Should I believe my boyfriend or another girl?

[Anonymous]

I found out that while I was 7 months pregnant my boyfriend had met a girl at the library at his school and had began to occasionally talk/flirt with her on facebook and on the phone. I talked to him and he admitted to talking/flirting with the girl and claims that is all that happened. I read the messages and they were mostly innocent nothing about sex. He would just comment in ways such as you look like a mode I in one message and the rest of it was hey how you doing etc. I talked to the girl over facebook and she said they had had sex. He denied that automatically when I told him and claimed he had told her that she was developing too much feelings for him at one point and she got mad about it. I read a message that he wrote that said things like I miss you I wanna talk call me I was in a tough situation and it also said to her I guess you be mad @ me off and on is that why you walked off in the library today.I asked the girl and she said she has no evidence that they slept together because she told him not to talk about sex in messages because she thinks sex is bad? Parts of what she says don't make sense and I don't know if I can trust her or not. I would like to believe my boyfriend but it's hard to trust after something like this happens.Who should I believe and should I give him another chance?

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He seems sorry and like he regrets the situation but I just hate that the girl says something different than him. I just don't wanna be too naive, but the girl could be lying also so I don't wanna automatically believe her over my boyfriend.

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She also messaged me and said he had called her rite b4 I messaged her and asked her not to tell me anything.he said he had called to give her a heads up that his angry girlfriend was gonna call, to be courteous since they hadn't spoke for awhile.

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that was something that caused even more doubt.

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what do you mean by and probably more I don't get what you meant fernando

[hisangel]

I think both people are lying.

If you take yourself out of the situation, think of a guy meeting a girl in a library, getting her info to talk to her, and telling her she looks like a model. That is a guy picking up on a girl. That's not harmless flirting with a girl who is already a FB friend. That is a guy making her a FB friend so he can pick up on her.

Then you have a girl who has no proof that she slept with the guy but insists she did. And you have this guy calling her to be "courteous" about the whole issue.

I don't think he slept with her cause if there was some sexual contact I think there would be proof like emails, texts, or something. But I think he was trying to.

My guess is he was trying to start something and it fell through. Like maybe he found out something he didn't like. And that's why she is contacting you and that's why he is being such a nice guy to call her and give her a heads up. He probably said one or two things to her in the past that made it clear what his intentions were and that's why he called her. To tell her to keep her mouth shut about it.

I'm sorry to say it but your boyfriend is a cheater. He may not have cheated yet but he knows how to lie, cover his tracks, and threaten other people to keep their mouths closed about what he did. Even if he hasn't had the opportunity yet to cheat, he knows how to cheat. And if he can't control himself when you are baring his child, I have a hard time believe he will control himself later.

[Thedesendent]

Well, sense there is no evidence of a sexual relationship between the two I would let it go. I mean I'd be a little ticked that he was flirting with her and ask him not to do it again, but I would forgive him and keep going on in life. However, I would also keep a closer eye on him, see if he meets any girls in a suspicious way or if he starts being a bit secretive or something. Not stalking him everyday mind you because a relationship is built on trust but, in light of the circumstances anyone wouldn't be surprised if you were a little skeptical after this.

[gothicbabe253]

I would have to say I doubt the chick is telling the truth. The way it sounds to me she wants him bad enough to try to break you two up. And being a chick she knows that's one way to do it. If she thinks sex is bad then she wouldn't have sex, its common sense. And the chick must think ahead if she's gonna tell him not to talk about sex in messages, who says he had to listen to her. He is a guy after all and they think about it all the time so it'd be hard to convince him not to talk about it. If a chick don't make sense don't by it.

[FernandoS]

Be clear to your boyfriend, tell him to cut off contact with her since she only makes trouble.

I think its almost a clear fact that she wants him for herself and wants him to dump you, he is in a dilemma'; he loves you, but has feelings for her too and probably more.

[Anonymous]

If parts of her story don't make sense that may be indicators that she's not being truthful. If you want, ask her to give some details about your bf's body that she would only know if she slept with him.

[Asker]

That's a good idea I didn't think of that.

[Asker]

It's hard to know the truth also because when I found out this happened I told his Mom the same day and later on she said she had talked to him and she really doesn't think he slept with that girl based on their convos, his granmother said the same thing also. But I don't wanna be naive and was cheated on by others in the past so I get worried that maybe he could even lie to them.

[Opinion Owner]

Mom's are the ones that you see on the news still saying "my poor son is innocent and misunderstood" after the police find 50 bodies buried in the basement. You can't go by what they say. A lot of the time they don't want to believe it and have already made up their mind and/or the son is just a good liar.

Aside from whether or not he did sleep with her, you also should examine the conversations they had and his intent. He may not have slept with her, but he did cross a line by what was said.

[Asker]

I agree and that's why I haven't just dropped it despite what his family has even said. I know he crossed a line because he was up to something he shouldn't have been because he's in a relationship.

[natashaa]

i think your boyfriend is telling the truth s he told you honestly that they talked and you don't know this girl from a bar of soap ahe is prob lying to break you guys up don't trust a stranger trust the boyfriend he seems sincere and she doesn't just believe him already

[Reeses-pieces777]

wow...this sucks. just be careful from now on about anything he says. it doesn't matter what his mother or his grandmother says, they're all going to be on his side.

talk to the girl to get the truth and try to analyze what she's saying. things like guys hooking up behind their girl's back happen. that's the truth

[Anonymous]

no he f***ed her be real with cha self and even he didn't its not about that its him being your man and if he was he would have never started tlkin to her in the first place so still it don't matter weather they did or not cause what if he meets another girl and she thincks sex is great then what's going to happen

i know your haveing a baby ansd uwant him to be in the baby life but hey you got feelings to he can still be there but he don't gotta be witchu

[Asker]

Well my baby is 3 months now and me and him were OK till just about a month ago when I found out that he had talked to her in the past.

[Asker]

I'm not so much worried about what he will do in the future I really do believe he's sorry but I still am concerned if he is lying about the past.

[Vieanna]

Since your pregnant you should probably try to make it work. To make things work, your going to have to trust him. But make it clear that your not going to tolerate him flirting or chatting with other girls. It's disrespectful and should never happen, unless you know about it of course and it's okay with you.

If the girl tries to get into contact with you again, ask her nicely to leave you and your little family alone.

[ddjenn]

Honestly it seams to fishy to stay with the guy... I hate to break it to you but yes it sounds like he is a cheater.. Go with your gut and get out of the situation before he does it again. Be strong and good luck

[Sweetescpe13]

...this is really hard. I know who I think you should believe but I don't wanna say it, because I'm afraiid tht it might be wrong. What do you feel in your gut? Go with tht..best of luck

[citygurl]

i think this girls lying, she obviously likes your boyfriend and she's trying to break you two up :S her storys are all over the place and make no sense. trust your boyfriend :)

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[citygurl]

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[calmmie]

my father didn't wanted to have me. He cheated while my mother was pregnant. He b%%%ched hell out of while I was growing up and developed schizophrenia.

[Anonymous]

Hes been chating and flirting with her, guys usually stray when a girl is pregnant or when the baby comes because the childs needs are greater than his sex needs...

[Anonymous]

And why would she be so kind to share this info with you? She is your bff? If your guy looks innocent then he proply is.

[Asker]

I also freaked because I told my boyfriend I was gonna call or message the girl the same day I found their messages and she responded to my message with her version of the story. She also messaged me and said he had called her rite b4 I messaged her and asked her not to tell me anything. I read that message back to him and he said he had called to give her a heads up that his angry girlfriend was gonna call, to be courteous since they hadn't spoke for awhile. makes me nervous.

[TheCheshireCat]

Believe the other girl

[rakar]

boyfriend