've liked, but they always rise back up, always.

[AmandaYVR]

My god, why are there so many votes on this? Holy smokes people are interested in this. Yet few comments. What does that mean? This is an odd one.

[emzy-89]

maybe its not neccessarily that you still like the person but you like to remember all the good times you had with that person and this can be misconstrued as liking someone.

[tigerguy]

this sounds a lot like me only my feelins didn't for her didn't resurface, it just became a sexual attraction but didn't feel romantic for her anymore for some reason

[chiefnavarro]

youll always like them for the reasons you initially like them for. every time I check my email I'm semi hoping for a girl from my past to contact me.

[coffeeglass]

TRUE!

well for me anyway, I really liked a guy for about a year, and this was about three years ago, and there's still that little part of me that hasn't moved on, even though the rest of me has, sucks huh

[Psykhe27]

Wrong. I have a borderline personality disorder ex that I hate with the passion and fire of 1000 suns.

[mi_amour]

I think that goes for love, not like.

[Hughman]

Ever heard of 50% divorce rates?

[justhat1chick]

he didn't decide he just gave up