Is it okay to rely on a guy to protect you?

[Anonymous]

Is it? Do girls who do this annoy you?

Yes, it is

No girl, learn to defend yourself

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I mean physically

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Can we be clear on something, this isn't about me directly, I'm just asking to see peoples opinions.

[Anonymous]

Trick question.
You did not specify - to protect how? Carry around a jacket so he can protect you from the rain?
A girl becomes a woman when she can control her life. Do things on her own. Women can't punch as hard as men can. There is also an innate atraction for men who are protective. It is in our genes. Even if we live in a most secure neighbourhood and don't need protection we still need a man who would make us feel secure. Be it a woman who is a lawyer or a barista.

But to RELAY on a guy sounds like scene from the Goodfellas when she cried after the neighboor tried to touch him. -He touched me! Dear God!
And then a main character comes to smash his nose.
However hilarious, it only happens in the movies.

[Opinion Owner]

* neighbour tried to touch her :D sorry, it is late.

[Anonymous]

Ur not going to have a guy besides u every second of ur life. How do u think women get raped or kidnapped. And there has been just as many cases where men have been killed or worse. So what r u going to do when ur alone and someone attacks u and there is no one to help or hear u.

[mcget]

There is nothing wrong with trusting a guy to fall back on when you feel like shit..

But you need to have a balance between doing it on you own and to put yourself in someone else his hands..

I have 2 awesome female friends. And they are strong and independent. but sometimes they can't handle it on their own anymore and they somehow have faith that if they come to me i will take care of them/protect them

Don't rely on everyone but only on the people you trust and try to do stuff yourself because nobody else can completely feel what you feel!

[Anonymous]

If she's always spouting feminist crap about being superior or equal in every way, she can man the fuck up and handle it. Respect for her independence and equality and blah, blah, blah.

Other than that, it's perfectly reasonable.

[MaddyMax]

Both the boyfriend and girlfriend should protect each other. It shouldn't be just all one sided, that's just retarded. I know for one if someone broke in while I was with my SO we'd both confront the intruder. Having someone go down by themselves does not make sense. THAT'S HOW PEOPLE DIE IN MOVIES. Lmfao

[Obviouslyfabulous]

Guys are usually much stronger than girls, so I don’t see any harm in a girl going out with a guy they trust in a sketchy part of town as safety so they don’t get raped or something. You rarely ever hear of women raping or kidnapping men but rather the other way around. Although I think it’s wonderful for women to learn self defense, it’s always smart in my opinion to have a trustworthy male around in a sketchy situation to lower their chances of harm.

[Edinburghguy9]

Men like it when they feel like you need them, emotionally as well as physically, but it is always useful to know how to defend yourself in life, you don't want to lose your own power and become entirely dependent upon one person for your own physical safety.

[justabadassgirl]

U gotta learn to defend for urself. What happens if u don't have a bf? Who r u gonna rely on when there's a dangerous situation and a guy isn't around? Exactly. Everybody needs learn how to defend themself.

[Smash01]

I would protect my wife with my life. And I think she would appreciate it. And when I'm not around I've taught her how to shoot and we took are concealed carry class together so even when she's by herself I don't need to protect her she can protect herself. I think the man's responsibility is security, not necessarily protection!

[gclark2708]

I think it's okay, if you were my girlfriend I'd automatically try to do it anyway
But if you were to start trouble and then expect me to put myself in harms way because you did that then I wouldn't be okay with it

I think if you want to learn a martial art or something then you should go for it and it's pretty cool in my opinion

[FractiousMoss]

I don't think it's bad to rely on a guy to defend you but not all men will or can there's all this stuff about how strong women are but don't apreciate the fact that there are stereotypes on men one of the biggest ones being all men are strong fighters it's just not true there have been times I've had to look after my guy friends In a fight because they were scared and that's completely okay so yes it's okay but learn to fight for yourself because people won't do it for you

[lumos]

I don't think you should rely on anyone to protect you, except the police (best case scenario).
I think everyone would be a lot more well off if they took some basic self-defense classes. I've been looking into it myself recently.

[VaIiant]

It’s nice to feel protected, but walking down the street with the knowledge you could kick everyone’s ass is better.

[JKling88]

Personally, a guy ought to be willing and able to protect you. If he chooses not to, he isn't worth your time. However, he won't be by your side 100% of the time. Hopefully, neither one of you would ever need to defend yourselves, but it's best to prepared for all situations.

[PondyPand]

Firstly, depends on yourself. Are you more independent? Then you'd learn some moves. Secondly, depends on the guy. Some men would want to be able to protect you, some want to know you'd be safe if they weren't around.

[My99legend]

Depends to be honest. Like if there's a guy there I would rely on him. But I think it's important to be able to defend yourself bc there's a 90% chance a guy won't be around when you need him.

[weaponsdude]

It's the man's job to reach the woman how to protect herself. When the bad guys come, I want another shooter with me. That, and I cannot be around her 24/7. Teach your kids as well. It will only make you stronger as a team.

[Alifa]

It's not about not being able to defend oneself. When the time comes, I believe that most women I know are capable of giving their attacker a badass kick in the stomach. But, there is some kind of inherent sexiness in your male partner being protective. I think this comes from the times when the man used to hunt while the woman looked after her children and the house. The display of protectiveness would then provide some security as to the man caring for her and the family, otherwise the women would have children and the man would just leave.

[ThoughtfulGuy75]

It is o. k., but you should still learn to look after yourself.

If you're going out and starting shit with other people and expecting him to protect you, it's definitely not o. k.

[mesasme]

Relying on a man to protect you is not bad at all however you shouldn't be relying on him because of your inability... he won't always be there to protect you

[andreasderjuengere]

Basically I find nothing wrong with it. But some girls have this idea that their guy is something like their fighting drone. Some effort on 'her' own side is required. And this: If she starts an issue because of nothing - - > not my business.

[LFMastah]

depends on the situation, physical protection most guys got you covered. financial protection, depends whats your status with the guy and whats he like and for emotional protection, not so much.

[Ayer93]

I have some friends that are girls that I chill with and the only time I'd step in is if things actually got physical. Otherwise they can handle themselves just fine and I try my absolute best not to be that cockblocker

[idk777]

If it's me, I'm training my girlfriend in martial arts/self defense because women get victimized more often than men do. At the same time, I'm defending her with my life even if she's Ronda Rousey level because that's the guys role and purpose.

[MemeSupreme]

It's okay for a guy to protect you, but being able to defend yourself is also good.