Women: How do you define a "high value" man?

[Chiper91]

Is it the looks? Wealth, social status? Achievements?

[Ashlyn96]

I think a high value man is someone who respects those close to him. Someone who can be open and honest without fear of losing their "man card." A man who is unapologetically himself, flaws and all, and doesn't put on a mask to manipulate others into thinking he's perfect. Money, status, power, fame, what have you, just gets to people's heads and turns them into greedy, hollow shells of who they once were. Look at anyone in Hollywood, for example. I'd rather have a man that's down to earth, genuine, caring, respectful, honest, and dedicated in whatever he does. Supportive too, but in an emotional/mental way, not financially. Looks and money don't define a person for shit, they can still have a disgusting personality.

[Loverpool]

Very well said Ashlyn. You have the kind of lovely wise personality that guys adore. A keeper as we say.

[Ashlyn96]

Haha why thank you, that's really nice to hear. Hopefully one day I'll find someone like I talked about, he'd be a keeper for sure!

[Bittu009]

I wish if every girl was thinking like u.

Because I was totally dedicated and loyal to my girl but she betrayed me anyways. My devotion to her was so much that I even was ready to lose my parents and my parents told me either her or us.

But I got a betrayal, she was with me for money, the day I resigned from my job she left me.

But now I got a better job and I will be better but alone.

It's really painful but I know I have to live like this, I have to live with that.

[Ashlyn96]

Damn, I'm so sorry you were involved with someone like that. I've had some truly terrible experiences with my ex, and I wouldn't wish disloyalty, out of all things, on anyone. It fucks with your head for an incredibly long time, even if you don't realize all the damage done for years afterward.

She'll get what's coming to her one day, and so will you. Only difference is, she'll end up falling hard for someone that does the exact same twisted bullshit that she did. While you will one day find someone that makes you forget the bad people.

You deserve better, and I hope that you give time enough patience to do it's thing and heal you. It'll all be okay some day. ❤

[ChronicThinker]

I appreciate what a man does for a living, not for the money value but because it says a lot about his work ethic and the type of man he is. Even something as humble as construction.

Looks come into play, a high value man would likely be fit and in good shape. I appreciate outspoken, confident and honest men.

[Bluedream13]

Girls want resources this is biology 101

[ChurchOfIron]

@Bluedream13 It depends on how much they need resources. Women can provide for themselves, today. A woman who is not wanting for resources will see that as less of an important characteristic. Whereas, a woman who grew up in abject poverty might find that a very important aspect.

They would want a man who is capable of providing for them, yes. But that's mainly just because when they get preggers, they can't do as much for themselves, so they need a man who can take care of them. Which just makes sense.

Beyond the capability to do that, most women in modern society don't care as much about resources. Women also biologically desire protection. But, protection isn't as necessary in the modern world, so naturally, that becomes less of an important characteristic, as well. You don't see all women mandating that men be skilled in martial arts and have marksman training.

Instinct isn't the only thing humans are made of.

[ChronicThinker]

@Bluedream13 I have my own money dude. I actually had more than my fiance when I met him and technically still make more than he does since he's still in training. So, your basic and unthoughtful stereotype is cute, but it's wrong in my case.

[ChurchOfIron]

@Bluedream13 There are a lot of rich men who have no luck with women, because they thought the same as you. "I just need status and resources, and women will come begging to be with me."

That's not how it is, at all. The only thing women really need is a connection. And virtually any man can learn how to form one.

[villageidiot]

Does one need to be outspoken to be confident?

[Anonymous]

Let's face it: Women find 80% of all men unattractive and that may very well be linked to his poor socioeconomic status aka if he is poor, then he's definitely not high value. 80% of all men don't have enough money to be seen as a high value man.

Forget about it pal. That green paper matters more than you may think.

And then there is looks but looks won't pay the bills unless you are a model making a living of it.

[SoundProtocol]

Analysing these answers there's a common thing to near 95% of female population: looks.
A fit and handsome man is what the vast majority is looking for, compensated by diversed personality traits, some linked with confidence, gentleness and assertiveness.

Basically, a have it all. Good looking, good career, good social standarts and skills, similar goals.

[Kendyrocks]

A man who is intelligent and shows resepct towards me. Who respekts erverything about me including my flaws.

Weath, looks etc. is extra and i won't pay a lot of attention to this.
Actually if my boyfiend is wealthy and good looking. I would be so insecure, i would think that people think i wouldn't be good enough for him and they try to separate us.
And i dont like this attention from press or from my whole school.

I only want someone who makkes me happy evrythime i see, or even think about him.

A person i would live for.

[quietlyconfident21]

In my opinion, a "high value" man is a man who is sweet and caring when he needs to be, and rough and intimidating when need be. A man who has a life and knows where he is going with it. A man who isn't aftiad to say what and how he feels and doesn't cover up his true self just to appear more "manly". A man who treats you the same way when it is just the two of you as when he is with his friends

[Bittu009]

Will you respect a man if all and everything whatever he thinks is for you and you only because he gets the happiness by loving you and you only and doing things for you and caring you unconditionally.

Will you respect a man like that

[quietlyconfident21]

I would think I would yes

[whatsgoingonwithme]

One with a strong, caring, loving, funny, and humble personality. One that can take care of me at my weakest when I need him rather than wanting him to take care of me. I want him to make me laugh and smile at stupid things that will make me remember him anywhere I go.

[derek2017]

That's not even possible I think.. Why so high standards?

[derek2017]

I think some men have all those traits but I don't think they are the loving type... more like the "I'll punish you if you do something wrong" type... you know what im talking about...

[Ashlyn96]

... It's not possible to be a decent human being to your significant other? Her standards aren't too high at all. That's what's wrong with people nowadays, they think that being loving, and genuinely caring about another person is "too high a standard" or "not even possible."

[whatsgoingonwithme]

@derek2017 Honestly, no I don't understand you. Because I like the simplicy in life, and my guy knows that. I don't feel the need to constantly be on my phone to look through other people's life or sit around and cry saying no one likes me cause of how I look and xyz looks like this, how am I ever going to find someone. I think that's stupid. And there's guys that are loving. I really don't get what you mean.

[whatsgoingonwithme]

@Ashlyn96 Thank you hun. It's so hard for people to be genuine because a lot of people use social media and stuff to cover it up with a mask. We've been so used to people wanting things right away that, we don't understand that it takes time. There's just this false idea of things that I will never get man. Smh.

[derek2017]

But you're doing the same thing right now (sitting on your phone and complaining abut other peoples lives) and also no everyone likes me im the most popular guy in my university and im not ugly if you saw me in real life you would be left with your mouth open so please stop making assumptions of others lives and start making your own live, the only reason for hating others is a low self-esteem and you've shown me yours

[derek2017]

@Ashlyn96 no it's just that women want the perfect man and imI not saying he doesn't exist but when you're perfect you also have a high ego and you will definitely be a narcissist so don't expect anyone perfect to ever love you more than he loves himself that's all im trying to say

[whatsgoingonwithme]

@derek2017 Look you are making assumptions here, I don't sit around and complain about this and nor do I have a low self-esteem sweetheart. If you think I would be in awe cause of your looks and popularity well then I'm going to let you be. But the fact of the matter is that you don't know me and I just answered a question that you posted. To me, I don't think, the things that I listed were such a high standard, to me those are what a true value in any person.

[Ashlyn96]

I don't want a "perfect guy" those are all assholes, I agree with you there. I want a guy that's a DECENT HUMAN BEING. Like, standards for everyone in my life are similar. You don't have to look like a male model, shit the only two guys I've been with that were hot as fuck were either psycho or douchebags. I just want a guy with a good sense of humor, not dumb as rocks, that actually genuinely gives a shit about the people he claims to love, that's all. Don't have to be perfect, everyone fucks up now and again. I just don't want a guy that purposely makes the same mistakes over and over just to hurt me. I don't think that's too much to ask.

[Ashlyn96]

I don't expect someone perfect to love me, because no one is perfect by any means. I'm not perfect by a long shot, so I damn sure don't want someone so self-absorbed and stuck so high up their own ass that they think they are perfect. No thanks

[rebecca10127]

I define a "high value" man as someone who knows what they are doing with their lives. Someone who is dedicated and hardworking. But also has good looks and a fit body that they worked towards. They need to be kind, thoughtful, sweet, confident and honest as well.

[estoydorado1]

Achievements & looks in my opinion. I grew up around some trashy influential & wealthy people. I want proof of quality (in their actions, achievements) and looks include more than their God given features to me. Looks include his style, his hygiene, his persona.

[xsaphirafromthesouth]

The way he perceives life, his mindset, how he treats other people ( not only me!!! ), how he's among other women, when he meets his goals and doesn't give up, when he only looks at me, when he treats me like a soulmate and not like some girl he sometimes hooks up with

[Anonymous]

Sure, the external stuff is nice but it usually attracts younger women (21 and under - low economic income - look at that because they physically NEED resources more and guys are willing to offer it to them). But there's a lot of INTERNAL behaviors that make up a "high value" man. Is he thoughtful and considerate? Is he respectful? Well mannered? Supportive? Confident? Self-sufficient? When women get financially self-sufficient, she'll definitely look more closely at these.

[Amandaå123]

Sophisticated. I guess since i come from a rather sophisticated, like my mom WHO raised me is really sophisticated. But I seldom meet any sophisticated men, once i meet Them i just feel safe and home and as we could talk min stop and i would learn something everyday for a lifetime. Good looks on top of that and for me thats an high value man for me.

[Soficiall]

A high value man is someone who.. Tough question. I think I consider someone high value, who has manners and basically knows how to behave in public. Well dressed, well behaved, it doesn't really have much to do with what he has for a job.

[pookybear123]

Ability to be honest and open and vulnerable at times. Sensible with money but also can enjoy it sometimes.
A good work ethic but knows where to draw the line.
Clean and well dressed.
Ability to laugh at himself and pull together when things get tough.
Empathy.
Attractive physically.
Thoughtful and romantic.
Supportive.

[Bluedream13]

Whimsygirl it is a scientic fact. What happens to a pregnant woman or a woman who is pregnant with young children as well, what happens to them of no government (mostly funded by men) or no husband/boyfriend provides them resources? Really think hard from a survival perspective. The mom and her kids will starve or die

[AbdKilani]

I don't
Everyone is great , and have some high value
Humans are awesome
And i don't need to classify anyone , for sure there are some better than the others , but it won't matter
I don't want to sound cocky , but i am a high value man, i have it all , and to add to a great talent in music
BUT , I still never got a date
So value means nothing , TO ME

[VincentLaw]

If everyone is high value then no one is high value lol

[AbdKilani]

@VincentLaw i guess so :)

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[AbdKilani]

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[Ellie-V]

A high value man is a guy who actively pursues his dreams and goals no matter what they may be. Still puts happiness above all and he’s respectful.

[Amanda269]

Following a passion, can talk a lot and deeply with me, going out with me or his friends, can and want to learn me stuff and being economical independent

[MorganYuen727]

I would say how he respect people, is he a hardworker, and most important of all be a nice gentleman that doesn’t have sex with random girls or abuse girls or anyone

[Loverpool]

Well said. You have good values.

[realperson02]

I can guarantee you whatever girls are saying here , they have dated and fucked with totally different guys in the past or maybe still doing it.

[Whimsygirl]

I think wealth and social status rank very highly. More so than looks or personality. Our society is set up so that in order for women to gain access to wealth or status she'll most likely have to marry a man with those privileges.

[Bluedream13]

That ain't just our society thats how nature intended it. Women need resources provided to them to raise kids

[Whimsygirl]

That's not a scientific fact. But it is true for most patriarchal societies

[derek2017]

You can make your own money why do you need men?

[Whimsygirl]

You won't make as much being single as you would in a relationship. Also men traditionally make more. And the most "powerful/ influential" women are usually married to powerful men. And I believe they get more recognition because of thier s/o

[Whimsygirl]

Also I don't need men lol

[Sucram]

You're talking about employees (and even there I won't agree with you). Men are just more likely to take uncomfortable, but well payed jobs.
Selfmade men definitely get wealthy without judgement about their sex. People don't join Facebook because Zuckerberg is a dude, his sex is irrelevant for success of the site. Yet, they're usually selfmade men, not women.

[Whimsygirl]

I'm not sure what you're reading in my response but all I said was women find high value in men with wealth and social status. You also have some heavy assumptions in your rebuttal but I don't have time to educate you.

[derek2017]

That's stupid of course you need men how the fuck are you gonna reproduce, you don't want children? also if you're saying that to trigger someone I dont need women either, im doing nofap so im not interested in sex and other than sex I can't find any other use for you, I mean you're all bad for some reason and you want men to do stuff for you so why would I care about a person who wants something but gives nothing to me in return?

[Whimsygirl]

You specifically asked why do you need men so it's an answer no trigger intended,

[derek2017]

Oh sorry my bad I thought you just said that out of the blue but you were just answering my question I apologize

[Whimsygirl]

No biggie

[jennifer_bloom]

When I first meet a guy, if I'm single - I am attracted to how much love and compassion and admiration and respect I have for him.

[ryryryan]

I think all the girls here are right, and the guys are for the most part wrong😂. Girls really care most about how the guy makes them feel, it's like the opposite of any superficial value, it's the connection most importantly

[AManNamedBran]

There are many traits which make up a high value man and, fortunately, they aren't mutually exclusive. The most "valuable" men have an admirable combination of status, money, good looks, and attitude. However, there is one attribute that can be used to identify instantly a top-quality man. That trait is liking pineapple on pizza.