She invited me for coffee... does it mean she asked me out on a date?

[Chris1456]

There is this girl I knew for a while. I always liked her but never acted as she was taken, and then moved away and broke up with her boyfriend. I recently got back in touch with her, both complaining about being single, and i tried to seduce her a little bit and told me how I made her smile, how i was so kind and lovely and how she knew i was going to make someone very happy etc... and then told me she will be visiting soon and wants to meet me for coffee...

did she somehow invited me on a date?

[FluffyBee]

Well no she didn't say date, just relax and enjoy the day with her and see it as a normal date to get closer and at the end of the day you will see
She could like you more or just as a friend, because I would say the things she said to a friend and to a guy I would be interested in I would joke around why he already haven't asked for a date or be straight forward and say that I like you and would not say at all that you would someday make someone happy, because that's excatly what I say to a friend and to someone I like I would just say you make me happy
See the difference, not someone but me, yeah super small detail

[FluffyBee]

*see it as a normal day (not date) a normal day with a friend

[Anonymous]

To me, based on what you wrote, she just sounds lonely and you made her feel pretty and desired. It's not like she likes you, but you make her feel good about herself and she wants more of that.

Honestly, that kind of situation would be a huge turn off to me and reeks of desperation, but I understand you're already set on it no matter what you're told since you like her.

[Chris1456]

it's true that I like her but already last year she showed me some signs of interest (asked me if i had a girlfriend etc,) I just never acted because she was in a relationship then.

[Opinion Owner]

Asking people if they're in a relationship doesn't mean we're interested in them romantically.
It could even mean that she sensed some vibe from you and was just checking your status.

I guess she's looking for a relationship now.
All I want to say is don't get your hopes up thinking she may have liked you as well from before, even when she was still dating the other guy. Actually if she did, that's kind of spineless of her.
Anyway, why not just go with the flow and find out?
See her without pink lenses and decide if you're a good match.

[BrittBratt2416]

It sounds like you're a friend, shoulder to lean on. The part were she says, "she knew i was going to make someone very happy" pretty much says she sees you being good for someone else but not for her cause she don't see you that way. She just invited a friend out, like most friends do.

[Chris1456]

yeah but then I asked her for dinner and she said yes...
she showed me before some signs like she once asked me if a had a girlfriend etc, but I never acted on it because she was in a relationship...

[BrittBratt2416]

o well see were it goes then.

[looneymalooney]

curiously, gag might not be the best place for advice :) ... as you can see in the comments with people simply going "no, you are dreaming, get a life, it's just your imagination"

Thing is that she believes you are kind and lovely, that you make her smile and that she wants to see you for a coffee. Plus she is now single and complaining how single she is.

Is this something that you were doing on a regular basis when she was taken: going for a coffee?
If not, then see it as it is: something that changed in the pattern of her behaviour towards you.

Either way, go for the coffee, relax and have fun.

[psychoticallyawkward]

You deserve best answer.

[Chris1456]

@psychoticallyawkward done

[Chris1456]

ha, well to be honest we rarely saw each other/hung out while she was living there. especially since she was in a relationship then. and after I said yeah for coffee, I i invited her for dinner as well, and she said that it would be really lovely...

[looneymalooney]

@psychoticallyawkward thank you
@Chris1456 niiice. well done with the dinner invitation.

[Anonymous]

Hm, well a coffee date is considered a daytime outing... which usually goes in the friendship area. As where dinner is a nighttime outing and breaches the romantic zone.

But with that said. None of that matters. What you have is an oppertunity. Date or not, it’s a proving chance. Look at it as a test, and if you pass, you progress. Savvy? From just a friend to potential partner. All depends on how you handle this coffee outing.

Good luck sir 😎

[MrMAC777]

It's a positive, she wants to spend time with you. Thats a good thing! But work hard not to get stuck in the friend zone... make sure she knows you want her, and follow it up with an actual date invite. Good luck!

[Chris1456]

well after I said yes for coffee and Invited her to dinner and she said yes... and dinner is quite a different type of one on one thing than coffee?

[MrMAC777]

Yes man, that is date #2 and dinner with a lady is far more formal than coffee. Treat her like a lady and be a gentlemman, but dont be cheesy. Keep reinforcing that you mean to be more than friends and she will shut it down if she doesn't feel the same. You're doing well so far though!

[outsidecurve]

It's a borderline date. Best to play it cool. She obviously likes you. Take the time to romance her and show her you think she's special. Everything else will happen with ease.

[markscott]

If not a date, then pretty close to it. The important part is she is showing definite interest in you.

[matheus_mb]

I wouldn't use the word date because she didn't say it was a date, but I think it's indeed something good. Enjoy it.

[Analisssa]

Not sure but if she wants to meet you it definitely means something and i really think she wants to get to know you better. You’ve got this!

[RasmusAiken]

A meeting for coffee is to get reacquainted. She'll decide later whether she wants to date you.

[MyaMarie]

This is your test dude. Make sure this date goes well...

[GrahamElliott]

Tell him what you want him to do while you're having sex.

[Lumberman53]

No I was invited by a girl to her house for Thanksgiving and I doubt she has any feelings for me romantically

[Chris1456]

that was for Thanksgiving it's a difference considering there may be other people aroud. She invited me for coffee one on one and then was up for dinner afterwards?

[Lumberman53]

True but still girls are less likely to think of it romantically the possibility is there yes but still her offering to get coffee does not mean a date

[Chris1456]

yeah but like i said i invited her to dinner as well and she said yeah? I really doubt a girl would agree to go have dinner with a guy if she wasn't at least a little into him :)

[Lumberman53]

The possibility of romantic interest is there I won't deny it. But, still it doesn't guarantee anything. The way I see it, you have a chance of her being interested, but it's not for sure.

[kattybobs]

Maybe, tread carefully until she gives you some proper signs

[wbblackhawk8]

Nope. She's not into you.

[Chris1456]

i asked her if she would also be up to have dinner with me and she said yes. would you agree to go for dinner with someone if you weren't into him?

[wbblackhawk8]

Yes.

[AngelinaB]

She just want drink coffee with u. Like a friend.
If u like her, say it to her.

[QueenofCups]

Could be. Tell her yes and see how it goes.

[orphanedmind]

Meet her and find out.

[Benk111]

Doesn't she live out of town?

[Chris1456]

yeah but she is coming to visit so she wants to see me. which is weird since when she used to live there we barely saw each other/talked to each other...

[Benk111]

What would be the point in going on a date with you if she was just going to be there for a short time and go home soon after?

[MusicMayhem]

Hookup

[Chris1456]

@MusicMayhem that is basically what i am hoping for considering how hot she is haha

[creedgamer]

maybe she just wants coffee

[AddictedGirl]

Sort of

[kinggeorge007]

Yes she did

[jacquesvol]

I don't think so.

[Anonymous]

Maybe