Should I believe my boyfriend or my friends?

[Anonymous]

So I'm a virgin, and I'm spending a week with my boyfriend. I was going to stay at a hotel, but my boyfriend disagreed and didn't like that idea and in general doesn't like the area he thinks it won't be safe for me. So I agreed to stay at his house. He told me we weren't going to do anything, and that made me feel better knowing that I can trust him enough for me to lay in his bed with him. My friends thinks that he will do something. Even my mom agrees and she's not the type that will lie or tease. I wouldn't get mad if he wanted to I'm just nervous that I will freak out again like I did with my ex.
I may sound stupid, I just have a lot of trust in him.

[Kaytiee]

Don't trust him, please. I understand how alluring the idea is to be able to cuddle with your partner, but this is how I was raped. My boyfriend told me nothing sexual would happen at all, and I lost my virginity by him raping me. I may sound 'over the top' but I had no idea, and neither will you, you're inlove so how can someone you love rape you? How foolish right? Also the 'rough' area thing sounds like an excuse to get you somewhere you can't ask for help. I'd not sleep at his house for now, until you feel comfortable.

[SnakeBoop]

if you trust him, then trust him. asking here shows you don't have trust.

[nachosaresexy]

Ehhh... if you stayed at a hotel I'm assuming he'd spend at least part of the time there with you, which is even more suggestive of sexy time than hanging at this place.

Either you've communicated your sexual expectations/boundaries or ya haven't. If you have, then you gotta be able to trust the person you're in a relationship with, or if the relationship hasn't reached that stage then avoid either scenario you described.

[Asker]

Yes that's true, he does know I'm a virgin and I told him my past and why I am. I even told him about how and why I freaked out when I tried with my ex.
So if he's telling the truth about his past, it seems like the last time he had sex was when he was in his early 20s because he's 32 now. And the last time he been with a girl was when he was like 23 or 24.

[Wise4myage]

Sleep in his bed, but just be wise to any thing he might try. And if he does, than maybe its best to a hotel, or sleep on couch.

[Adam1978]

Don't share bed with him if you aren't willing for things to happen. Doesn't matter what he says, if you don't want it, you make sure it doesn't happen.

[LazerBean]

I guess this will be a good time to test him. You'll know that if he does end up trying something then he's full of BS.

[Asker]

I will definitely see for sure.