Beware the trap of the "nice guy" narrative, there's a lot of assholes out there who buy into the idea that "women don't like me because I'm just TOO NICE, other guys are only getting dates because they lack my amazing personal virtue." It's appealing because you can blame an unjust universe (or the foolishness of all women, if you're sexist) instead of having to acknowledge any personal shortcomings you might have to work on.
Look at it this way: A healthy relationship is one where you're a positive force in each other's lives. Focus on making sure your presence in their life is a good thing, and vice versa. That can mean being nice- but more important is stuff like actually caring about them, understanding them, being open+honest with them, and respecting what they do & don't want.
Yeah, the more secure the girl is with herself, the more likely she will date a good guy who doesn't need to act like a "bad boy" to get validation. If you're a very attractive "nice" guy, or super talented at something, "bad boys" stand little chance. Again, as long as the girl is not insecure (which most are)... if she's insecure, she'll likely be interested in only chasing validation, and attention from whoever has most value in the school.
I'm just like you! Glad to hear guys my age range are still virgins! Ideally I'd love to be married to one if not he can be celibate.
I think it's cute and all but kinda frustrating because it's like the blind leading the blind! I often times find myself having to make all the moves. I hate initiating things because I feel like he doesn't really like me.
Nice and innocent shy smart guys are lovely nd cute but i like funny guys someone that is not afraid to tell the world how much he loves me. For me in place of shy guys i like them funny. It is said that cool guys make you drool, handsome guys make you daydream, but funny guys makes you fall inlove without even realising.
I think it's cute! As long as he's got a great personality and what-not. It may be difficult for someone like you to compete with those tough "bad boy" types, but trust me, girls who are looking for good relationships will gravitate towards you.
Losers is what guys seem to think but no its not true. I like talking to nice people in general, my boyfriend is nice for the most part but he knows not to be a push over.
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Shyness is just holding you back. Once you realize that you are the hardest critic and no one is keeping tabs on all of the things that you worry about, you get to a point to where you can put yourself out there.
Shy is the only real no no. If you're not confident then you're not going to get very far, even outside of dating.
Unless if by innocent you just mean naive, in which case you're going to get walked all over.
Guys like that do fine of they're good-looking. If they're average or below average they'll struggle: there are more of them than there are girls who are into them, and they'll have a hard time meeting those girls too.
I like them! I am the same way so once in an event I met someone who was exactly like me. He was so adorable and gorgeous. The thought of being mine only and vise versa feels so right. It is very special
Be confident, brave, dominant and a good person. Girls like assholes because they are confident, not because they are assholes.
They are fine but they only thing is that I am shy too so it is difficult for us to approach each other. I think that shy people fit better with very social people. But other than that as long as i have chemistry I don't mind
Shyness isn't a good thing when it goes too far, but that's great there's no more that many guys like you. If you try to be friends with her first, show her that you're interested or she'll probably just put you straight to the friendzone.
i was into that when i was younger. now i was someone... nice, but assertive. i don't want someone i can push around.
I usually go for that type of guy. if you're not too shy, it is quite adorable when a guy acts shy and sweet around you. It can also sometimes be nice and comforting when a guy asked sweet and more innocent, (some girls are different, but most like their guy to be remotely kinda.) Also being smart is cute if you don't brag about it.
They're the only guys I normally date or go for. I feel like I can get along with them easier. The bad guys are lame 'n' make life worse for you.
They put them in the friend zone and label them beta males.
they throw them into the friend zone and continue chasing the asshole who will hurt them physically and emotionally, then theyll come on here and complain about men and wonder where all the good guys on, only to repeat the same cycle again
What a great question, always interesting to know opinions from the female perspective and there's quite a wealth of them here
Girls don't really like Shy guys unless she's a dom
Smart, girls like that
Innocent, I have no idea about this one, same as shy?
Nice, no.
They think nothing, if their personality is bright along with their looks they will like him.
That type is probably more desirable, it makes a girl feel lile they can trust you rather than be on their guard all the time
Insta-friendzoned.
Those type of guys only get friend zoned.
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